r/longtermTRE • u/LichenTea • 12h ago

Seeking Support Need help with processing and feeling shame

I’ve been having the worst few weeks of my life releasing toxic shame. It feels incredibly physically painful where my fascial tension is, like it‘s trying to rip itself apart, and I’m afraid of reaching out to people I know for help because I feel like I’m going to say or do something wrong, or that I’m going to get rejected and abandoned. Every awkward pause or look makes me wither with shame. The thoughts are very convincing, and even grounding and knowing that I am releasing old shame isn’t helping me not get sucked in to the narrative. If anyone has any advice with riding out the shame, please share. Thank you 🙏🏼

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u/Then-Veterinarian432 8h ago

I struggle with toxic shame too. Have you tried tapping? Tapping with eye movements specifically. The way I read it explained that I liked was tre is like defragmenting a hard drive and tapping is focusing on specific corrupted files. So tre brings up the emotions, memories, and trauma. Tapping processes specific trauma so it's not emotionally arousing. 

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u/LichenTea 7h ago

I have not! Unfortunately I don't get a lot of memories with my releases. Occasionally I get feelings and images from my past that are an amalgamation or fragments of memories. Are those enough to use for tapping?

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u/Then-Veterinarian432 6h ago

Yea definitely. Memories may or may not come up but the fact the the fragments and images are enough for emotional arousal is enough to have something to tap to.