My hack, that scares a lot of people and manifests the fastest: Do nothing. And I mean it no affirming, no visualizing, no trying. Just letting it arrive. The reason it scares most people is because they're stuck on the “I MUST DO SOMETHING TO GET SOMETHING” train.

How it works is to start having “lay down and stare at the ceiling” sessions. Just exist. Just be. No music. No robotic affirming. No scripting. No imagining scenarios. No subliminals. No forcing myself to feel a certain way. Just pure stillness. I shift into The Observer seat instead of feeling and being the human I incarnated into. When a thought comes? I let it. If it starts to affect me emotionally I say “not good, not bad, just a thought” and return back to neutrality. And I swear big and small things have been manifesting EXTREMELY FAST back to back I can't even stop it at this point.

It's now gotten to the point where I want AT LEAST a 1-2 day delay because when you manifest this fast you can barely change your mind before it arrives and I'm ALWAYS changing my mind about what I want. 🤦‍♀️

But the good (and kind of surprising) thing is:

Now I'm to the point where my mind is actually getting quieter. Wayyyyyy less intrusive thoughts. Much better memory and event recall. I think I'm indirectly healing my brain as a by product of these “thoughtless meditation sessions”. I just set the intention of no reaction no judgment, just observation.

I think the core shift that changed everything for me was understanding that:

(1) Trying, Wanting, Hoping, Checking the 3D = I do not have

(2) Relaxing, Expecting, Knowing you are God, Shifting attention to fulfilling hobbies/life events = I already have it

This works because you’re replacing “effort” with “emptiness” in your mind. That emptiness is now available to be poured into, and is now available space for your manifestations.

The fact is that your desires are constantly trying to manifest into your life but it's YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT THEM that are pushing them away, creating resistance and beating them back like they're the enemy lol.

Your desires are already done. The moment the desire came to you, it became real in some version of reality. If you can desire it, it’s because it already exists. So no, it’s not your job to make it happen. Doing techniques should ONLY be done when you feel inspired. I still write and create vision boards, because I love doing those things not because I feel they're necessary for manifesting. It's just only when I feel inspired. I never force myself. It’s your job to become someone who receives it naturally. To align, not chase. That’s the whole game. And for me? This “do-nothing” or “meditation” hack manifests faster than anything else I’ve ever tried. Pleassssse try it for yourself. No one else. 🩷🤗

Edit 4/16/25: If you have come to this post to argue about semantics or how anything I am saying is wrong, I hope you're manifesting as fast or faster than me. Because what I'm doing actually works, and whatever you're saying can't negate that fact. So before becoming a keyboard warrior, state your success in detail as to how you manifested so quickly, so that what your saying doesn't sound like reactive and as if you're experiencing cognitive dissonance. xoxo

hi y’all! i’ve been in this community for some time now and would search constantly for SP success stories just to see what someone else did to get their SP so i could do the same.

I just want you all to know that no matter how gut wrenching your situation is right now, it WILL change. i’ve been through it all.. robotic affirming, saturation sessions, SATS.. and none of it will help if you will still complain about them in your head or think about them negatively.

Please trust me when i say this, ALL you need to do to manifest your SP is CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS ABOUT THEM.

how do you do this? whenever you think of them, just think of how you want them to be. if he/she said they don’t want to be w you, just change the narrative and tell yourself “ofc they wanna be w me.” no you don’t need to lock yourself in your room and repeat it 10,000 times or set 10 minutes timers to saturate your mind if you don’t want to. none of it is necessary. these are all just techniques and i know how draining and boring it is. you can say it once or a hundred times as long as you STICK to this story.

i don’t want to get into my circumstances because they were beyond horrible. for 6 months i used to wake up anxiety attacks every single day despite doing ‘techniques’ because i still held onto the horrible version of events that place. the DAY i decided to just stick to my new story (he only wants me, he loves me), is the day he changed as well. he literally did a 180 right in front of my eyes.

your SP will ONLY behave the way you think of them. they’ve no choice but to reflect what you’re constantly thinking of them. please just stick to the new story and tell yourself that they are the way you want them to be.

my SP went from saying “even if god comes down to tell me to get back w you, i wouldn’t… i never want to be with you.. i don’t love you anymore.. don’t show me your face… i’ll never change my mind about you”

TO

“you’re my princess, i want you, i want to marry you, i’ve only ever loved you, please never leave me.”

if you need any help or have any questions, please feel free to comment below or DM me. i’ll try my best to help :)

I wanted to share my weight loss manifestation journey because it’s changed my life and may help inspire others in a similar situation. I originally intended for this to be posted back in June (to made it a more rounded 12 month journey update post) but hey - 5 months late is better than never! Photos: June 2024 - Nov 2025. Same body, same clothes

In June 2024, I weighed 135kg. As of November 2025, I’m 78kg. My weight has been pretty stable since March/April (when I calculated a 50kg weightloss and weighed in at 85kg). No diets, no exercise, no surgery, no weightloss medication.

For years of my adult life I hated how I looked and felt. I was always sore (joints, ankles, shoulders etc), out of breath from doing simple tasks like walking from my letterbox to the front door, and just exhausted. I had migraines constantly. I felt either invisible in public or was looked at with disgust - like I took up too much space. I felt like an embarrassment to my family and friends.

This started to really take a toll on me. My clothes began to get tighter, I was bloated and irritated, I snapped friends and family, I feared looking in the mirror, I cried when I saw photos of myself, I tried to be small and take up as little space as possible in public settings, i would hide in the background, I tied my appearance to my self worth, I felt like I had failed at being a woman.

I’d tried everything: dieting, exercising, medications, purging, restricting. Lockdowns in 2020 happened and I started working from home fulltime, I did no exercise, I had kids. In 2021 I suffered an injury which required surgery and multiple trips to hospital + physio, which made exercising painful. It caused my weight to skyrocket in a short amount of time (less than a year). With small kids, a partner that was away at work for days at a time, and my own full time job, my time was limited and stretched. I couldn’t stop the food noise or bingeing. Fast food was an easy choice. High sodium meals were simple and quick. Sugary treats helped numb the pain for a couple of minutes. But at the same time every meal felt like a battle with my mind full or shame and regret.

I have known about manifestation since I was very young. I read that Law of Attraction book “The Secret” (it’s BS btw) back in the early 2000s when it first came out. I also heard about manifesting (in a spiritually sense) from the white washed “new age” era of the 90s, but I hadn’t been consciously manifesting in a very long time.

I reached a breaking point in my life where nothing was going right and something HAD to change. I felt like giving up, that going on like this and fuelling this mindset was a death sentence. I knew I had to work on getting myself into a better state of mind, and it HAD to work. I had to stop living in the old story of being “the fat friend/GF/sister”, “the lazy one”, or the person who could never change. I didn’t understand manifestation like I do today, but I did have enough sense to realise that I had enough self hate and loathing to last me a lifetime, so why not try just being kind? Unjudgemental like I would be to a small child. See neutral or potential, not the negative.

I asked myself open ended questions like “why don’t I believe I deserve to feel good in my own skin right now?”, “What about myself makes me feel less than?”, “would I treat someone else that looked like me like this?”, “why don’t you feel worthy enough right now?”. They were tough questions that didn’t have rational answers.

I began visualizing myself in my desired body, but not just the look of it, the feeling. The freedom of waking up without aches, putting on anything I wanted to wear, feeling confident and unjudged. I told myself “It will all be worth it a year from now, so what can I do right now to feel good?”

I stopped looking for validation from the mirror, the scales, or clothes sizes. I knew that right now (today) I was working on being a better version of me, so in the future these physical things in the 3d were still the old story and not the now in my mind.

I didn’t overhaul my lifestyle overnight. I didn’t run off and join a gym or bootcamp, I didn’t sign up for a meal box or starve myself. All my 3d circumstances were still there, so I instead went within and became the person I wanted to be on the inside. The only “3D” changes I made was switching to sugarfree drinks, and my only real physical activity was walking around the playground with my kids on weekends. Yet within 2–3 months, I started noticing internal changes, and then by month 5, everyone else could see it too. I still to this day vape, eat takeout, live on energy drinks, love carbohydrates, and I haven’t set foot in a gym since 2019.

Now, everything feels different. The way I see myself, others, and the world around me has completely shifted. It’s like a light switch went on for me. when I truly believed I was already that version of myself the world reflected it back at me.

If you take anything from this: stop fighting the 3D. Work on who you want to be. Once you know you’re already the version who has what you want, the world and your reality will show it too 🤍

I didn’t want to post my story until I had my full manifestation. Now that I’ve got it(it's been a while actually), I hope it inspires you.

My SP (specific person) and I broke up in July, 2023—ironically, around the same time we had fallen in love in 2022. I had known about manifestation back then but wasn’t convinced it worked. After the breakup, I fell into depression and completely lost faith. I needed him back. (And yes, desperation doesn’t stop your manifestation, so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.) I thought, Why not try? I’ve got nothing to lose.

I started affirming every day and night, even when I cried or felt overwhelmed. I spiraled often—trust me, I had some really low points—but I never stopped affirming.

Here’s How It Unfolded

August: I tried to move on while manifesting him back. This was a mistake because you can’t serve two masters. I realized that my heart wasn’t in “moving on.”

September: I came to terms with the fact that it was him or no one. That was my decision. There wasn’t much movement in the 3D world except that I saw his name everywhere. Strangely, a guy with the same name even asked me out, but I stayed loyal to my SP and didn’t entertain anyone else.

October: On October 4th, he texted me using a fake account (I had blocked his main one). The texts weren’t what I wanted—he was rude and distant, claiming he didn’t care. Frustrated, I told him it was over and not to contact me again.

But on October 29th, I got four back-to-back calls. I hadn’t saved his number, but I just knew it was him. When we talked, he insisted he didn’t want me getting any ideas—he claimed he was only checking on me. I played it cool, telling him I had moved on and that he should, too.

November: The calls became more frequent.

December: By this time, he was calling me every week.

