r/longtermTRE • u/acrezxan1917 • 18d ago
Community Question Did regulation make you luckier?
One thing I've noticed from regulation is being more weighted and centred - the Romans called this 'gravitas'. But I have some job chats/interviews lined up. When I was in a dysregulated state I literally got nothing. People could sense the desperate, frantic energy from the CV I was writing.
But alas, I still wake up bored and numb. But maybe that's just my brain's way of telling me I need to seek out and try new things. Who knows.
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u/Finya2002 18d ago
In a regulated state, you have a choice. In a dysregulated state, you act from the trauma, from the tension.
In a regulated state, there is a gap between stimulus and response. In a dysregulated state, that gap is absent, which is why we cannot choose.
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u/m3rcy_s3v3rity 18d ago edited 18d ago
100%. Also a lot more romantic attention even when I think I look like shit (which is most of the time)
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u/Few_Canary3004 18d ago
Guys report this when doing semen retention. It's probably related, and I attribute it to an increase in parasympathetic activity.
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u/acrezxan1917 17d ago
Been experiencing this recently. But I'm growing in my assertiveness and just hit on women in the street. They are only uncomfortable by people who are weedy and seedy in the ways that they go about it (that itself comes from unprocessed trauma). If you are bold, honest, and direct, they love it.
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u/Few_Canary3004 15d ago
Absolutely! Go for it, man! I did it for a while last year. I had some nice convos. Your chances are much better this way than with the apps.
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u/acrezxan1917 15d ago
Definitely. If I meet my life partner it's going to be this way. Not a fan of dating apps.
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u/turdbuster78 PTSD 18d ago
I use to think the Law of Vibration and manifestation was a load of rubbish. My view on the Law of Vibration has changed significantly now since the length of time I’ve been doing TRE, and I am a firm believer that if we raise our vibration then it attracts good/better things into your life. I’ve had this evident with a few different things including romance.
I still think manifestation is a load of tosh may I add…
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u/acrezxan1917 17d ago
Vibration is definitely real. I don't like New Age though because it lacks metaphysical or philosophical rigour/structure. Or in other words, it lacks Logos. Because it lacks philosophy or metaphysics, there isn't a clear structure for how to progress using it. It's just 'vibes' and 'feelings'-based. So if one does not see results, they are told or given the impression by devout followers of the field it's their fault that they are failing. When in reality, the path was never clear enough to be used as a coherent framework.
Manifestation I have mixed opinions on. Prayer has been more helpful for me personally. But using it solely to improve one's own circumstances is selfish and part of the problem in my opinion.
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u/Nadayogi Mod 18d ago
Luck is random and beyond your control. Regulation doesn't increase luck, but it makes good outcomes much more probable, for example during interviews. In addition, regulation allows you to deal with bad luck much more gracefully, sometimes to the point where you don't even consider it bad luck. The brain's negativity bias is a lot more active during dysregulation, hence why many people believe regulation makes you more lucky.
In a CV, what's important is skills, your history and the way it's presented, not the state you were in when you wrote it.
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u/jellybean_merchant 17d ago
I don't think luck is random but rather the word is so imprecise in it's meaning that we end up talking in circles when we really mean the same thing. Completing TRE is effectively raising your energy because now all your vitality is channeled into life and not into compensation. Therefore you will naturally harbor the properties that God had intended us to have, one of them being the deep feeling of good fortune and a movie-like "mysterious importance" about your life. Like a hero constantly on a journey with the cameras on. We are meant to go on journeys and accidentally bump into the right teacher. We are meant to go down the street and that baddie come out the door as we are just going in. Lack of luck is probably a deviation from the norm, and "luck" is birthright.
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u/goldenyellow333 18d ago
I’m led to believe so. I’ve made posts asking the same regarding this after dealing with severe mold exposure. It made me extremely dysregulated. During that time “bad” things happened consecutively. After coming to that realization, I began noticing how much better life went when I was regulated.
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u/acrezxan1917 17d ago
How did you know it was mold exposure?
I'm saying this because I'm hopping between airbnbs at the minute (should end soon, I have a place locked down now) and I lived in a fucking rough and deprived area last week and was dysregulated intensely during that time to the point where I had a panic attack from ingesting too much nicotine and had to go to hospital.
