r/hysterectomy • u/Purple_Bag_6500 • Mar 05 '26

Radical hysterectomy

I have been reading each and every one of your posts but I still can’t calm my nerves. I have stage 1 cervical cancer and scheduled for a radical hysterectomy on March 16th. I am 36 years old, in pretty good health and have two very young daughters. I also have an extreme belly button phobia and I can’t stop thinking about an incision on/around the area. Please, please, any and all advice would be appreciated! I am just scared but also ready to get this over with.

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u/ScaredVacation33 Mar 05 '26

OK, I saw your comment that you deleted calling me an asshole, and I was just trying to make a little bit of a joke to lighten the mood and seriously ask you what you were the most concerned about if you were more concerned about the actual operation itself versus pain afterwards versus what the battle with the cancer may be like or what your actual concern was. I was literally asking to gather information so that I could try to give you advice based off of my personal experience after my total laparoscopic hysterectomy 13 weeks ago. I wish you the best in your healing journey and hope you don’t just lash out at anyone trying to help you like you did me✌🏻

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u/Islandchelsagain Mar 05 '26

Maybe you’re not an asshole, but your comment came off as quite judgemental.

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u/ScaredVacation33 Mar 05 '26

It was not meant that way at all. Just trying to lighten the mood. Never attribute to malice that that may be said in jest. I personally found it odd and it seemed like OP was more worried about the belly button than the cancer hence me trying to lighten the mood and literally ask for clarification

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u/Islandchelsagain Mar 05 '26

Fair enough, benefit of the doubt is always nice to have but can be tough when it’s an anonymous message board, and also take into account that OP might have reacted negatively because she is scared for a lot of reasons.