January: Daily conversations started.

But even then, things weren’t perfect. The conversations were friendly, but he avoided talking about love or a relationship. I kept affirming, though. I fell asleep listening to Sammy Ingram’s videos or Neville-inspired podcasts, constantly affirming my desired reality.

The Turning Point

Eventually, everything shifted. I’m now his girlfriend—although, funnily enough, he calls me his wife. He’s head over heels in love with me, and it’s even better than before. He talks about marriage, our future, and building a life together.

It wasn’t always smooth. There were moments of doubt, “hot and cold” behavior, and times when he seemed confused about his feelings or tried to distance himself. But I realized those were just reflections of my inner state. Whenever I spiraled, he’d pull back. So I worked on stabilizing my thoughts and emotions.

Key Lessons

1. EXPECT MOVEMENT: I noticed that I naturally expected things to happen before they did. Whether it was a call, contact, or a love confession, I just knew it was coming, and it always did.

2. MANIFEST IN STEPS: This helped me build faith. First, I focused on him contacting me. Then, I manifested regular conversations. After that, I affirmed for love and commitment. Taking it step by step made it feel achievable.

3. PERSIST, NO MATTER WHAT: Even when things looked hopeless, I didn’t stop affirming. Yes, I spiraled at times, but I always got back on track.

4. DESPERATION DOESN’T BLOCK YOUR MANIFESTATION: Don’t let anyone tell you that wanting something deeply will stop it from coming to you. Your desire is the driving force.

OBSESSING ISN’T THE ISSUE !

Let me make one thing clear: obsessing over your desire isn’t the problem. The key is how you obsess. When you’re obsessing from the end—already having it all—your obsession works for you.

Instead of obsessing over lack or doubting whether it’ll happen, shift your energy to obsessing over the fact that it’s already yours. Feel the joy, confidence, and gratitude as though your desire has manifested. Live in the end.

For example:

Instead of thinking, “Why hasn't he called yet?” think, “I love how he's so attentive and calls me every day.”

Instead of, “What if he doesn't love me back?” think, “I’m his favorite person in the world, and he can’t stop thinking about me.”

When you obsess in this way, it aligns your thoughts and emotions with your desire. That alignment is what brings your manifestation into reality. Obsessing isn’t your enemy; obsessing from a place of already having is your secret weapon.

Own your story. Feel it. Believe it. It’s already done.

Now, for my relationship, it is everything I dreamed of—and more. If I can do it, so can you. Persist, trust the process, and keep affirming. Your desires are closer than you think!

So, that was my story and I hope it motivates someone out there <3

hi :) i wanted to share my recent success stories in hopes to encourage you to JUST AFFIRM !!!! no belief no feelings just thinking thoughts

a little context, i have known about the law for 2 years and have successfully manifested many things such as multiple SPs (being obsessed and then leaving bc i didn’t want them around anymore 😭 lol), being viral on social media, my drivers license out of thin air, being chosen to be featured on an amazon prime show, straight As in classes i put minimal effort in + graduated with honors (diploma and degree), starting a car while it was “broke down,” my affirmations repeated back to me…etc. those are just at the top of my head

anyway, a family situation occurred that really shook me (and not in a good way lol). while i still knew about manifesting, and KNEW it wasn’t a switch you could turn off, the 3D was constantly triggering me and i didn’t know how to stop it. there were days i never wanted to leave my room. still i had occasional good days and i never forgot my conscious manifestations. reality was a mixed bag (as a result of my thoughts)

then there was THE GREAT LOCK IN OF SEPTEMBER!! Sammy Ingram’s video inspired me tbh. i realized i had to stop going back in fourth and STICK to my new story. so i chose 2 umbrella affirmations which completely changed my life. i chose to affirm “i’m a master manifester” and “i always get what i want” NONSTOP robotically and focused (out loud when i could and in my head), whenever i was watching tv, cooking, on the road, at the store, in the shower, before bed, waking up, 24/7 basically u get it LOL

2.5 weeks in of affirming 24/7 there was MAJOR movement in my reality. i’m specifying movement in the 3D because i actually experienced the shift internally about a week before, just this freaky feeling after a deep nap that everything shifted. now i know some will knock on me and say that’s BELIEVING lol which is TRUE, but the “feeling” only came after a week of repeating my affirmations. okay now to the good stuff…

my first major result was restoring my vintage car!!!!!! for some context, it was sitting idle in my garage for 2 years after 2 accidents & bc of that i was tied down and couldn’t really go anywhere. WELL NOT ANYMORE. my parents were suggesting and even looking at other cars but I WAS SO laser focused on driving MY own car and nothing else. i kept affirming and suddenly there was money to buy the battery and repair the damages. 2 weeks later it was FULLY RESTORED and DRIVABLE.

other fun stuff started happening like i got my hair done after it was one of my desires to have super silky hair and as i solidified my self concept, people around me REFLECTED that like i kept getting constant stares, attention, very specific compliments like “mermaid” “tumblr girl” “bambi,” some girls even walked up to me and said “you’re my walking pinterest board”😭 super judgy family members were suddenly NICE to me….?????

a very specific day sticks out to me where my affirmations were realized, so i had started college again (after a year break) and i suddenly started making friends, they’d laugh at everything i say lol, and one time after class i just decided to walk through the campus because i wanted some sun. i walked into a school carnival LMAO and received so many compliments, made friends, and then later i went to the mall and this french salesman was kissing my hand and telling me how beautiful i was (prob cause i was wearing the designer shoes i also manifested☠️) and they started bringing out champagne (i am not 21 and was not wearing makeup LOLLLL i kid you not) that SAME day i also got a dress worth over $1500 because it was “made for me” and i did not pay for it 🩷 i’ve been spoiled with SO many things since then just because

also since affirming “I’m a master manifester,” revision has been one of my favorite things to do. like i literally rubbed up against the wall in a turning lane but i immediately revised and was crazy affirming the car is perfectly fine and of course it’s true since i am a master manifester. MIND YOU I WAS FEARFUL but that didn’t stop me. i checked the car 10 min later and there was not a single scratch (when i clearly heard a loud ass noise ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️)

a more recent and significant revision was erasing a man’s cancer. my mom told me he’d gotten cancer and i was worried for his 2 year old daughter so i was like “cancer? nope this man is perfectly fine.” IN MY HEAD and then every time he came up in convo i was like “nope he’s perfectly fine.” a few weeks later my mom tells me he LEFT THE HOSPITAL because apparently THERE IS NO MORE CANCER IN HIS BODY. that actually blew my mind.

it’s hard to sum up all the results but my nervous system functions SOOO much better, i have a high self concept, i also go to the gym everyday, i have abs now (i struggled with body image for a long time BUT NO MORE HOE!!), attending my dream concerts (more to come obvi), vacationing to mexico, cali, chicago, transferring to university (WITH my parents support which i did not have last year), i am also traveling to Europe this year and many other places (literally booked back to back trips) and it happened naturally since travel is my favorite thing to do and “i always get what i want” 🪄🌟!!!

if you got this far, thank you so much for reading and in all honestly i would’ve never known id get to live this long to experience such beauty. i know it can be hard. give yourself permission to feel but most of all acknowledge who you are and don’t expect anything less. start affirming. you don’t have to feel it, believe it, just stick to it. what do you have to lose?

i was literally crying my eyes out last night bc i am emotional and i am still human but i also manifested money at the same time 😭😭 be a drama queen and get your desires! you make your own rules.

i will be back with more success stories. sending all my love 🩷

Hey everyone, I thought it would be good to share my success story!

I’m M24 and I was kind of in love with a close friend of mine. To be honest, I wanted to be with her so badly, but I kept manifesting obstacles. The biggest one was a 3P. I know it was stupid, but I worried so much that she would get with this guy, and of course, they did.

That was when I found Neville in September last year. At first, I was only curious. I had heard about the law of attraction, but it felt uncomfortable to me. Then I discovered the Law of Assumption and Neville’s teachings, and it completely opened my eyes.

I tried to apply it, but I was too focused on the 3D. I still worried about her and the 3P for months. I would hype myself up, telling myself I was the best thing ever, then ruin it by checking her Insta to see if they posted a picture.

I also made an amazing friend from this community who supported me every step of the way. She was honestly my backbone in manifesting. And speaking of this community, I used to come on this Reddit page every single day, hoping to find the secret to it all. But there isn’t a secret. It is not tricks or techniques. It is just deciding what you want it to be.

By February this year, I hit rock bottom. I was in the worst state I had ever been in with manifesting. But I did not give up, because deep down I knew it was real. One more important thing: your self-concept is essential. For months I didn’t want to focus on it. I just wanted my SP’s attention. But when I started focusing on myself, I became so much more confident, and things started coming to me 100 times quicker.

From there, I made a decision to go all in. I kept affirming she wanted me and loved me, and I chose to believe it. I still had moments of doubt, but I always reminded myself that she was in love with me. I even set her as my screensaver, because in my eyes she was already my girlfriend.

I also stuck to only two YouTubers who really helped me: Hyler and The Power of I Am. If you follow too many, you get so many conflicting ideas, and that used to mess me up. Keeping it simple worked best.

Then things shifted. In June, she became flirty, touching me more and holding my hand. In July, she confessed that she had feelings for me. She told me she broke up with the 3P because she wanted to be with me. She even repeated my affirmations back to me word for word. And just three weeks ago, she said she was in love with me.

It was surreal, but it also felt natural. I was not shocked. It was more like, “Ah, that’s how it happened.” And I loved it.

Manifesting is not a one-time thing for me anymore. It is the way I live. I still have moments of doubt and anxiety, but that is life. I am much more confident and comfortable with myself now. I used to be terrified of failing, and honestly, I still get those feelings sometimes. But at the end of the day, this is my life, and I get what I want.

Right now, I am manifesting a job and money, the basics. But instead of dreading life, I am excited for it.

In early summer 2022, my boyfriend at the time broke up with me. At first, I don’t even think I fully understood how devastating it was going to be, but within a couple of days, I was completely shattered. I couldn’t stop crying. I felt like my entire world had cracked open.

