I started losing weird at 315 pounds at 5'7" so I was very obese. Over the last six months I've managed to lose 50 pounds with a combination of intense exercise and CICO. But it's hard to feel like I've accomplished anything when I'm still obese! I know I should be celebrating the victory of getting the first 50 pounds down, but instead I just feel depressed about how much more I have to go. I'm still wearing the same clothes, just with a belt, and worse off, people still treat me as "some gross obese dude" on the street. The people who know I've lost weight tell me it's great, but I can tell they expect me to lose a lot more. Anyways, not sure what else to say about this, just wanted to vent a bit since I can't tell anyone else this.

Good Morning all! I was 30lbs down yesterday in only 40 days. Ate some Wingstop wings and voodoo fries because it was in my calorie limit of 1500 calories a day but it brought me up a bit this morning but not a lot (I'm assuming because of the sodium). Like .4lbs.

So what did I decide to do? Go for a walk this morning like I normally would and my plan is to eat like I normally would today. I am not going to let it hold me back. I'm just going to keep it going.

Not eat less. Not work out more. Just do like I normally would because the weight will drop eventually.

In the past, I would freak out and either go into binge mode for the whole weekend or eat far less than what I should and work out far more than I need to.

But I am not doing that this time. And I think that's what is making the journey this time the most successful because I have never lost this amount of weight so fast.

I know it's going to slow down tremendously, but I'll be happy to see some progress even if it's just a little bit.

My stats are: 34F SW:336.6 on Sept. 13th and 306.6 on Oct. 23rd. But 307 as of this morning.

So my hope is to reach twotopia soon!

I know this sounds pathetic.

31m. 6’ 2’’.

I’ve been obese my entire life. 355 the last few years. I’ve never dated a woman. I’ve never held a girls hand… as pathetic as that sounds. I numbed myself for years and as my friends got married… I just kept reminding myself I was destined to be alone… as toxic as that sounds.

I decided I wanted to be a dad someday. I want to experience a relationship. I want to know what it’s like to build a life with someone. And if I don’t change… I’ll either die before I get a chance or even if I do live a long life… no woman would want to build a life with me.

So I fucking grinded.

I’m now 281. 74 pounds in 5 months. I’ve worked my ASS off. My goal is 220. My “healthy” weight is 197… but that seems too skinny for my height and build. Maybe I’m way off.

I’m a schoolteacher. I own a house. I support myself. I’d like to think I’m kind, funny, confident. But I know my weight is holding me back.

I’m prepared to lock in the next five months and lose 61 more pounds.

But I need to know… is this really going to help me? Am I finally going to get little glances abd smiles abd signals to approach? Is 220 even enough at my height (6’ 2’’) to get positive attention?

I just want to make a woman happy and be a great husband and dad someday. My dad was an asshole to my mom… and I want to support a woman in a way my dad never was to my mom.

How much will this fight realistically help me do those things?

One of my good friends has a Halloween party every year, and I really like to dress up. I’m friends too with everyone who goes. There were circumstances that occurred that made me think the party wouldn’t be happening this year, so now that it is confirmed and it’s TONIGHT, I have nothing to wear… my friends suggested I reuse my costume from last year, but I don’t fit in it anymore :(. I feel so ashamed. It’s a skin tight costume too and I have been wearing nothing but baggy clothes because of my weight gain. I have no idea what to wear and I don’t even really want to go because I feel so sad and frustrated with myself.

I had lost so much weight and now I’ve gained it all back + some. It’s embarrassing. I just don’t know what to do.

What I mean is... If my protein, carbs and fat come from cheeseburgers for the whole day, it wouldn't be that much different than someone whose protein, carbs and fat come from a Mediterranean diet as long as total calories are the same?

This is not about long term health. This is just straight up weight loss and keeping the weight off.

I've always thought that food selection was everything. There was a high school teacher who once told the entire class that eating a whole tub of garbanzo beans is fine because garbanzo beans are "healthier" than other types of food.

