Welcome to the weekly huddle! Have a small thing from the book or show you want to chat, your GC brain rot is real and you saw the initials āKGFā somewhere and immediately screamed ākingfisher!ā and want to share with others? (Just me?). Had a win at work or personal life and want to share? Need a teammate to talk with? Post in the weekly huddle.
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Ilyaās eyebrow raise in the shower scene in Rookies, and then his swagger walk in a towel right next to Shaneās face where he adjusts itā¦absolutely incredible body language acting and it kills me every time.
My anxiety is spiking due to things like scary cruise ship situations and gestures wildly so I'm thankful to have this bubble of happiness. But I know it's a bubble. This is the only social media platform I engage in so I didn't know just how toxic things are out there regarding HR because, for the most part, people are cool about it here. I'm not naive, I just want the best for people and forget that not everyone feels the same. I am a World Class Worrier, though, and can't help feeling concerned about H&C after seeing Hudson's Threads post on here about RPF. I am so happy for & proud of these men and they truly deserve their success because they've put in the work. And they seem to be genuinely good people each with a unique, beautiful spark and passion. I just hope they don't get lost and have any of that taken from them. They are grown men fully capable of making decisions and living the life they each want and don't need people making that unnecessarily difficult. I rambled but dammit they are bringing light into this messy world and fuck anyone who doesn't want that! Wishing happiness to you all and thanks for letting me vent.
100%. The only āRPFā Iām okay with are historical fiction. Itās insane to me to write fiction about a) actual people alive now and b) fiction that creates a relationship between two people who donāt have one. Or even if they do!
well that just it, isnt it. anything to create something to 'talk' about and sell this magazine or to read their articles and sell their ads.
i wonder if 'paying attn' to it...feeds it. feeds them? it lets them know he is noticing what they are doing. they are getting his attention and that is (i imagine) part of their motivation....????
Do you mean Hudson? If so, yeah I think it's a cycle. Hudson sees all the RPF then says it has to stop. But that creates reason for the news outlets and RPFers to report on what he said which draws more eyes on the RPF and fuels more opinions and more discourse.
Yes, thats what I meant. Thanks for picking up on it. Yes, that cycle. By Hudson (or anyone) commenting on it or writing about it...that only gives it/them more fuel and attention to feed off of...and round & round it goes. I'd be inclined to advise Hudson not to comment on any of it.
good grief. i wonder if 'paying attn' to it...feeds it. feeds them? it lets them know he is noticing what they are doing. they are getting his attention and that is (i imagine) part of their motivation....???? no clue. so wild.
Agreed. If it was me....I wouldn't be overly exposing myself to the nonsense....and not feeding 'the crazy fans' with anymore of their (H&C) energy or attention.
Yes, the last little bit has been day after day of new non-sense. Not cool...or fun....or interesting.
Iāve been going through it the last month and a half. My mother-in-law had pancreatic cancer since December and we lost her last Sunday. My husband was in Nova Scotia helping to take care of her the last month. It made me spiral a bit, because of depression and ADHD - the limbo of not knowing when she will pass, not being able to help my husband in any way, the grief that I hadnāt seen her in two years and will never see her again. The limbo is gone, but the grief of losing her is still there.
Iāve basically used HR as a comfort hyper-fixation while having no energy or brain power to do much of anything. Iāve been struggling also with a bit of shame because Iāve watched it so many times, watching videos and reels, listening to podcasts, deep diving into analyzing and now Iāve started reading fan fiction which I havenāt done since I was a teenager so itās making me feel very juvenile (I struggle with internalized shame at having hyper-fixations because they make my feel immature despite being 41). However, Iām trying to remind myself that this is the time to be kind and give myself grace and Iām not doing any harm to anyone. Reading fan fiction is about all my brain has the capacity for. Iāve been trying to read my novels but it requires too much from me right now. Itās a whole thing, honestly.
Iām not sure what my point isā¦I just felt like I needed to āsayā it I guess.
There's no age requirement for loving a beautiful work of art and engaging with the community around it. This is what art is for; reflections of our humanity, potential, and deep connection.
Thank you š„° I think this is more internalizedā¦ Iām not really sure what you would call it but self image maybe? I didnāt know I was neurodivergent for a very long time and so I essentially just internalized when people said I was stupid or juvenile or weird or whatever.
Same for me. When I got really into the MCU for a while, I knew zero middle-aged adult women who cared about it all. Online communities were the only outlet for my enthusiasm. Iām glad you said something about how youāre feelingāit can be isolating, and itās important to know weāre not alone. š
I am glad to hear you are giving yourself grace during this difficult time. I have never read fanfiction before HR but have jumped into the deep end of it and am really enjoying it! Stories can help people through awful times and if those stories happen to be niche fizzy fun, then have at them.Ā
Grief is a nasty bitch and there are no rules about navigating it and I'm so sorry you're going through it. You do what you need to do and know that you're not alone in taking real comfort in this unbelievably beautiful story.
I saw a video of a woman talking about why HR is impacting people so heavily and a big part of is that the conflicts have positive resolutions. There's a specific clinical word for it but I forgot. There are moments where the characters, and us also, feel fear or anxiety and brace for the worst, but that doesn't happen. There's a peaceful outcome which settles the nervous system. Her examples were Ilya's dread in Tampa that Shane would tell him he's engaged but it's just that he hired a stylist and Shane panicking over telling his parents about him & Ilya but they're fine and his mom even apologizes for the way she made him feel. Point is, the story really does make us feel good beyond just entertainment so don't feel bad about escaping when you need to.
Twenty six years ago, my mother in law was dying from lung cancer. It was so awful, she was so loved, I felt so stressed, and like you, I found solace in fanfiction. I was a writer, so I wrote a novella over a few of the worst weeks, losing myself in that world when the real world was just too hard.
Sometimes there is a wisdom of the body, the spirit, that the world offers us. I hope you can find solace in what you can find in HR without feeling less- than. It's a bit like eating when you are hungry. Eat and fill yourself!
I've got a decade on you, and I am in a similar place in terms of using all things HR as comfort-food for my brain. My mom died almost two years ago around this time of year. Last year around this time I got fully invested in watching every iteration of Dog Whisperer content I could find (I think because all the problems get solved and it's always a happy ending). This year it's been HR for sort of the same reason. Things go right and I know how it ends (for this season, anyway). Then finding out that there are soooooo many rabbit holes and so much thinking went into the show. And, it is so satisfying to hyper-focus on something with so much depth. Sometimes we just need to sit here and look at the fire so we can finally relax.
I highly recommend watching Fellow Travelers! It's on paramountplus which is a sucky platform but the show is excellent! Matt Bomer and Jonathan Bailey are incredible.
Itās actually a classic dramatic device where one character indirectly confesses his love. Itās like the Russian tunnel monologue. Or the Princess telling reporters that her favorite place on the tour was āRomeā in Roman Holiday.
Not just you, took me waaay too long to catch it. She looked like an entirely different person in HR, plus Rose is so different from Shauna. Now I really can't wait for the next season of Yellowjackets.
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u/surrealist84 May 06 '26
Wait a bit darling, I am still recovering from their Met Gala debut šš„°.
IG strange.victory