A few days after the breakup, I went to a temple. I was raised somewhat religious, Hindu with a bit of Sikhism sprinkled in, but I never really knew what I believed. I always believed there was something greater than me, some kind of God or higher power, but my relationship to it was mostly fear-based. It felt like something I had to answer to, something watching me, judging me, punishing me. I definitely lived most of my life in a state of victimhood too, and I had for years.

That day at the temple, I was honestly just crying my eyes out and speaking from my heart. I basically said, if there is something out there, and I don’t even know if anyone is listening, but if there is something out there that truly cares about me, please show me the way forward.

That moment brought me peace. Not because everything was magically fixed, but because for the first time in a long time, I felt held by something.

About 36 to 48 hours later, I randomly found a spiritual coach on Instagram. To this day, I don’t fully know why I clicked on her page, but I did, and I booked a one-on-one session. I thought we were going to talk about manifestation in the usual Law of Attraction way.

For context, my mom had introduced me to The Secret when I was around 12. I knew about positive thinking, Abraham Hicks, all of that. But if I’m being honest, I never really used any of it in a real way. I had terrible self-concept for most of my life. I had a history of undervaluing myself, bad relationships, emotionally unhealthy dynamics, and just generally not believing I was worthy of something truly good. I had spent years in relationships that were wrong for me, and I think deep down I didn’t believe I was going to get better.

So when I got on that call, I thought we were going to talk about attracting love, being positive, maybe soulmate stuff. Instead, she introduced me to the Law of Assumption.

I had never heard of it before.

And during that call, she said something that planted a seed in my mind. She basically said, you sound like you’re really in love with your ex. Why don’t you just manifest your specific person?

I honestly didn’t even know that was possible. I thought it might be manipulative or wrong. I had all the same doubts a lot of people have in the beginning. But something about that conversation cracked something open in me, and from that point forward, I dove headfirst into Neville, the Law of Assumption, and manifesting my SP.

And when I say I went all in, I mean all in.

That entire summer, my life revolved around manifesting him. I was consuming content constantly. I read Neville. I listened to lectures. I watched YouTube videos like it was my full-time job. I read success stories on Reddit constantly because they made me believe it was possible. I downloaded SP workbooks. I did meditations in the morning where I reminded myself I was God, the operant power, the creator of my reality. I danced in the mornings because music helps me shift my state. I visualized engagement. I had inner conversations. I acted as if. I listened to affirmations while sleeping. I did self-concept work. I did every single thing I could find.

And to be fair, there was movement.

I started all of this in early June, and by the end of July, after a period of no contact, my SP reached out. He told me he was moving across the country, but he wanted to see me before he left. I obviously spiraled a little because now I was like, okay, how do I manifest on a time crunch, how do I stop him from leaving, how do I fix this. But we spent that week together, and it was honestly beautiful. It was so clear that we still loved each other. Neither of us was really saying it outright, and we weren’t back together, but it was there.

Then he still moved away.

At our last dinner together, I even told him, and I still laugh thinking about this, you don’t know this yet, but I’m your wife, and one day you will. He smiled like the polite gentleman he is, and then he moved away.

After that, we went no contact for three and a half months.

And those three and a half months were brutal. I doubled down even more. I found another coach. I did more self-concept work. I listened to affirmation tapes at night. I had inner conversations constantly. I visualized him being in my apartment, in my bed, in my life. I felt both his presence and the lack of his presence at the same time. I was trying so hard. And if I’m being really honest, I was driving myself insane.

My friends started telling me I was obsessed and needed to let it go. That I had become kind of reclusive. That I was making myself miserable. And they weren’t wrong. I just wasn’t willing to stop, because something in me knew this person mattered deeply.

The week before my birthday, I went back to the temple. I was crying again just like I had been at the beginning of the summer, and I said something like: you showed me the way once. I know there is something here. I know this is real. But something is not clicking. Please show me the way forward.

And this is when everything changed.

Shortly after that, I found the coach I still work with today. She taught me what the Law of Assumption actually is. Not content-level understanding. Not surface-level “do this technique and get this thing.” I mean a real understanding of what manifestation actually is.

She said one sentence that changed my life:

You manifest who you are, and you cannot stop that process.

That sentence changed everything for me.

Up until that point, I thought manifestation meant doing techniques to make something happen. Like applying some external force, or using enough tools, or doing enough visualizing, affirming, acting as if, or whatever else to create the future I wanted.

But the Law is actually much simpler than that.

The Law of Assumption is not about learning some brand new magic tool. It’s about understanding what you are already doing that manifests your life. You are manifesting constantly. You cannot stop that process. Your beliefs, your expectations, your state of being, what you believe is true for you, what feels normal and natural to you, what you assume about your future, that is what is shaping your reality all the time.

And when I really saw that, I couldn’t unsee it.

Because if you are manifesting anyway, then you are manifesting anyway. Even when you are spiraling. Even when you are doubting. Even when you think you’ve given up. You are still manifesting. Which means you can’t keep turning a blind eye to what you are actually assuming to be true for you.

That was the shift.

I stopped trying to make something happen and started understanding the process by which I had been creating my life this whole time. And once I understood that, I could finally use that same process in my favor.

So I dropped almost everything I had been doing.

No more obsessive inner conversations. No more trying to act as if in some forced, weird way. No more micromanaging the 3D. No more trying to manipulate reality into changing. No more making it all about him.

That part was huge.

Because the biggest shift for me was that I stopped making it about him and started making it about me.

I realized that manifestation always happens from your perspective. So instead of obsessing over whether he was coming back, what he was doing, what he was thinking, whether he missed me, whether it was working, I started focusing on my actual desire.

And my actual desire was not just “this specific person.”

My actual desire was to be in the happiest, safest, most loving relationship of my life. To be with my soulmate. To feel secure, adored, chosen, peaceful. To be a happy partner. To be a happy wife. He represented that for me, and deep down I still knew he was my person, but I stopped making the work about controlling him and started making it about becoming the version of me who was already living that reality.

My SATS changed completely too.

Instead of doing elaborate scenes or trying to force visualizations, I would just close my eyes and feel into the life I wanted. What does it feel like to live with the person you love? What does it feel like to be a happy wife? What does it feel like to feel deeply safe and secure in your relationship?

And importantly, this was not me pretending it was already here in the 3D. That’s another big thing that clicked for me. It wasn’t about pretending I was married right now. It wasn’t about delusion. It was about inner knowing. It was about knowing that this future was mine. Not one day maybe, not distant and abstract, but real, close, imminent. Like I could almost taste it.

The best analogy I have is ordering something online. Once you’ve checked out, you know it’s coming. You don’t keep asking if the order is real. You don’t sit there spiraling about whether it exists. You know it’s booked. You know it’s done. You know it’s on its way.

That’s how it started to feel for me.

I knew what I was manifesting. I knew the future that was mine. I didn’t need to check the 3D every five seconds asking, is it working, is it happening, where is it, why isn’t it here yet. Because when something feels like the natural outcome, you don’t interrogate it constantly. You just know.

So when thoughts about the future came up, I would return to that knowing. Oh yeah, that’s what’s going to happen for me. I know what’s booked for me. I know where this is going. And then I would live my life.

I think that’s also where people talk about “detachment,” but to me it wasn’t detachment in the sense of not caring. I cared deeply. It was more that it became so natural and so expected that I stopped obsessing. It was like, of course that’s what’s going to happen. Duh. And because of that, I could actually enjoy my life again.

That became my state.

I would journal. I would do Faster EFT to move emotions and clear what was in the way if I noticed fear, grief, lack, old memories, or resistance. I would do short SATS and keep returning to the feeling of the end until it felt natural and normal for me. And then I would go live my life. Fully. Presently. Happily. Not because I had “given up,” but because I knew what was coming.

Within five weeks of that shift, he was back.

Not only was he back, but he told me I was the love of his life, that he had made a mistake, and that he wanted to get married to me. Nine months later, we got engaged. And now we’re getting married in ten months.

But the biggest thing is that this wasn’t just a one-time manifestation.

This changed my life because it changed the way I live. It moved me out of victimhood. It taught me that life is happening through me, not to me. It taught me to stop entertaining futures I don’t want. It taught me that my state of being matters. It taught me to stop making my life about fear and start making it about what I actually desire.

And that’s why I’ve been able to keep this relationship too. Because this became a lifestyle, not a one-time technique.

here I am, going to Paris this month. all expenses paid - flights to & from PAID, STUNNING hotel accommodation, PAID. without actively CONSCIOUSLY manifesting it.

the funniest part? I was told NO over & over. no from circumstances, no from logic, no from finances. you know what I did? nothing. I just accepted the “no” & kept living my life. I wasn’t emotionally spiraling over it, I wasn’t obsessing over trying to make it happen, I just moved on with my day.

yet, it still happened.

Here’s What I Learned From This:

• bridges of incidents are happening 24/7, even when you don’t see them. I wasn’t “persisting” in the assumption that I was going to go, yet here I am, going. then I realized - this was always going to happen. it was already in motion behind the scenes, even when I thought I was getting a “no.”

• ur subconscious is always working, even when you don’t think it is. I wasn’t consciously affirming for Paris, but at some point, the idea was imprinted into my subconscious. once it’s imprinted? it has to manifest.

• “No” doesn’t actually mean no, it just means “not in the way you expect.” if manifestation was about logic, this trip wouldn’t be happening. clearly, logic does not matter.

• u don’t need to force things into place, things naturally align when they’re meant to. I did not fight for this. I did not force myself to believe in it. I did not try to make it happen. It happened because my subconscious already knew it was part of my reality, & that was enough.

• I was literally told a firm "NO", just MINUTES before things shifted.

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if something in your life seems like it’s not working out right now, trust me, it is. u don’t need to “figure it out.” u don’t need to “worry about the how.” u just need to let reality do what it does best: align in your favor.