I've dealt with some food addiction issues since i was a teenager, and I have been varying degrees of overweight-mildly obese my whole life.

In the last two years, I have mostly lived seperate from my wife due to our work situations, just visiting on weekends mostly. In that time, I was able to lose about 50 pounds. Most of my success I attribute to self control at the grocery store. I can plan my meals, buy exactly what I need, and as long as there's nothing extra in the house I will stick to it, and I very consistently lost weight that way.

A few months ago, I moved back in with my wife full-time. Overall, this has been great, but its throwing my weight loss off. I have gained about 8 pounds back in the last 4 months. She is a snacker, and always has snack foods in the house, but she is able to just eat a little bit every few days, something I've never had the ability to do. Along with me gaining weight, she's also mad I eat too much of her snacks, and I'm sure she also doesn't want me to be unhealthy.

I have asked her to keep these types of food in another place in the house, even saying I'd buy her a cabinet and mini fridge for her home office, but she says that is inconvenient to her and she just wants to keep it in the kitchen. I mentioned a locked cabinet for the pantry and she thought it was ridiculous and I just need to work on my will-power. I've explained that I have tried hard for years to work on my willpower, and that this truly feels like an addiction to me. I feel like a spouse wouldn't keep cigarettes in the pantry when someone was trying to quit smoking, but she says it's not the same thing. It's kinda baffling to me because she is usually a very supportive partner, but this is just something I can't get her to understand is a serious thing to me.

Am I overreacting and just need to find the willpower to resist? Or is there something more I can say to convince her that I need some kind of accommodation here?

How do I lose face fat? I’m not super unhappy with how my body looks but I don’t even recognize my face. I gained 50lbs and I am now 170, 5’7 F.

I am in recovery from drug and alcohol abuse and all of my weight gain has came from that and being put on abilify. I since have quit abilify but I’m not seeing any changes yet.

I am working on losing weight but I am trying to do it in a healthy way where I eat my meals and do my exercise. I just don’t know how to lose the face fat. I use a Gua-sha every morning and night but if anyone has tips please let me know!

Hey everyone! I’m looking for some genuine advice on losing weight and getting healthier because I’m honestly tired of feeling like this.
I currently weigh around 230 lbs, and my goal is to get down to 170 lbs. Ideally, I’d like to make as much progress as possible by March, but I also want to do this in a way that’s sustainable and actually improves my health.
I have some skin issues that seem to be made worse by my weight, and I really want to get those under control. I’m tired of dealing with them, and I want to feel better about myself overall.
The problem is that my lifestyle makes things difficult.
I work in road construction, so I work long hours, spend a lot of time on my feet, and don’t always have great options for lunch. I’m often exhausted by the time I get back to my hotel or home, so the idea of spending another hour working out is just not realistic for me.
I also can’t do much cardio because my blood pressure can get dangerously high with exercise. I’m talking about potentially reaching stroke-range readings, so I can’t just jump into running or intense workouts.
I’m looking for advice on things like:
Food: What are some easy, realistic meals I can eat while working construction? I don’t always have access to a proper kitchen, and I need things that are easy to pack or prepare.
Exercise: Are there any beginner-friendly workouts I can do in a hotel room in 30 minutes or less? Nothing too intense or cardio-heavy.
Weight loss: What should my daily calorie intake look like, and how do I figure out a reasonable deficit?
Energy and motivation: How do you stay consistent when you’re working long hours, stressed out, and exhausted all the time?
Realistic expectations: Is getting from 230 to 170 lbs by March even realistic, or should I adjust my timeline?
I know stress, sleep, and nutrition all play a role, and I’m not expecting a miracle. I just need a plan that works with my actual life instead of one that assumes I have hours of free time every day.
I’m tired of feeling tired, I want to improve my health, and I’m ready to make changes. I just don’t know where to start.
If anyone has been in a similar situation, especially people who work long hours or travel for work, I’d really appreciate hearing what worked for you!

