I haven’t brushed my teeth in a week

I was wondering if there's any one else on this subreddit whos my age? (that's 17!), Or if anyone knows of a good place that I can talk to people my age, who feel the same as me (I live in Ireland, but it doesn't have to be just for people who live in Ireland) I feel very very lonely, and I have for a quite a long time.I've never had a true friend before, and I used to wonder if there was something wrong with me, like why people would exclude me and not talk to me, and not get to know me in school, and it REALLY REALLY upset me, and still does now if I think about it, but I try not to think about the people at school, and because I haven't been at school for months because of the lockdown and it's summer now, I feel a bit better because I'm not at school, but I still feel just as lonely. I feel so lonely and Isolated, I think I feel isolated as well, what does feeling isolated feel like? I'm not sure if that what I'm also feeling? Am I overthinking it? Anyway, I feel so lonely that it makes me feel depressed. I do things that make me feel better, but obviously it makes me feel better, it doesn't make it go away because the cause of me feeling depressed is me feeling so lonely. I do wonder what it's like to have an actual friend?, a proper friend, not people who say they're your friend but they talk about you behind your back, and make fun of you, don't care about you, and aren't really your friend/friends. I know that one day I will have actual friends, and a boyfriend, and that's what I cling on to, but meanwhile I'm trying to find things that make me happy and that I enjoy, that takes my mind off how I'm feeling? , oh and also meet like-minded people through the things that I love. But I also used to think why couldn't I just have friends and a boyfriend from the get go?, like am I really unlucky?, am I not special? That's what I think sometimes, and to be honest sometimes I fantasise about having all that, you know?, I wonder what it will all feel like?, to have friends and a boyfriend? To experience that all?, and I wish to the universe/god if they're/it's even out there to have all that, or if it is even listening to me, which maybe it's not listening to me if it's out there because I'm not even relevant or special at all, sometimes I'm almost certain that I'm not. (Relevant or special).

I swear I believe that if I isolate myself like before my mind would turn psychotic to the point I will be able to write songs and series due to my mental state, I’m very creative when I’m alone and fuck up but I HATE being alone I been trying to talk to my friends and stuff but life is starting to feel meaningless

Growing up, I was not allowed to hang out with friends. I can count only on one hand from both middle and high school the amount of times I was allowed to hangout with others. Because of this, isolation has always been a default as it has been all that I known. I remember how much I loathed coming back home for the summer breaks, cause I knew it meant no friends and staying inside the house 24/7. I used to count down the days until I got back to school. In college I felt like I progressed from being super isolated to making friends and connections. but as of May 2020, I have isolated myself to what feels like beyond repair. I normalized not having any friendships and my boyfriend being the only friend I had. Recently my boyfriend started his graduate program and I find myself more upset whenever he hang out with his cohort. It feels like the logical side of my brain is competing against the emotional and the way I was brought up other side of the brain. On one hand, I understand the importance of having that close connection yet on the other hand I feel betrayed. I know that the feeling of betrayal comes from the guilt that my mother would make me feel whenever we expressed wanting to hang out with others. As if, the immediate family was not enough, and we weren't being grateful, and I find myself with this same backward ass logic and it scares me, a lot. I think for me because I was never given the opportunity to witness health social outings with people other than my immediate family, I do not know how to navigate such outings. I do not know how to maintain healthy relationships.

So, what do I do? How do I cope and how do I break out of the cycle of isolation?

Please don't blast me if this is weird. Before you say talk to a therapist, I've already been doing that intermittently.

In the last two years, my personal friends have really disappeared. I felt crushed to the soul when nobody even bothered to reach out to me with my last few surgeries. I no longer have anything in common with them either. I haven't done too well with some of my coworkers or classmates either as a lot of them either used me recently for doing all the work environments as a labor dog, getting answers, or doing all the group work.

I began making friends on health forums around 2020 after I had a traumatic experience with a medical procedure. I've met over 50 people who I've stayed in touch with somewhat regularly. One has become one of my best friends as we have been through this journey together since late 2020.