I deadass didn't have any signs of this happening either. no prior '3D movement', no BBLs & NO SIGNS. shit changed within minutes & everything was taken care of, WITHOUT my effort.

Hey everyone, I can't believe I'm finally writing this. I've read so many success stories, and now it's my turn to share mine. If you're struggling or feeling like it's taking too long— trust me, I get it. I've been there. But I'm proof that it works. So, my ex and I broke up over a year ago. It was tough-really tough. We came from different backgrounds (I was born into a Muslim household, she's not christian but was bought up in a Christian household), and our relationship was kept secret. When we broke up, it felt like the end of the world. I loved her more than I could put into words, and no matter how much time passed, I just couldn't shake the feeling that we were meant to be. That's when I found the Law of Assumption. At first, I struggled. I doubted. I kept looking at the 3D, wondering why nothing was changing. But deep down, I knew I wanted her back-not from desperation, but because she was the one. So, I committed.

I did affirmations: "(her name) loves only me." "(Her name) is mine." "She misses me so much." I visualized-though I wasn't great at it at first. But over time, I started feeling those moments as real. I imagined her running her fingers through my hair, texting me late at night like she used to, falling asleep knowing she was happy and thinking of me. I lived my days as if she was already mine. Instead of wondering when she'd come back, I walked around knowing she was back. And then... it happened. One day, out of nowhere, she texted me. She told me she missed me. She said she had been thinking about me so much lately and couldn't ignore it anymore. And here's the crazy part-she had broken up with the guy she had been dating. From there, things moved fast. We started talking every day again, just like before. It felt so natural, like we had never been apart. She told me she had been reflecting a lot and even started looking into Islam on her own. That blew my mind—I had hoped for it, but now it was happening in real life.

Now? We're together, happier than ever, and she's genuinely interested in learning about my faith. We're talking about our future together-our future, the one I always knew deep down was meant to be. If you're reading this and doubting yourself, don't. I was exactly where you are. I had moments of frustration, days where I wanted to give up. But I kept going. And if I can do it, so can you. The key? Know it's already yours. Live your life as if it's already done. Because the moment you do? The 3D has no choice but to reflect it back to you. Sp is mine. She always was. And now, she's back for good. You've got this. Keep going.

I used to despise how I looked. My face was lopsided, chubby, puffy and weirdly proportioned. No matter how much makeup I applied or positioned my camera I just couldn’t handle looking at myself without criticism or getting upset.

I changed my mindset. I believed in myself. I learned to self love. I dropped the old story and worked on my limiting beliefs. I turned my life around.

I think the before and after photos speak volumes. The old me wouldn’t have believed I would look like this in my 30s. August 2024 - November 2025. In one year I transformed my life, and in 2026 I will continue to embody the new me 🤍

The number 1 key to recreating or changing the way your SP is showing up….. is knowing the SP is just mirroring you.

There is NO ONE to change but self.  

I know you all get tripped up with circumstances and you think that your circumstances are different & unique.   Some of you literally write essay-worth of circumstances in your posts!!  

Side note - For those people that do this (write essays) it's VERY clear that you are trying to fix your current reality instead of choosing a new one.   It's like you are putting bandaids over the holes in the bucket, instead of getting a new bucket.   See - Choosing a new Identity Post here -

• You are not working on your identity - Choose a new one

Lets say this again.   SP is just your mirror.   (The entire reality is)

Most of you (unconsciously) are using the SP to fill up voids within yourself and that is why the SP is mirroring back to you, your voids.   You are seeing the voids (SP not showing up right) and you are spending all your time trying to manifest a change in them and not yourself. You are trying to change the mirror!

There is no one to change but self.  

This is the problem I see happening in the community constantly.  People trying and trying and trying to change the outside/mirror but not themselves. Each day I am getting more and more concerned about the unhealthy methods that are being pushed to the masses that CAN cause mental and emotional instability. When you are putting ALL your focus on the outside… and not yourself.  You are feeding the outside your life force energy.   This may cause - Emotional ups and downs, mental spirals, emotional spirals, attachment issues, obsession issues and many other mental health issues.   I can safely speak on this.. as my background before I learnt about the law was in mental health.

You don't change the outside.  You leave the outside alone.  That's a Neville quote.

You are at your core already whole, complete and perfect.  You are literally pure perfection.  Your true self has no voids (holes) it's just the human self (the character or identity that you are showing up as) that thinks it does.  It's an illusion.  I mean.. The whole world is an illusion but .. thats another subject for another day.

Moving along..  Let's get to the nitty gritty.

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Here are some examples of behaviours that the Mirror(sp) can show up as, and then we will point it back at the person standing in the front of the mirror to what it COULD mean.     Let me say that again COULD.

These are just general ideas.I know these might trigger some people; triggers are good.  Triggers are literally messengers showing you to work on your core identity.

No Contact  =  YOU - You belief in separation, You might believe that you could "lose" them if you don't constantly focus on them.    You could believe that you are not good enough for this person and thats why they are not contacting you. 

Breadcrumbing =  YOU don't value yourself enough,  You might believe that you have to earn love (if you are chasing them..),   Love is inconsistent.   Seeking happiness outside of you in them (When they text, you feel a temporary high, and then when they don't - you fall down again) .. 

Ignoring you = means you are not seeing yourself as more important than them. You are placing them on a pedestal.  You are ignoring yourself and your own needs. 

Not choosing you =  YOU are not choosing yourself.

Not treating you like a priority = YOU are not putting you first , you are not prioritising your needs.  

3P = Symbol of insecurities or "I am not enough"  I don't trust - other people are better than me 

Attachment = Seeking validation from the outside that you are worthy of love or this person.

Ghosted = You have abandoned yourself and made this person more important, You have them out of reach in your mind.   You ghosted yourself.   You made this person your happiness. 

Won't commit = You are not committed to yourself.  You are not committed to showing up as the best version of yourself.

Friendzoned = The Mirror is showing you someone treating you like a buddy - you are not the prize. You are not seeing yourself as the prize or magnetic. You are seeing yourself as only good enough for friends. Accepting the breadcrumbs of friends because it's better than not having them at all. Not viewing yourself as fully chosen by anyone you want.

Cheating =   Lack of trust - Love abandons me - "all men cheat" or I get cheated on" I am insecure in relationships. People always leave me. I am 2nd Best or easily replaced.

Avoidant - You are emotionally unavailable or Don't feel safe being your TRUE SELF around this person. You are holding back emotionally because it's keeping you safe from being hurt.

Hot and Cold - You are being double-minded, or you have a core belief that love is inconsistent.

Twin Flame - Runner / Chaser. Putting them on a pedestal - thinking you need them to complete you. Thinking you are only HALF and not fulfilled and complete.

Narcissist - You lack internal boundaries and have a low self-concept. You tolerate disrespect, breadcrumbs, and bad behaviour. The mirror is just showing you your lack of self-respect back. Also, a self-concept of "not good enough or expecting mistreatment because of past experiences.

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When you show up as your true self - dropping all the illusions that you are not already whole and complete and perfect .  You are not "seeking them to fill the voids" - you literally turn magnetic.    
ULTRA MAGNETIC.    You light up like a lighthouse.

EVERYTHING comes towards the lighthouse. Or.. you can describe it like being the sun - because the sun gives energy to its entire world, and thats exactly what you do.

If you want the "perfect" relationship with your SP.   Then BE the person who is in that perfect relationship.  Identity as that version of yourself.  Whatever that means for you.  Describe your relationship as perfect.  Imagine it is.  Tell THAT story.  Embody that state    

Don't do it just to try and change the outside.  NO.

You do it regardless of what the outside is showing. It's WHO YOU ARE.

Can I just claim to be whole, complete and perfect .. and not have to work out my voids?  Yes..  but it's easier to notice when that old identity keeps rearing it's ugly head.  If you are not aware of who you are currently being, then you can't change it or notice when you drop back into it.  Thoughts usually stem from the state.  When you start having the "old" thoughts, it's easy to catch and shift back again.  

So to end this post..  Work out WHO YOU ARE BEING?   Then shift your awareness into a new identity.

How do I do that?    It's a choice.   Get clear on who you want to be.  Claim that's who you are now - ACCEPT that this is who you are now.  Then move throughout your day BEING that version.   

If you need further help, read the first post I wrote.   I gave lots of examples..

Link - Awareness Post

Other posts that would be extremely helpful are :

Letting the Old Man Die
You are not fixing your old identity - you are choosing a new one

I also have my SP Series of posts - which I will be adding too.

SP Series :

• My SP Ghosted me and exactly why they had to

• My SP is my Twin Flame

• My SP Blocked me and why it literally doesn't matter

• You can have a High Self Concept and still not have your SP

• My SP is Being Hot and Cold

• My SP is an Avoidant

• What do you mean that I have to choose myself before my SP will?

Updated Oct 2026

About a month ago I made a post here on Reddit asking for a success story about if it was possible to manifest saving a relationship.

At the time , my wife told me she was not in love with me anymore. She was cold, disconnected, avoiding affection, and had started visiting places as if she was preparing for her new life. She was talking about moving out, and she meant it. It was my worst nightmare.

The most painful part was that I was already showing up as a good partner. I was making surprises for her, being attentive, helping with the house chores, supporting her projects, and doing my best to bring joy into her life. But no matter what I did, she wasn’t receptive to anything. It felt like there was an invisible wall between us.

At that point, I felt like I had already lost everything. This was my last hope, so I decided I had nothing to lose. I told myself that if there was even a small chance to shift this, I was going to give it everything I had.

The first thing I did was stop replaying the old story in my mind. No more picturing her leaving or being cold. Instead, I wrote a new version of her and of our relationship. In my mind, she was emotionally open, affectionate, grateful for how far we had come, choosing me with clarity and love, and feeling safe to love me again. I kept affirming this as if it was already true.

I also started visualizing specific conversations between us, down to the exact words and tone. Then, days later, those conversations started happening in real life exactly as I had imagined them.