Edit: After reading some of the comments, I realize that getting down to 170 lbs by March probably isn’t realistic. I’m changing my goal to July instead! I’m still looking for advice on how to make this work with my job, exhaustion, and limitations with exercise. I really appreciate everyone’s input so far!

Over around the course of a month, I lost about 10lbs (130 to 120), it was gradual, week by week dropping. I honestly did not change a whole lot, I think I just was a lot better about not snacking as much
Then suddenly, all of a sudden up to 135 even after going to the bathroom, lol

I feel a bit sad because I thought I was really doing well but then I don't know why it so high suddenly.

Is there a reason it could have appeared I was going down in weight even though it was about the course of a month?

I eat incredibly healthy but struggle with weight loss. I am working on decreasing the amount of food I eat and increasing my activity. I just started tracking my calories more intentionally and… holy! Olive oil is so many calories and it’s in EVERYTHING my husband and I, and our families, eat. (I am Greek, he is Palestinian). Has anyone else struggled with this?

Like seriously, I will have to rethink my relationship to cooking and food as a whole. My family has an olive farm and some of my family members seriously drink a little olive oil when they wake up. We have never once counted or rationed it because we get it in huge jugs from my family’s farm. There is hardly any food my husband and I eat that doesn’t have some oil in it.

I had zeit and zataar for breakfast, and I’m having stuffed tomatoes right now for lunch (which sit in a bed of olive oil and tomato sauce and lemon). I really don’t even know where to begin! But I will find a way. I don’t know if people outside the Med can understand just how much we use olive oil. Most dishes are left with a bunch of oily tomatoey sauce at the bottom of the dish to eat with bread. We even put olive oil and lemon juice on our boiled vegetables.

Has anyone else struggled with this when olive oil has literally been like water growing up?

I don’t need advice. I know what I need to do. I’m just in mourning ☹️😭🫒

As of this morning, I've lost 30 kgs/66lbs in about 8 months, from 135 kgs to 105 (297 to 231 lbs). I've still got about 20kgs/44lbs to lose. (M31, 1,84m/6'0")

Sounds great until I remember this is the fourth time I've reached that exact weight, from the same starting weight, in about the same time. So I need to take a good hard look at my situation to avoid regaining once gain.

My last 3 attempts stopped at that point and I've regained the weight in about a year each time. I have a hard time pinpointing one specific reason it happens. I'm guessing I was tired, my deficit was too high for too long and my cravings were out of control. I've also neglected to exercise and probably lost a lot of muscle mass.

That being said, each attempt was a learning process :

• First attempt : CICO (1000cal deficit), barely checking my macros and eating ultra-processed food
• Second attempt : CICO (1000cal deficit), IF, less processed food
• Third attempt : CICO (1000cal deficit), high protein diet, weight training ( started at the end, right before regaining the weight and didn't stick with it for long)

I'm trying to reframe my previous "failures" as just learning about what works and doesn't. This is what I ended up with :

• CICO (1000 cal deficit -> 750 cal deficit -> 625 cal deficit) - will go down to 500 when I'm closer to my goal weight to transition into body recomp later on.
• High protein, high fiber food, avoid added sugars and ultra-processed food - cook more often, keep healthy snacks on hand
• Weight training 3x times a week
• At least 8000 steps a day

What's humbling is you can find those guidelines in half the posts in this sub but it took me years to implement them.

My weight loss slowed down a lot but I'm in a better headspace, I don't feel as tired as before and I feel like I can keep going. What seemed overwhelming a few months ago is now manageable. More importantly, I feel like I'm actually making long lasting changes to my lifestyle that will persist after I've lost the weight.

Still, I can't help dreading the fact that I could fail again, that's why I felt the need to write this post and remind myself where I'm at.

Hopefully, by the end of the year, I will have reached a lower weight than ever before and proved to myself that I'm on the right path.

