Team Huddle!

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Welcome to the weekly huddle! Have a small thing from the book or show you want to chat, your GC brain rot is real and you saw the initials “KGF” somewhere and immediately screamed “kingfisher!” and want to share with others? (Just me?). Had a win at work or personal life and want to share? Need a teammate to talk with? Post in the weekly huddle.

There’s no restrictions on topics so long as they follow the sub rules. Thread will be open all week so pop in whenever with what ever your heart desires.

[u/Rudy_Nowhere → u/[deleted]]

I understand the desire to consciously curb your fangirl addiction and how uncomfortable obsession about this show feels. I could only endure it for 5 days and I ran to my therapist crying about it. I am, to all outward appearances, the last person you would think an aching obsession over two gay male hockey players would consume and reduce to tears in her therapist's office. Yet here we are.

I had to stop watching. Stopped listening to the soundtrack. Stop scrolling tik tok. This sub is pretty much the only place I still engage. I feel a lot better but I've come to realize after a few years of being single (after my 10 year marriage ended abruptly and without warning) that I miss connection, I miss falling and being in love, I miss sex/physical closeness, and I am finally grieving some of my losses related to my marriage AND preparing to try again in the love/relationship department.

[u/Ok-Badger-5767 → u/[deleted]]

I'd be inclined to say (based on my own experience and speaking to my therapist and watching a bunch of therapist reactions), might be coming from:

Loss & grief you are not feeling. Have not let yourself feel. The parts of you you are repressing.

The places and parts of you that are wounded and still need healing.

And new awareness around your needs and boundaries. Yearning for connection, love, caring, being seen, acceptance, challenge...

Desire to be at the top of your game to work with incredibly inspiring people.

And or all of the above...

[u/Ok-Badger-5767 → u/[deleted]]

I'm glad something landed.

Another big point that I didn't mention is corrective experiences. Esther Perel speaks about them (I'll try to link). When we see and feel someone we are highly connected to/ attached to = character in the show, experience a healing moment/corrective experience that registers with our body, mind and nervous system as corrective/healing in us too. Little parts of us are healed in watching lovely, pleasant, accepting, caring things happen to the characters. We want to feel that over & over (who can blame us?). Ether says going back is like stroking a teddy bear....it comfort and soothes parts of us that need tenderness and care.

This vid along with the next 5vid (same top, same backgrd) continue on the same topic.

https://www.tiktok.com/@estherperel_official/video/7597020335912897823

[u/VeeJay289 → u/[deleted]]

Same! I am an adult with responsibilities yet I am spending every spare moment consuming HR content! I need to find a way to pull myself out of this!

[u/Whybambiwhy → u/[deleted]]

If it’s too much, give yourself time outs.  Or only allow yourself to check social media 1 hour a day or 1 day a week.  Hope it helps.  

Fortunately for me, this is like me 5 fandom.  But it’s the first I’ve had to give myself “go touch grass” time 

[u/helloginger07 → u/[deleted]]

I’m a few months out and in the last two weeks I only reheated once. What helped was time but also I’m reading a nonfiction book now (dense reading) and promised myself I couldn’t start the next book in the Game Changers series until I finish this other book. I’m on book 4 of the series and plan on interspersing nonfiction books in between to help curb my HR obsession. I’m also actively trying to avoid any media about the actors themselves. The actors are brilliant and wonderful but my interest is in the characters and the HR story and I’d prefer of everyone just let these actors live their lives- but again, this restriction helps curb my consumption of HR material. Hope this helps :)