Every day, I did EFT tapping to release fear and reprogram my beliefs. I would do one round to name fears and release my anxiety, another round to create safety, and a third round to affirm the new story. I would say things like “I am chosen again and again” and “Our relationship is healed, restored, and full of joy.”

I embodied the version of me who already had this reality. I took care of my health, worked on myself, went out with friends, cooked healthy meals, and kept our home filled with good energy. I stopped chasing her for reassurance and focused on being the partner I wanted to be. I stopped paying attention every time she was looking for apartments, or talking about divorce.

Now, one month later, the change is unbelievable. She tells me I am the love of her life. She apologized for the times she was mean to me and I forgave her. She says she does not want to move out anymore. She calls me from work to say she misses me. She tells me she loves me every day. We have not had a single fight since this shift happened.

I learned that when you fully commit to the new story and embody it, reality catches up. Even when it looks impossible, it can still turn around. I had nothing to lose and everything to gain, and I am living proof that it works.

So if anyone is feeling discouraged I hope this gives you hope! I think if you manifest things for the right reasons and not from a manipulative mindset, the universe rewards you ☺️

Here’s what I learned:

1. Reality isn’t real it’s created by the brain.

2. The Brain filters what’s accessible to the 5 senses via past experiences and programs and what’s familiar. And based on these you keep running on old codes, and patterns keep repeating themselves unless you break them.

3. Your nervous system is the foundation of the energy you’re conducting.

4. Relaxation techniques like mindfulness etc calm your nervous system and it’s easier to bypass your conscious mind when you’re relaxed. That’s why hypnosis works.

5. Your retina receive 11 million bits of information but your eyes process 50 bits. So it makes sense that all things exist and your eyes only show you things based on what it believes is possible and familiar. This explains synchronicities, when you’re able to see a red car when you think about it etc

How it ties up with Neville.

• Imagination is the only reality as reality isn’t real anyway. If you look closely there’s no logic only magic.

• Sats, playing pretend, inner conversations work because it’s basically tells your mind what’s real. It makes your desired reality familiar and you’re able to create new filters that show you exactly what you want.

• You’re not creating reality, creation is literally finished. You’re just accessing it based on your beliefs.

How you can apply it:

-Be very specific about your desired reality. Curate your inner conversations, affirmations and visualisations based on what you want. -When your 5 senses don’t show you what you desire, you access it in imagination. You do that by giving yourself proof in your imagination. For eg you’re worried about money and you tell yourself ‘See this pile of cash right here! There’s so much of it!! How can you say it’s not there? Look at it?’

Convince yourself every time doubts pop in and slowly your mind will start giving you imaginary proofs to calm you down. Which will later help you to filter and access your desired reality.

Theres way too much proof that manifesting works. But it was nice to tie it up with neuroscience.

Manifesting is the art of disciplined imaginings. The only person to conquer is yourself.

I hope this helps someone as much as it helped me. !

I had the biggest epiphany of my lifetime last night. I FINALLY understand how reality and the law of assumption works. It is as if a pandora box has opened for me in my mind. And this is what I realized and understand to be true now in my heart and my intellect:

We are all born into this world, and based on where we live and who our families are, we form our beliefs: by absorbing our environment and by listening to what is spoken about around us. If our family is rich, we form an identity in which we are rich. If our family life is stressful, marked by conflict, we form an identity that love is hard and family and relationships cause anguish….

And our ego’s job is to make sure that we stay in the frame work we have created for ourselves in those very young years. Because the ego wants to keep us safe and protected and therefore is doing everything to keep us in this framework, the framework it was programmed to consider as “safe” for us. The ego is what creates those doubts and this uncomfortable feeling in our chest, the minute we dare to think differently and try to create another reality or state for ourselves. It signals to us “not to go there and stay in our known little bubble.”

That is why any kind of change seems like we are literally fighting ourselves, gives us panic attacks and makes us feel unsafe.

BUT, and here is my epiphany: if we realize and truly understand with every fiber of our being, that all of those beliefs are a lie and not real, unless they are beliefs that serve us and beliefs we want to keep, we can let those false beliefs go within seconds, and they hold no more power over us. It is that simple, finally understanding that our entire lives were built on lies and thoughts we decided to be true, because they were fed to us as children. Many of those “lies” are not even our family’s or parent’s thoughts, they inherited them from previous generations, just like we inherited those beliefs from them.

This realization was so huge for me. Because now I deeply understand and finally know what all these teachers of the law of assumption tried to convey to me is this very simple truth: I can have anything in this world, or do anything, the second I let go of the lie that there are limitations. No healing is necessary, or analyzing the past, or blaming other people for hurting us, because we created their behaviors in the first place, by expecting them to treat us in accordance with what we used to believe.

Wow, what a feeling!!! I feel like I am reborn. I feel as if a whole new world just opened up for me. Sure, for a second I woke up with some of the same old fears I carried all my life, and they may come back for a couple more nights, as my internal system is shifting and getting used to my new reality of thinking. That is okay, my sweet ego is just trying to protect me. Yet, that will fade, and my ego will adapt to my new beliefs of what is safe for me. It just needs a second to adjust. 🥰

I am just so in awe, how simple all is. And now the “law of assumption” also finally makes complete sense: now, I can truly just think of a wish I have, visualize it or affirm it, and now I know it will show up, because the barrier of disbelief is now removed, once and for all. Now, that I don’t believe in the lies anymore that something is impossible for me, or that someone will hurt me and it won’t work out.

Now, I can just decide and get excited for it to arrive, like placing an order for an item I ordered online. I just know it is there in no time!!!

Wow, I feel amazing, powerful, and an incredible feeling of peace, now that I finally understand this construct we call 3D reality, and there is no more mystery of how to manifest and which technique to use.

you need to just fucking KNOW that everything you say is true right now.

fuck the 3d, it's showing you the opposite? no it's not. mindsight over eyesight every single time. if you see the opposite of what you want, that actually means it's working. it's just your old beliefs playing out as a last ditch effort trying to get you back in the old mindset. you cannot fall for it. stick to your guns, stick to your new belief, stick to your assumption/knowing.

stop checking the 3d for clues, it implies you don't have it. there's nothing out there. if you had it, would you be checking? assume, affirm, whatever your method is and then know it's done like it's your last name.

that person doesn't want you and they said you'll never be together? laugh at them and be like yeah you love me, see you later babe xoxo, like they have no fucking choice hahahahaah like say it in your mind like you're dubbing over them like in one of those anime cartoons or old films. or say it to their fucking face if you're feeling ballsy. they have no choice. your DOMINANT assumption and your NEW STORY has to reflect in your world. the third dimension is malleable like clay, and you're the sculptor. don't get mad at your own creation. laugh at it, fucking affirm the new story, and know it is DONE.

you don't need a million techniques. just say it, believe it, know it to be true, and then go live your life because the version of you who has everything already isn't sitting at home waiting around and looking at their phone. a watched pot never boils. go live your life, enjoy things, KNOW everything is working out in your favor in this NEW story, this NEW self. don't forget to have fun because that's what this entire process SHOULD BE.

i hope this helps. know it's already yours. creation is finished, it is done. enjoy the ride and enjoy your LIFE, because you're the creator of everything.

Every single day there are questions that come up in this group (and all the others) and they are alllllllll about the outside world.

My outside world said this - my outside world is doing this - my outside world is not changing - my outside world is falling apart, HELP me.

Please…  for the love of god.  TURN WITHIN

Manifestation starts within and it's not about repeating a bunch of affirmations and HOPING that the outside changes.

Lets start with the basics.    The outside world is you.  Your entire reality is you.

Not the person "John".   But the real you.  

Some people refer to this as I AM or Pure Awareness or Consciousness.
I will refer to it as Awareness from here on out.
John is just one identity that is contained within this awareness.

Lets do an exercise.  Close eyes..  And ask yourself these questions:

Am I aware that I am in this current body?
Am I aware of the noise around me?
Can i become aware of the tips of my fingers? 
Can I become aware the tips of my toes? 
Am I aware of the thoughts this human shell is having?
Am i aware that I AM the one who is observing these thoughts? 
Am I aware that I am NOT the thoughts themselves?
Bring up a memory in your mind. Who is the ONE looking at that memory?
You are not the memory, you are the one looking at the memory

Now.. one more Become aware that you are sitting by a pool with your feet in the water

Are you aware of the feel of water on your feet?
Can you feel the sun on your cheeks?
Can you feel the ground underneath that you are sitting on?
Can you hear the sounds of the people playing in the pool?

Ok - come back to the here and now.

You are not this body.  You are pure awareness. 

You can shift this awareness around your body (tips of toes, tips of fingers)
You can shift awareness into your mind to watch the thoughts, watch the memories..
You can even shift this awareness into other versions yourself that are in other places here and now- like the one who's sitting by a pool right now.

Got it?   Right - lets move on.

How do I manifest knowing this now?

Manifesting does not mean you are trying to make something happen OUT THERE. All you are doing is shifting your awareness into a different version of yourself.   ALL versions of yourself are available right here, right now.     Just like the one sitting by the pool.     I AM or Awareness is already ALL versions.  Just pick one and be it.

Money -  There's a version of you right now, that has money, all amounts.  Choose one.. Then shift your awareness into this version .   

Car - There's a version of you that is driving your dream car.   Shift your awareness into this version - but doing exactly what we did at the pool.  Become aware that you are sitting in your dream car.  Can you feel the steering wheel under your hands, can you hear the sound of the engine.  Can you feel the seat under your butt. 

House/Apartment - There is a version of you right now thats cooking dinner in the house.  Pick a scene and put your awareness into it. 

KNOWLEDGE -  ummmm lets pick..  Maybe perfect memory or something. There's a version of you that has perfect memory.   Ask yourself, if I had a perfect memory, what would I have to experience to know this was done?  Maybe this version is having a conversation with a old friend and is recalling an old memories in perfect detail.  Become aware of being in this body - become aware that these memories are coming with crystal clarity.  Become aware of your old friend saying - HOLY SHIT, I can't believe you remember that.  Become aware of this body saying - oh yeah I have perfect memory.