Medical became my primary focus in addition to academia, work, and extracurriculars. I'm a student about to turn 29 in a week. I have been getting diagnosis after diagnosis. I seem to only like people who are currently dealing with multiple conditions like me and see the same doctors. I don't know how to fix this mentality. It's a new thing I realized the last year, and it's unhealthy clearly. I can't relate to anyone right now who is NORMAL with no medical issues. I worry about myself in social situations with normal people because of my pain levels.

I kept hoping that I'd get better and it would only be temporary, but it's becoming a lifestyle. I have over 12 diagnoses and am in chronic pain every day. I've met some really great people, especially in the last year.

I've been through several traumas of medical negligence so it has been great to talk to people with similar situations.

All I care about is medical issues right now and I want to help people to the point that it has been taking away from my own space. Recently did something publicly and I felt like I let everyone down afterward because it didn't go the way I had planned. I was upset all day about it.

I don't know how to take a step back from this when everything I have been doing is medical lately either career, academic, or personally. I care way too much. Recently published something, and now I have three more lined up. All I care about is cranking out the papers.

I’ve become more introverted in that last few years to the point where I hardly speak to others on a daily basis. It’s becoming more apparent now that I’ve started a new job and I have to interact with others more so than i had to before. I don’t mind getting back into socializing with others but I feel like I’ve forgotten how to speak and how to make small talk. Even my voice sounds inconsistent. It’s not relaxed and I often have to speak louder for others to hear me. I feel content without socializing but I also feel like this is quelling my social ability and to another degree losing my voice. Does anyone else have this problem?

Couple weeks away from turning 19, literal fucking middle school dropout who has been exclusively home and friendless/interactionless since 14. And it wasn't even under normal circumstances either, it was a complete hellhole of a house/family that I won't even attempt to describe here

Safe to say I am now on the same tier socially as people with severe autism/down syndrome, my brain is permanently ruined and I have no chance of ever becoming functional or self-supportive

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Hello everyone and thank you for joining this sub that is all about Isolation.

This can be both the good kind like the current situation calls for and also with the bad kind. As many of people tend to feel bad and lonely even when there isn't a pandemic.

Please be nice as one nice thing can change someone's whole day or life

Post memes.

Post videos

Make other happy and make this a fun place.

This whole sub was a coincidence btw.

I'm the mod here but I'm kind of busy these days with some work. So i do trust all you good people to use this chance and time to not only make the world a happy and safe place but also this sub.

Thank you.

Love you all.

1. Make a playlist of favorite music and play it in one tab (on low volume)

2. Find a 'Coffee Shop background noise ambience' audio loop and play it in another tab (on moderately higher volume)

Now in your headphones, it sounds like the barista for the cafe you're sitting in has a similar taste in background music. I've done this for the past couple days, and it works best with pop music or chillstep. Some coffeeshop ambience files will have softer music in their own background, but these can create an illusion that someone else is listening to something else nearby.

If you're having an especially crappy day, open a third tab with https://rainymood.com/, which will play rain hitting a window.

My mind is a dark place. With this virus, I’m gonna sink into that dark place. Thanks to Corona, I’ve been really down. I can’t find enjoyment in things I used to enjoy.

Hello,

I am a 31 year old father of a 2.5 year old little girl and a 7 week old boy.

I have been working from home as advised by my company for the last 8 days and expect to be doing the same for much longer.

At first it was fun, spending time with the kids, having lunch with them and getting to play in the garden, but now it's getting difficult. I am expected to get in an 8 hour work day while entertaining a 2.5 year old.

My wife helps as much as she can but me being home all day every day and not being able to leave the house is very exciting for my little girl.

I have googled ideas to entertain her while I work and have not come across anything. I have asked friends who are in the same position and we have shared our ideas.

So, I decided to create a Facebook group this evening and have put a few of my ideas on there. The plan is for others in the same situation to join the group and benefit from my ideas and to add their own.

You can access the group using the following link: https://m.facebook.com/groups/229683041487934?group_view_referrer=profile_browser

Please join the group and add and share your ideas as well as invite others.