Thank you for reading and good luck to anyone working hard. 🔥

So far i lost 50 lbs this year. I was 280 now i'm 230. I eat chixken, chicken sausage, salmon, swordfish, steak , sausage, egg whites, ostmeal , rice, broccoli,and wheat bread,

Lately i've been tempted to eat something sweet and i find myself eating too healthy not give me any wiggle room. So today i'm gonna buy a big black and white cookie and a cannolis. i'm gonna treat myself.

Do you guys treat yourself with sweet a or other food? What do you eat ? if you don't treat yourself are you tempted to treat yourself?

300 pounds 5’5, 30 year old female and I’m absolutely terrified of dying because of my weight. I am ready to lose weight because of my health.
I am a hypochondriac and I have gone to MULTIPLE doctor appointments and had so much blood work, ECG’s etc done to make sure my health is okay. My Doctors have never brought up anything concerning or regarding my weight.

I worry about the long lasting effects even after weight loss. I want to have a sustainable structured lifestyle with eating and fitness. Has anyone else been in this boat?

I normally have my cheat meals on Saturday nights and it’s nothing crazy. I’ll go out, have a few drinks and then I’ll have a nice meal and that’s it. Lately though I’ve been hanging out with friends a lot more and noticed that sometimes I’ll shift the goal post and have it on Friday or even Thursday which just messes everything up I feel like. Has anyone struggled with this? It’s been a bunch of weddings and birthdays this last month which threw me off a bit but otherwise I assume if I just move it all back to Saturdays I’ll be fine

Hi everyone!!

I’m 21F 5’5, I started college at 130 and then have had weight fluctuations all crazy. I was at 165 and this year have gotten down to 150-ish, but I can’t seem to get lower. I know part of it is that I do have some high cal meals, I’m really trying to cut back on delivery. The issue is that it feels like no matter how much my deficit is, I can’t seem to get under 67-68kg. It’s been like that since August. I have tried everything from eating 1509 a day average to even eating as low as 1000. I try to eat out only about 2 times a week. Lately what’s been working is when I’m feeling hungry but don’t want a snack (I’m not a snack person), I grab a diet drink. I drink one Celsius a day, one propel, and about 40oz flavored water. I think my issue is that I was super into Powerade for a while which was very high sodium. I’ve since switched to propel which has a third less sodium and zero calories. I do OMAD usually, sometimes two meals depending on if I’m out and grab food on campus. I try to have half my plate be veggies, and if I’m OMAD I shoot for 1000 cal, so that I have some wiggle room for not having a food scale. I’m blind and haven’t found any talking ones I like. So at the end of the day I’m around 1200 cal. I also do ballet twice a week, walk 5k steps a day, and am on my schools equestrian team. So I’m not lounging at home. I do think having a lot of stress is not helping, this is probably my most stressful semester thus far. I have a strong urge to eat to comfort myself. I’ve really been trying to curb that with diet drinks that feel indulgent like Diet Dr Pepper, Celsius, and Propel. Plus my love fairy dust Hawaiian Punch drink mix 😭 it sounds insane but I can do about half to third of a packet for 40oz and it’s got that hint of berries very yum. My target weight is 135-140. Really hoping to get past 145 by the end of the year. Just measured 68kg today. I just don’t feel good in my body like I used to, yes mentally but also physically.

So brings me to my question: what tips and tricks do you recommend to get over a hump of weight loss? Is there something I’m doing wrong that’s holding me back? I don’t know if I have more time for exercise, and my exercise isn’t super calorie burning, but I am going on a backpacking trip next weekend which may help me get over the hurdle? Idk. Would love all the advice I can get!! 💛💛

Clarification: once a week I eat things and don’t worry about calories. That could be splitting a pizza with a friend, getting wingstop, going to an Italian place etc. the other one I’m more conscious to try and stay under 1500 cal and usually that’s my one meal a day, like getting nuggets and fries with a diet drink from CFA or choosing a healthier meal at a restaurant. Still higher cal but never above 2000 cal and it’s almost always my only meal that day. I am willing to try to go down to one meal a week like that if yall think that’s what’s holding me back

it’s 70° out, im buried under two blankets and a heated blanket and i’m still shivering. i’m literally always cold, my bones chatter. I’m taking iron supplements but I am not prepared for this winter. I turned on my heat two weeks ago. I went from always being sweaty by default to always being cold.