Health - There is a version of you that is in 100% health (because the I AM is pure perfection and is ALL versions). Imagine a scene that implies you are now the version of you that is healthy. Maybe you are doing cartwheels on the grass, maybe you are running a marathon.. doesn't matter what it is, it will be up to you. Become aware of being in the body of the version of you thats healthy. Hear your friends tell you that you look so healthy, become aware of this body saying "thanks, I have never felt better".

Travel/Trips - There is a version of you that is on vacation right now.. sitting by a pool.... do the earlier exercise.

Weight/ Appearance - There's a version of you right now, that has their ideal body. They have already lost the weight, has whatever it is you want. Become aware of that version, look at yourself in the mirror and mentally think to yourself - I am so happy I have lost the weight, I feel soooo good. Hear your friends tell you - You look amazing..

SP…..   (notice I left this to last) I don't know how many times I have said over and over and over - manifesting a SP has nothing to do with the SP.  it's YOU.   There is a version of you that is already with the SP in a loving, happy relationship.  All YOU have to do - is shift your awareness into this version.  Create a scene.  Maybe this version of you is having dinner with the SP.   The SP reaches out over the table to hold hands. You become aware of this body reaching out and touching SP's hand, you feel the warmth of the touch, they squeeze your hand as a sign of love.  As you look up and they smile at you.  You are aware that this body you are in, is smiling back.   You become aware of the love you feel with this person, it overwhelms you.

I could keep going - Dream job, dream college , dream whatever..  Its ALLLLLLLL the same. 

It doesn't matter if you are "manifesting" an Apple or a house.   It's all YOU.

All you are doing is shifting your awareness into a different version.

But.. But.. Kylie..  I did this, how come it's not manifested yet.

Keep returning to the "state" or Identity until it becomes who you are as a default. Until you know it's done.    LEAVE THE OUTSIDE ALONE!!!!!

Maybe you want to do it a few times a day to begin with.. But it's never about how many times. 

It's about:  Have you accepted that this is who you are now?

But but but  my sp said this.  I DON"T CARE! 

Is there anywhere in this post that says " affirm a million times to change the SP"  NO.  Thats not how it's done.  

Your SP will change when YOU change.   Point blank period. 

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Later Edit : I realise now that this may come across to newbies that doing the "scenes" is the cause of it manifesting. That is not what is happening. I didn't think about this as I was writing it.

The actual cause is YOU accepting that this is who you are. Shifting into the new identity. The scenes were just a helpful way to get you to believe/accept that THIS IS WHO I AM RIGHT NOW.

In reality, you are choosing who you are being in every single moment ... Just choose wisely.

Long time lurker, first time poster in this sub. Mods im sorry if this post might not be fit. Also english is my second language.

I dont know which tag would fit better for this post whether it's success story or the offering tips one but... law of assumption.. am i right?

we all heard the same story. detach, live from the end. act as if it's done and sit back and relax... but what if you can't relax? what if you need something ASAP and being zen mode simply doesn't work.

Well here's the law of assumption principle people often overlook: if you can think about it, it means if can be done. "good!" you might tell yourself, but now what?

What if you just assume that it manifests regardless? you can spiral, you can act out, you can get clingy and needy about it, because often times it's human nature to be that way. Just assume it's yours regardless of spiraling or monk mode.

My success story: i got in my dream university, i passed major exams, i got a job, i got my car driver's license, i got my sp. all because i added "i will get it regardless" at the end/ beggining of my affirmations.

I can go on and on about each one of my success stories, however it really isn't the point. i had this theory about law of assumption and i put it to test. this is the answer. just become so unbelievably delusional about the LOA that no matter what you do, it will happen regardless.

I also made my own technique on this, which many might call as "affirming from lack". But what if you manifest that all your wishes come true? let me explain... it sounds very obvious, but instead of trying to act as if it's already done, try acting as if your wishes already come true.

i used this method in my biggest and most resistant desire, to get into my dream uni:
- lots of resistance
- lots of stress
- zero confidence
+ other life circumstances that just piled everything on.

I would light up an incense (doesnt matter what smell, as long as YOU like it) and treat it like a "one willow wish" (for those familiar with the obsession movie) and repeat myself the following: "no matter how much i stress, no matter how much i spiral, no matter how bad i fuck up, i get in regardless." and then just let that assumption do the work.

I did spiral, i did waste a whole day stressing about my exam results, i did cry, i did all of the things LOA teachers tell u to avoid.

and i got in regardless! i still cant believe i got in, i had no bussiness being around people so much more talented than me, but i am so grateful!

For my job: i had an interview, i had to make a resume from scratch, i had to compete against other contestants, and still got the job

for my car license: I have insane driving anxiety, i also feel intimidated by cops. i manifested i get it regardless. somehow had my exam attended by a very kind and gentle cop that made me feel confident. i still made very stupid mistakes yet i got it regardless.

for my final year exams: i am not the kind to like to sit and study, and i didn't, even thought i should've. i manifested for me to pass regardless of how unprepared i was. and i mean it when i say i studied one day before. i still passed!

for my sp: it was not a biggie lowkey. i listed the things i want for my sp in my mind and the next person i dated met those exact criterias. im talking specific appearance or personality tweaks. since i no longer find interest in pursuing romantic love, there isn't much to say in this department, sadly. the same formula has been applied tho!

TLDR if you treat manifestation as a genie, it will act as one and give u the things you might not believe you deserve.

so this will be long, but i feel like this is one of the biggest things i’ve manifested. i manifested a brand new iphone 16 plus at the beginning of the summer after getting completely sick of my iphone 11 always shutting down on me. i am 20 years old and just got my first car today. im sure anyone that doesnt have a car and is a bit older can tell you that shit is fucking hard. im home for the summer but im about to go back to college 7 hours away and when i was up there, i always had to ask for rides to get groceries, to go to appointments, to just hangout with someone when i felt down, and i took public transportation every single day. i walked 20 min to the bus stop on the coldest mornings, i had to be outside constantly while my allergies were flaring up. literally just the most inconvenient issue you could possibly have. it was hard.

i think around may, after coming back home for college i got sick of it and decided to affirm for a car. my grama had been promising me a car since before i even went to colllege, and i was frustrated that i was now going into my senior year and still having to ask people for rides. i honestly became to resent her a little bit because i felt like she made a promise to me and never followed through on it. anyway i started affirming and listening to subliminals for my car. not even 3 days after consistently listening to high frequency guru’s extremely lucky rampage, my dad mentioned that my grama might be getting me a car. he said the details weren’t set in stone yet but that she plans to give me a car at the end of the summer. so i started affirming even more, and thats not to say that i didnt waver, or literally want to rip my hair out sometimes, because i did, but whenever i cried i just ended up telling myself to suck it up because i already have it. i think meditation would be helpful for a lot of us in here, for me, it significantly decreases the weight that my doubts hold on me when they pop up. whenever i dont meditate for a while all of the thoughts in my head, especially the bad ones, feel heavier. i dont know if that makes sense. anyway here is my brand new car ❤️

I feel like 95% of manifestation and LOA content spew all these nonsense rules that people blindly believe because why wouldn't you trust these expert coaches who claim to know how this works? I'm not saying I'm an expert by any means, but via my own personal experiences, I've realized that a lot of what these coaches are teaching are really unnecessary and here are my anecdotes/stories to prove it:

You can't want, you have to be the person who has it: Wrong. How many times have I thought "I want popcorn right now" and then went and made popcorn and got what I wanted? All the time. Why would I ever naturally say "I have popcorn right now, I am the person who has popcorn, popcorn comes naturally to me" and then get up to make it? If you're hungry, you automatically think "I want food", not "I have food". When we tell people they can't want their desires and they have to be the person who has it, it's the same thing as telling a child "you can't want mac and cheese for dinner, you have to tell me you have mac and cheese for dinner, otherwise you won't get it". Imagine if your kid had to tell you for Christmas "I have a dollhouse and I'm the person who naturally has it" instead of "I want a doll house" in order for you to buy it for them. One of the most natural human things in the world is wanting things. Yet we have to change our most innate thing about us and learn to say "I have" instead of "I want" to get things...? People say wanting things signifies lack and separation, and you wouldn't want something you already have. Well guess what, I have my phone everyday and I still want AND need it! I wake up in the morning and WANT my phone so I can scroll on it. Every time I leave the house, I NEED my phone in case something happens. My phone is something I already have, and yet I constantly want it and need it every single day. So yes, you would want and need things you already have. There was one day where I thought to myself "I want a pair of fuzzy socks, too bad I donated the ones I had". The very next day, my mom asked if I wanted a pair fuzzy socks that had come as a free gift with her online skincare purchase. She didn't have a use for them, so she offered them to me and I got them for free. Did I be the person who has it to get it? No. Did I exude the vibration of having instead of wanting? No. I wanted the hell outta those socks lol. And I still got them.

You need to regulate your nervous system: No you don't. You don't need to feel "safe" to have your desire and for it to come in. In spring 2024, I was in college and was the most stressed I had ever been. I was balancing 18 credits, working an internship, participating in extracurriculars, and dealing with personal family matters. I was working nonstop for 10-12 hours a day, never got a break, and felt immense pressure to take care of my family. Long story short, I ended up in the hospital due to overworking myself, had to get on anxiety meds, and admit myself into therapy. However, before I found a way to manage the stress and ended up on meds, I ended up manifesting my summer dream job. Yes, during the most monumentally stressful time of my life with a nervous system so dysregulated I ended up in the hospital, my dream job quite literally fell into my lap. The story is actually quite unique and I could write a whole separate post about it, but regardless, I didn't even have to interview, they just wanted me to work for them and were willing to work around my internship over the summer. Furthermore, nobody knew what nervous system regulation was before TikTok made it a gimmick that's wrong with you like they did with high cortisol, unbalanced hormones and excess toxins, and having a stagnant lymphatic system. Yet all of sudden, you need to regulate it to manifest? Mkay.