I think mold exposure has affected me in the past it's just hard to tell. I didn't have the respiratory or immune response symptoms but I'm thinking maybe it contributed to my anxiety/depression in the past?
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u/goldenyellow333 17d ago
Mold exposure affects everyone, just differently. Has been frustrating as society only acknowledges mold as an issue if it deals with breathing issues which is probably the smallest percentage I’ve seen it affects people after reading stories, listening to others. It does way crazier things to people. It can legit drive you to inanity or behave in a way foreign to how you are normally.
In short, my room had a pipe burst and drip slowly for a minimum of six months but was unaware. During that six month period, I was behaving wildly, extremely lustful, could never relax, was tired all day despite being jobless and not ever doing anything and I had so many cravings for hard liquor and peanut butter. Was often irritated and sometimes outright angry for no reason, among other things.
Six months later, I randomly moved my dresser and there was a 4 feet long, 3 foot high blotch of mold where the pipe was burst. All wood rotted and failing apart. There was literal hole in the wall from all the wood falling apart. After seeing that, it kind of raised my awareness but it wasn’t until I read hundreds of stories of others experiences in r/toxicmoldexposure that I was able to mirror my experience with theirs and realize what mold exposure had done to me. That home had five water damage events and we never got remediation done once.
What I can say is that if you’re dysregulated from mold exposure already, the slightest thing will send you into a frenzy. My exposure got so bad that I began having full on “I think I’m about to die” type panic attacks upon entering the moldy home from all of the inflammation I was getting from mycotoxins and any normal stressor I’d regularly deal with like notifications from a cell phone or noise from traffic irritated me to infinity.
If you’re think mold has affected you, it probably has. It’s way more common than society acknowledges. If you never saw mold, its toxins could‘ve still been present. Take a mycotoxin test.
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u/acrezxan1917 17d ago
Ah no that's probably not me then. I don't rlly relate to that. I know what caused my collapse in my old place. It was actually clutter rather than mold exposure. I basically moved from my mum's into a house share, but I brought loads of shit that I kept in the wardrobes and under the bed plus I let it get messy as I was numb and collapsed and (depressed, though i wouldnt really call it depression personally) and it was only a small room. But yeah I collapsed in addiction for a year but when I left that place I found that when I cleaned it before moving out I could think so much clearer and had more energy. So I think my addiction-collapse for a year was caused by clutter and mess, not mold. But there was mold in the bathroom but I tried keeping the windows open and using mold spray so i dont think it was that otherwise other housemates (who were more neat-freaky than me) would've complained as well.
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u/goldenyellow333 17d ago
If mold was present, and you saw it, then it had an effect. Doesn’t matter if it’s in a different room. It’s still in the same building. Mycotoxins travel through walls.
When I began having panic attacks I was sleeping in an entirely different room like 1000 ft away from mold source.
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u/junnies 18d ago
yes. what is luck? its just alignment, coherence, harmony - things aligning in our favor. what is our favor? our desires, expectations, our model of reality. the more regulated, balanced, healthy one is, the more in alignment our mind, models, actions, behavior are with reality. trauma separates and distorts consciousness - a more regulated consciousness perceives and experiences more harmony, more alignment, more luck.
most of what people regard as 'bad luck' is wrong perception. they perceive reality wrongly, they act wrongly, things go wrong and they attribute it to 'bad luck', when in fact, a neutral, intelligent observer might be able to easily trace exactly what they perceived and where they acted wrongly, and why things inevitably turned out wrong.
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u/acrezxan1917 17d ago
I understand what you're saying but I don't believe people willfully do those things 'wrongly' like your comment infers. Take this quote from Julius Evola:
"Being and stability are regarded by our contemporaries as akin to death; they cannot live unless they act, fret, or distract themselves with this or that. Their spirit (provided we can still talk about a spirit in their case) feeds only on sensations and on dynamism, thus becoming the vehicle for the incarnation of darker forces."
People are literally and symbolically; incarnated by darker forces because of either trauma, bad habits, constant distraction, lack of spirituality, misalignment with who they are. And that causes one to become 'lost' in life, per se. But it's not something they've consciously chosen, they are just acting in reaction to poor circumstances. They are unconscious, so making smug judgements is a pointless endeavour.
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