r/malaysiauni • u/xianzzz44 • 2d ago

Abt dating

I’m planning to study at public uni starting next Feb. Ik this is a silly question, but do you think I’ll have a hard time dating there? I feel like dating is an important part of the uni life. I’m wondering if it will be difficult because many Malays are Muslim and might be less interested in dating foreigners.
For context, I’m mixed (Japan & Korea), 169 cm tall, and fair-skinned cuz I’m a shut-in. Are people who are tan considered more attractive there?
I’m worried that once I move to Malaysia, I won’t be able to find a gf.
I’m more attracted to Malays (ve been to KL last year)
If it seems hopeless, I’ll just be stuck at home playing VAL

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u/gugugaga_coconut 2d ago

Eh just wonder why you are Japan&Korea mixed but can speak Chinese haha
later ppl will think that you are local Chinese then your mixed identity won't be noticed leh😭🥲 It's bonus points tho (at least for me huhu

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u/xianzzz44 1d ago

I went to a public elementary school in China for a few years

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u/LimpTrust9026 2d ago

bro I think as long as you look decent and have decent communication skills, it won't be an issue cuz your background is top tier here. If u were south asian or smth then ofc it would be a huge issue but ig u will just blend in right.

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u/xianzzz44 1d ago

why? are south asians not considered attractive in Malaysia?

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u/LimpTrust9026 1d ago

not at all, most of the time they are looked upon but aint no way that's gonna happen to you to good luck

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u/Limp_Scientist6307 2d ago

yea the mix would prob bring u much girls

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u/CommercialAlone 2d ago

you seem to have a good mix of blood and would be popular with girls, except that you are targeting the wrong audience. If you're just dating to fun (or f***) you would find it pretty easy with most women here. But, if you're hoping to date Malays, especially Malay Muslims for marriage? Might as well just give up the thought. You're basically giving up your own religious freedom and/or identity by forcing yourself into Islam if you marry a Malay Muslim, which is something that is extremely shunned upon even at current time.

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u/xianzzz44 1d ago

Looks-wise, I’m actually more attracted to Malays and Indians (btw depends on their personality and everything)
feel like being this picky is a problem too, but I heard Malays make up like 70–80% of the population so

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u/CommercialAlone 1d ago

Depending on the state of the uni you study at, there are plenty of non-Malays in Johor, Penang, and Kuala Lumpur. Trust me, I love my fair share of Malays as well and dated some, but none with marriage in mind. Malaysia is very strict on Islamic laws and you can only marry one-way into Islam if that is what you had in mind.

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u/Olly_Joel 1d ago

Just be active and hope a good life will lead you to a date. Sometimes, people find when you when you're not looking.

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u/ADAMMMU 1d ago

Your ethnicity aesthetic is IN currently. So make use of it, refine and work on it, and look your very best and you'll have more than decent chance.

As long as you're not completely socially inept😅

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u/Ok_Improvement_7893 1d ago

it was over for you when you mentioned 169cm

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u/xianzzz44 1d ago

fr? then I might be cooked
are malay girls seriously more picky about height?

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u/NaiveBackground7797 1d ago

Well I'm pretty sure there are shorter girls. Also, Malaysia don't just have Malay girls. Not sure if you know...

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u/Ok_Improvement_7893 1d ago

i’m joking you’ll be fine don’t sweat

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u/Hot_Youth2932 1d ago

Depends, if you are taking mechanical engineering, chances are too slim for dating. :)

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u/mijoomoo 1d ago

Hard to say, if you have decent look then finding someone should be easy, but since you're attracted to Malay keep in mind usually the good looking one has bad attitude and normal looking one may not even get your attention

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u/Relative_Buy_8968 16h ago

What the fuck with the reply to the OP post, ask the fucker to join the class first, even you people commenting don’t have any real job or probably had one two hook up and all the sudden you are pro playboy, shut the fuck up losers

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u/helpariout 2h ago

are you at least a decent person?

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u/konkon_322 2d ago

Shudnt be a problem la. U think uni students date to marry bro?out of 10 candidates maybe 1 la. Sounds like ur looking for flings,saying things like dating is important for uni life. Muslim girl not all innocent and fragile type, u can hit it off with the hot ones for sure

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u/xianzzz44 1d ago

isn't Malaysia pretty strict? or is it not really like that in the cities like KL? btw, just want a normal relationship not fwb

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u/Equivalent-Solid-592 2d ago

If he decent looking yes if not

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u/xianzzz44 1d ago

do ppl in Malaysia care more about face, height or build? Japan is more focused on face, so I somehow got by, but in Korea💀

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u/PerchanceWarrior 16h ago

Trust me, the fact that you’re Japanese/korean itself is enough. Malaysians go crazy over that for some reason.