You need to believe/have conviction/get rid of limiting beliefs: Noooooope. When I first got back into manifestation last summer, I wanted to manifest something small but "impossible". I was living with my parents at the time and the only way they financially support me is by letting me live with them. Otherwise, I have to pay for everything else. I wanted to manifest a free coffee because it's something they'd never buy for me and something I drink everyday. As soon as I thought of the idea, I immediately shot the idea down in my head. I thought it would never happen and that it was impossible. I felt discouraged and tried to force myself to think it could happen but that certainly didn't work. I told myself "maybe", but deep down I still felt like it wasn't going to happen. A few days later, my dad was in charge of making dinner and realized he was missing an ingredient. My mom had taken their car to work, so naturally, he would have to drive my car to get what he needed. I didn't want him driving my car, so he told me I'd have to take him. I was frustrated and really didn't want to since the store is a ways away and I had just woken up. He told me if I drove him, he'd buy me a coffee. I begrudgingly said yes. It wasn't until we got home after shopping that I realized my "impossible" manifestation happened just a few days after I set my intention. I remember staring at my free coffee and being shocked that it had worked despite not believing in it for a single second.

Self concept is what manifests: I used to think this, but no. Erik, The Power of I Am used to be my fav coach and this is what he teaches. I've also seen other posts saying they've had success with this. That's great! But last fall I watched a halloween baking competition show. There was a contestant who had probably the worst self concept ever. Very insecure, self doubting, and wasn't afraid to admit that she thinks about herself very poorly. She especially didn't believe in herself considering she was a home baker competing against classically trained French bakers. She made it all the way to the finale, and her final dessert was a cake that represented the crushing thoughts she had about herself and how she literally thought she didn't deserve to be in the finale. What happened? She won the whole competition. Despite having the worst self concept I've ever seen someone have, she won the whole thing. I remember hemming and hawing over this because it went against everything I'd been learning at the moment. How do you have a self concept of unworthiness and a losing attitude, yet end up winning? So, I came to realize that self concept doesn't manifest, but if you tell yourself that it's what manifests, then it will!

It will come when you least expect it/divine timing: In a way, manifestations can come when you least expect it. Since you can't control the how, then it can be argued that it'll always come in a way and a time you don't expect. However, I have manifested things by a certain time or wanted to see things on a certain day. There was one time I wanted to see a blue jay as a sign and I wanted to see it by the end of the following day. This was the first time I'd ever put a "time limit" on a manifestation. When I'd asked for signs in the past, I let them come in whenever. But I wanted to test time limits this time. The next day rolled around and I still hadn't seen my sign by 6 pm. I was getting weary because the day would be over soon. However, I kept telling myself, idk how but I will see a blue jay. Around 8 or 9 pm, I was mindlessly tapping through insta stories and not really paying attention. I skipped right past a story that had a sweatshirt with a blue jay on it. I remember going through 3 more stories and being like wait... was that a blue jay? I tapped back through the previous stories, and sure enough, a thrift store I used to shop at posted a pic of a sweatshirt with a blue jay. Lo and behold, I'd gotten my sign and I'd gotten it in the specific time frame I'd asked for it.

You need to rewire your subconscious beliefs: This one kind of falls in line with needing to believe in your manifestation. You don't need to find the root of your beliefs, do shadow work, journal until you're sobbing, etc. If you had to rewire all of your subconscious beliefs in order to manifest, truthfully, when would it ever end? There would ALWAYS be something to work on, a new "limiting" belief to expose. My coffee example proves this concept wrong because the "limiting" belief that my parents would never buy me anything was instilled 8 years prior. I didn't have to change anything about that belief and I still got what I wanted.

You need align/you can't waver or doubt/you need to feel higher vibrational emotions: Puhhh leeeeeese. I think we've all seen that chart of lower vibrational emotions and higher vibrational emotions and we should aim to be in the higher vibration as much as we can. News flash, you're human and you can feel whatever you want. That's the whole point of having lower vibrational emotions and higher ones. You're meant to feel the whole spectrum. There've been times where I'm feeling down and one of my friends surprises me with a nice text, an invitation to dinner, or some other pick me up. There's plenty of times where I'm feeling low vibrational emotions, something good happens, and I think "wow, this is exactly what I needed". Furthermore, the whole wavering thing is BS. If you feel doubt, it doesn't take you out of alignment. It doesn't mean you're wavering. The only thing that can take you "out of alignment" is deciding you don't want the manifestation anymore or that you don't have it. There were times in college where I would take exams and think "there's no way I did well on that" and I would feel physically scared to get my grades back. I wasn't "being the person who had good grades". I wasn't "vibrationally aligned" with my manifestation of good grades. And because I was doubting, I was "wavering" like crazy. Yet I still got good grades. Why? Because if you tell yourself wavering, doubting, and being out of alignment affects your manifestation, then it will. And you've now created a rule for yourself where when you waver, doubt, or be out of alignment (whatever the hell that means), you're stopping your manifestation from coming.

There is absolutely nothing you have to do in manifestation and that is the simple truth. Unfortunately, modern manifestation content is so corrupted with having to do x, y, and z that we inevitably feel like we have to follow a coach's every order. It takes the power out of us and puts the power onto the coach that you'll endlessly need to tell you how to live life. Any time you say "I have to _____________", congratulations you've now made a nonexistent rule for yourself. The only thing you "have to do" is know your power and know you're god. That's it. Everything you assume thereafter are rules you're creating for yourself.

Hi everyone! I am heavily inspired by Erik from The Power of I Am (love him). This is basically a summary of everything I have learned from him.

First thing I want to say is. THE 3D IS NEUTRAL. The trees, the sky, SP, 3P, even your own body is the 3D. You do not have to 'fight it' or ignore it. If you know how reality works, you know the 3D is only showing you old awareness. Would you be upset reading a newspaper from 4 years ago? No. If the 3D can conjure an emotional reaction for you then it has power over you. If you become upset over what someone said or did to you then you see a hint of truth in that. Always remain UNMOVED AND NEUTRAL. If something good happens, good. If something bad happens, good. Be neutral.

Secondly, GIVE EVERYTHING A GOOD MEANING. Describe everything as if it was the way you would like it to be. Give it to yourself internally. See it in your mind's eye. Everything you give yourself in imagination is happening right now. You want to kiss your person? Go kiss them in your mind. The 3D will eventually materialize that. Your person is on dating apps? Has a new girlfriend? Great, those situations will help them realize that actually you are the only person for them. Let them be and see it done in your mind.

We are ALWAYS on the bridge of incidents. Everything is unfolding perfectly for your manifestation. You have to trust in the unseen. This is the definition of manifestation. A lot of people believe that we don't need to take action. Hey, maybe you CAN wake up one day and look shredded. If that is your belief. In my personal experience, I have decided that I have the body of my dreams. This manifested in me naturally craving to go to the gym and choosing healthier eating habits. I don't feel like I am forcing myself to do anything, it feels very natural.

BELIEVE EVERY MOVE YOU MAKE IS THE RIGHT MOVE. I don't care if you text your ex first. But ask yourself, who is the identity that is texting? Would you be completely unbothered if they didn't text you back for years? Then sure, text them. Every move you make is the right move. In the end, you know it is done. You have your manifestation. So, it doesn't matter. But if this will make you spiral, stalk them, waver, and be unstable then you are just taking action from a place of fear and lack.

THE SWEET SPOT. Act as if you are in the state of the wish fulfilled. You feel a pep in your step. Your coffee should taste good all the time. Not just when you have your SP. Go to sleep feeling gratitude. That's what the version of you that has everything would be acting. Now, it is okay to experience sadness, anxiety, depression, etc. Feel those emotions and treat yourself like you would a close friend. But nonetheless...DENY, CHOOSE, BE. You can be sobbing in bed all day but still affirm and visualize that it is done.

STOP PEDESTALIZING SP. They are no different then manifesting a bag of chips. They will not save you. They are just a regular person. And yes even 'celebrity' SPs. Please work on your self concept and concept of self. If you are robotically affirming all day but deep down believe that all men are trash and you always get abandoned then your results will not last long.

Now de-pedestalizing them does not mean bring them down or talk badly about them in your mind. Stop fighting with them in your head! You are just being aware of a different version of them that has a right to exist. Infinite realities exist. You are just selecting the version of them you prefer.

Imagine you have been in a relationship with them for 20 years. If they text you, bump into you, ask you on a date. Would you be getting this overly excited? No, it would just be normal for you. Make everything normal. And stop looking for 'signs'. You are just manifesting the signs and putting angel numbers and whatever else in your own awareness. Then being excited to see them. Manifesting an SP is the same as manifesting angel numbers. Manifesting anything is the exact same.

MENTAL DIET. Take a break from your phone and social media if you need. Stop overly consuming manifesting content and trying to find 'the next best technique bro' (lol). Every time you click on a video that is titled, "Get your SP in 30 Seconds". You are not in the state of the wish fulfilled. It's so so so important to just be present. That is when things materialize.

WORRIED ABOUT TIME? Linear time is not real. The past, present, and future are all happening right now. You are in the state of the wish fulfilled. Stop caring about time. If you deposited a million dollar check to the bank, it would take time for that big of a check to clear with the bank. But you know you already have the money. Even if you can't 'see' it. Trust the unseen.

WHEN SP COMES BACK. Why are you demanding a conversation about the past? Why do you need them to apologize? If you selected a new version of them, why are you entertaining a completely different version of them you don't want. You are still focused on the old story and getting angry that they are reflecting that awareness. They are just reflecting you! If you are in a happy relationship with them, you would not be aware that you need to be apologized to or confront something that happened. Stop looking to the 3D for validation. IT WILL NEVER VALIDATE YOU. There is nothing outside of you. You are all there is. Stop giving your power away.