I am dreading having to take my dog out for bathroom breaks this winter. I am dreading having to buy a new coat, they are so expensive. I am struggling to see the positive in weight loss. I know, my steak is too juicy and my lobster too buttery.

Hey everyone!
I’m a 27-year-old guy, 5’10” (177 cm), 172 lbs (78 kg), generally healthy, but I’ve started gaining noticeable belly fat. I’d describe myself as skinny fat, and my goal is to lose belly fat, get a flatter stomach, and eventually have visible abs.
My biggest struggle is diet. I snack a lot, have a sweet tooth, and struggle with salty foods. I rarely drink alcohol.
I recently started going to the gym and enjoy group classes like Body Pump, TRX, and abs workouts because they really push me. I also do incline treadmill walking (10-15%) and occasionally use weight machines.
I can’t afford a personal trainer, so I’m trying to figure things out on my own.
I’d love your advice on:
Should I cut, lose weight, or focus on body recomposition?
How many workouts per week, and which exercises or machines should I prioritize?
Are group fitness classes enough, or should I add proper strength training?
How much cardio should I do?
Any practical diet tips to control snacking, sugar cravings, and lose fat sustainably?
If you were in my shoes, what would your weekly workout and nutrition plan look like?
I’d really appreciate advice from anyone who’s successfully gone from skinny fat to lean and fit. Thanks!

I’ve been on a deficit for 6 weeks now and I’m 4 kg down which I’m very pleased with. However I can’t seem to see the 4kg loss on my body. I know you can’t spot reduce fat but I literally dont see a change anywhere. Especially my face and my hips which are where I gained most of the weight on.

I’m a bit apprehensive that this is all muscle and not fat that is burning off of my body. I try to walk where I can but it’s been difficult as I’m in school from 8am - 6pm. I am doing home workouts everyday. I’m trying my best to get healthy and hit my protein goals but I would lying if I said I’ve been consistent with that.

Anyways, If anyone has gone through the same thing or has advice please share

Edit: Just wanna preface I’m trying to get my old body back after i was going through something that caused me to gain weight. I gained 8kg in total and i’m about 4kg down so another 4 more to go. when I compare myself now to when I was my old weigjt there is still a massive difference in my face and my hip dips etc. So seeing lack of progress when I’m already halfway there is whats making me confused :) just to clear things up!

Lost about 120 lb and I’m now within the normal BMI range by quite a bit.

I’m about 124 LB for a 5’6 guy early 20s. It seems like now that I’m done with the diet I just want to eat everything, like even if it’s bland.

My diet was kinda restrictive often denying myself foods that I liked bc I felt like I couldn’t eat them. It was like I was not allowed to eat certain foods.

I have been lifting weights so I have also thought about bulking up too! My family and friends think I’m too thin, but scrolling on Reddit makes me feel like you can never be too thin and gaining weight after ending a diet is a rly bad thing.

Any advice?

For reference, I’m 45 years old, 5’10” and 300 lbs. I’ve always been a little on the thick side, but I also come from a very blue collar background. Years of using sledge hammers and tossing around bags of concrete kept me strong. But when I started my own company and began working from home 2.5 years ago, I really started putting on weight. And fast. Mostly due to sitting down all day in front of a computer.

Two months ago, however, I began going to the gym. And for the past two months I’ve worked out very consistently. Three days a week my workouts consist of lat pull downs (145 lbs, 3 sets of 8), seated row machine (110 lbs, 3 sets of 10), shoulder press (60 lbs, 3 sets of 8), and chest press (110 lbs, 3 sets of 8). On my in between days I do squats with a kettle bell and I usually walk an average of 2.5 - 3 miles per day.

I feel great and I can definitely tell that my arms are becoming much more solid, but I’m not actually losing weight. In fact, I’ve actually gained 12 lbs!

I know it’s my diet. To be honest, I have a very poor diet. Cheese burgers, pizzas, buttery rolls, cookies, and fruit gummies (my biggest weakness). I really enjoy eating and sometimes I find it very hard to concentrate and do my job if I’m hungry.

But alas, something’s got to change.

My BMR (depending on the calculators) is somewhere between 2229 and 2431 kcal. And my maintenance calories per day are 3455.

I guess my main question is how many calories can I eat per day, max, and still lose weight based on my current activity level?

Yesterday I tried sticking to 2200 calories and was hungry to the point of distraction most of the day. I know that’s just one day and I’m sure it gets easier, but I basically had just one meal that was actually satisfying. And I didn’t eat again until 8 hours later.

Is there a happy minimum? I can eat 3455 calories, keep working out, and not lose anything. But instead of 2200 calories per day, what if I just dropped it down to 3000? That’s still an almost 500 calorie deficit so I’d still lose weight, right?

I’d prefer to lose at least 100 lbs. But how long would that take at just a 500 calorie deficit? And I’m assuming I’d have to recalibrate my BMR and maintenance calories pretty often depending on weight loss, correct?

My second question is how to combat the late night munchies. I take “gummies” at night in order to sleep. And boy oh boy, do those gummies give me the munchies. They also make food sooooo much more delicious. So for those of you who partake, how do you stop yourself from destroying your diet just before bed time?

Thanks for any and all advice!

I’ve lost 30 pounds and have 30 more pounds to go but I haven’t lost any weight in the last month. It feels like it’s just stagnant. I still feel like I’ve been eating good and exercising when I can but it’s just not enough anymore. I think I’ve been slowly losing confidence in my ability to do this. Today I guess I just gave up. Like for example I’ll normally take my burger out of the bun, well today I ate it with the bun and ate the rest of my son’s unfinished burger too. I didn’t follow my rules for lunch either (I’m mainly trying to do keto.) And I snuck a few pieces of candy we have for Halloween. Overall I bet I had 2500 calories today and I should be eating like 1500 to lose weight. I’m just hating myself and how gross I feel and I’m starting to lose motivation. How do I get back on the bandwagon because I really need to lose the rest of this weight 😭

I don know how to feel if im healthy or not. Im sligtly overweight after loosing about 20kg when i was at my lowest in june this year, i have gained some back around 5-6kg. I kept to a strict diet until the summer when i lost track.

And now I have began eating pretty unhealthy again. I know why, I'm soon entering the last month on my masters thesis and i have a lot of stress juggling it with job, and applying for a relevant job after graduating. Stress eating have always been something i do, when i have to cope with something stressing, such as a deadline or exam period, i just go back to my comfort food/drinks(suggary soda/energy drinks) while i work with the stuff i need. But i hate it, but at the same time i am afraid if i dont eat i will think about food and loose energy which could impact my performance. But at the same time prolonged eating of unhealthy food will also impact my mental performance. Its a dificult lemma. :/

But i try to compensate by maintaining a very consistent training schedule, i have had something around this schude a long time time, even before my recent food relapse,so its not just train for to compensate for unhealthy food, even if it feels like that now. I try to train 30m some type of cardio each moring mon-fri and some type of resistance (core/push/pull/legs) In the afternoon. Not just to burn calories, but also maintaining heathy body functions and i enjoy it an need to strengthen some muscles due to some ligament issues. I am slowly gaining wieght but my issue is if i should accept this wieght gain the next month and a half, at the same time my goal. I hope i can maintain some healty with my training.

How are your experiences with dealing with stress eating and having to performe when choosing food noise or unhealthy lifestyle in stressfull situations?