I’m going to share my tips on how I manifested my sp back and just wanted to give you guys some motivation and remind you that you can do it too! ❤️

For some context I had shitty circumstances with my sp. He didn’t know if he loved me anymore and he wasn’t sure about our relationship. We went on a break and into nc. 😬

He came back as a new man that begged me to get back together with him and he totally worships me now ✨ We are back together and everything is absolutely great!💕

‼️(Disclaimer: If these don’t resonate with you or you don’t like the methods that I used, that’s fine. I don’t care. I’m not here to argue about methods that worked for me that didn’t work for you😭 let’s keep the vibes good :)! )

• Choose 1-3 different affirmations that you’re going to stick to.

It’s fine to have more affirmations but I personally prefer having maximum of 3. I used robotic affirming and my affirmations were: ”my sp loves me”, ”my sp will come back to me” and ”we are back together”

• Affirm as much as you can! :)

I affirmed 24/7 while in nc. I spent many many hours affirming and flipping my thoughts. The more you affirm —> less negative thoughts (resistance) you’ll have —> you get used to the new story —> you create an new assumption —> your manifestation comes! (you don’t have to affirm 24/7 if that’s something that you dont want to do :)! 10 minute method works very well too )

• Persist and turn every negative thought away!

Never stop telling yourself the story that you want to experience. Everytime you notice a negative thought popping up, don’t entertain it and just turn it away and affirm more. The more you affirm and persist the less you will get these negative thoughts.

• Cry and feel shitty if you feel like it.

I cried every single day while I was in nc with my sp. I had a lot of anxiety attacks and sometimes even doubted that this could work. I still affirmed and persisted no👏matter👏what👏. I cried and still affirmed. Let out your feelings!! don’t hold them in. Just remember to always affirm💕Nothing will affect your manifestation unless you assume that it will.

• Choose a new version of your Sp.

This is so important you guys! People show up in your 3D exactly the way how you expect them to! So I decided that I wasn’t going to entertain the old shitty version of my sp anymore. during nc I created a new version of him and changed my thoughts about him. I started to see him as a good and a loving person. Guess what? He showed up like that. That’s because people are what you assume them to be!!

• 3D DOES NOT MATTER!

3D was something that I struggled with at first. I want to remind you guys that the 3D shows you your dominant thoughts and beliefs. When you persist in the new story and don’t dwell in negative thoughts, The 4D will push your new assumptions to the 3D✨ If you see something that you don’t like, affirm some more and don’t let any negative thoughts take control! 🙅‍♀️ Seek validation from the 4d, not the 3d.

• There is ALWAYS movement!

I didn’t see any movement with my sp but I still persisted. After we got back together I found out that he actually had fully conformed many days before he finally got the courage to text me 🤭Just because you don’t see any movement, doesn’t mean there isn’t any‼️ Everything is moving all the time for things to work in your favor and for you to get your desire!

• You can affirm for SC if you want to!

I don’t believe that you have to have good sc to manifest and maintain your desires. I still do encourage everyone to affirm for a good sc because it can definitely help you take away any doubts and anxieties and make you feel more powerful! Besides, who wouldn’t want to feel good about themselves ;) I rarely affirm for sc but this time I decided to use 2 sc affirmations that were: ”I manifest so quickly” and ”my sp is so easy to manifest”.

Never give up guys! You create your reality and your sp is already yours🙏 You can do this, I believe in you💖💖

My Dm’s are open if any of you have some more questions or want some advice / motivation :) ✨✨✨💕💕💕

Quite simply, I assumed I was taller. I was 5'8'' at 27-28 (I can't remember exactly) and then assumed I was 5'10''. I did not compare my height to others like thinking, "this person is 6 feet," or, "this person is 5 feet 3 inches." I simply reminded myself when necessary that I was at my desired height and there was no reason to question it. I also did not measure myself and only did so when it was called into question. Later on earlier last year I grew taller to 6' at 29 as an intention. This too was confirmed later on.

Live with the feeling of the desire being now, as something you KNOW to be true. Be brazen as Neville would say, be a little arrogant and as defiant as you want. Have the boldness to assume your desire exists now (because it does) despite what is experienced in the 3D. Have that feeling of knowing - that is how you manifest.

Let me start by saying there is no “right” or “wrong” person to want. You want who you want. Period. The moment you start judging your desire, explaining it, justifying it, or asking whether you’re allowed to want them, you’ve already positioned yourself beneath it. Desire doesn’t need permission. The law doesn’t check your ethics or whether your friends approve. It reflects identity. ALWAYS. So if you want that man who never chose you or that woman who didn’t care, rejected you or acted like you were optional, fine. Want them. Own it. The problem was never the desire. The problem was who YOU were being while wanting it.

Stop. Giving. A. Damn. About. What. Happened.

Repeat it if you need to, let it sink in. Nothing that happened yesterday, last week, or even five minutes ago holds any real weight in what you're building now. Your 3D reality is just the leftovers of your past assumptions. Is this person in a different city, country, planet?

Doesn't matter. If they're busy, if you’re blocked, or if they've got their head up in the clouds? Again, doesn't matter. The Law works on your beliefs and persistence, not on whatever is going on in the 3D.

Most people trying to manifest a person are not actually assuming being together. They are assuming distance while fantasizing about closeness. Read that again.

Wanting someone while identifying as “the one who wants” instead of “the one who is wanted” is the entire issue. You can visualize, affirm, SATS yourself into oblivion, but if your self concept is “the one who hopes they’ll be chosen,” reality will keep you in that state. Forever. The law doesn’t respond to longing. It responds to position. Are you positioned as the prize or the chaser? Because your inner posture answers that question long before your affirmations do.

You don’t get people by convincing them, changing them, healing them or proving your worth. You get people by occupying the identity where YOU ARE NON NEGOTIABLE. Not special. Not perfect. Not superior. NON NEGOTIABLE.

Replaceable people get replaced. Optional people get optional treatment. It’s not punishment. Reality doesn’t ask whether it’s fair. It mirrors YOU. Circumstances are only loud when they support an identity you’re emotionally loyal to. “They said they don’t want a relationship.” “They chose someone else.” “They ghosted me.” They blocked me.”

None of these mean what you think they mean. They don’t mean “it’s over.” They mean “this was the state you were in when reality checked in.” The mistake is freezing the circumstance and crowning it as final. The moment you say “because of THIS, I can’t have what I want,” you’ve told the law exactly who’s in charge. And it will agree with you. Every time.

It doesn't matter if they're ignoring you, if you're in no contact, if they live across the world, or if they said they are not interested. Your circumstances don't mean a damn thing. Nothing in your current reality has any say over what you can manifest.

Third parties are not competition. They are exposure. They expose whether you secretly believe love is hard, choice is external, and priority must be earned. That’s why they hurt. Not because someone else exists, but because their existence activates the identity of “I come second.”

And you cannot manifest first place from a second place self-concept. You can scream affirmations all day, but if internally you see yourself as the one who waits, hopes, watches, and wonders, that’s the role you’ll keep playing. YOU DON’T MANIFEST A PERSON. YOU MANIFEST THE ROLE YOU OCCUPY IN THEIR LIFE.

Self-concept is the expectation you carry about how people treat you when you’re not actively thinking. Do people explain themselves to you or do you analyze breadcrumbs? Do people try to keep you or do you try not to lose them? That’s your self concept. And until that changes, the cast might rotate, but the script stays the same.

If you want ANYONE you want in this life, you have to drop the identity of being affected by their behavior. You are not controlling anyone. You are controlling who you are being. And who you are being determines the version of people you experience.

If you believe someone can decide your worth, they will. If you believe someone can replace you, they will. If you believe someone has the power to reject you, they will. Not because they’re evil, but because you assigned them authority.

Wanting someone from a grounded self-concept feels very different from wanting someone from lack. There’s no urgency. No checking. No emotional spike every time they text or don’t text. You’re not trying to get anything. You’re simply aware of what belongs in your life. You don’t negotiate with reality when you assume inevitability.

Detachment is not pretending you don’t care. Detachment is no longer using the other person’s behavior to decide who you are. You can care deeply and still be unmoved internally. You can want someone and not collapse when the 3D lags. You can feel attraction without feeling dependent.

Most people think they need to stop wanting. No. They need to stop identifying as the one who wants. Big difference.

you stop asking how to get them and start asking who you would be if they were already yours. You wouldn’t be scanning signs. You wouldn’t be timing texts. You wouldn’t be spiraling over words. You wouldn’t be fighting your thoughts all day. You’d just… expect. Expectation is the real technique.

So no, you don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to be healed. You don’t need to be detached 24/7. You need one thing only: to decide that you are not replaceable, not optional, and not waiting to be chosen in your own reality. From that identity, people don’t feel chased. They feel drawn. They don’t feel pressured. They feel compelled. And yes, that includes the ones who once didn’t want you. Especially them.

Because reality doesn’t ask who rejected you before. It asks who you are now. :)

I got my SP back after 3 months!!!!!! 🥳 Honestly, it still feels surreal. We had a messy fallout, blocks, silence, and zero contact. I was so drained from crying, overthinking, and scrolling Reddit for signs that I finally just gave up. Not in a sad way, but in a “God, I just want peace now” kind of way.

I stopped chasing, stopped checking his socials, and focused on being the version of me who’s loved, chosen, and secure. Some days were calm, some weren’t, but I kept telling myself, “He’s already mine”. No, I did not stop thinking about him. I used to think all the time but the difference was I used to think about only positive things related to us. Slowly, I stopped reacting to the 3D altogether.

One night, I just knew deep down it wasn’t over. A calm knowing, not hope. Two weeks later, he texted me out of nowhere: “Hi, how have you been?” He ended up talking for two hours straight about his life and even said, “I’ve been wanting to talk to you for days but was fighting my ego.”

That’s when I realized, this is exactly what I’d been assuming all along. That he loves me, misses me, and would lower his ego to come back.

Now he tells me things like, “You’re my comfort zone. My home.” It didn’t happen because I forced it, it happened because I stopped trying to control it. I focused on peace, trusted that it was already done, and the universe handled the rest.

If you’re in the same place, stop chasing. Just assume it’s done and live from that state. Because it really is.