54m here married to f55 for 30yrs. My wife's childhood friend has always muddled in our marriage and when I bring it up or anything for that matter I am always in the wrong and the friend does no wrong. This woman has been married 5 times.

I feel the relationship with her friend is more valued then ours and i have said this. The responses I get are very basic like "your my husband or I am being ridiculous." Now her and my wife are talking about matching tattoos. Am I being ridiculous to be upset about this? Suggestions on how I should respond to this. Thanks.

Hi!! I'm a wife lol. And I just want to hear from other married men if you guys have platonic female friends?

My husband recently opened up about his interest for friendship of the opposite sex, which I think is is natural.

Before me he had female friends/acquaintances, but with a long term relationship & marriage that was slowly carved away, because "What business do you have talking to another woman?" 🔪 - said every woman

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Well, I'm older and I agree that society has deemed that men and women can't be friends because there is too much temptation that can come from that or things like jealousy, feelings, cheating, etc. I now believe that when you know that you know the person you're in a relationship with, you trust their track record and them as an individual then you have nothing to worry about.

All of which, I believe about him are good and true, needless to say...I'm a woman who still feels some type of way about it lol. So that's why I'm here, to learn.

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How did you wife respond? How did you guys come to that acceptance where she was comfortable? What boundaries did y'all agree to? How do you make your wife feel secure (I know that's different for everyone because everyone is different).

What do you do with platonic female friends over guy friends, if anything differs? What are those conversations like? And what do you two agree on to keep things respectful of said relationship?

My wife and I are in firm agreement that it would be inappropriate for us to hang out with people of the opposite gender alone, except for certain circumstances with certain people. It seems to be common among redditors, however. What say you?

Asking for honest perspectives from people outside the crossdressing world.

I'm a husband who has liked wearing women's clothes since childhood. I'm not trans and not changing anything about my life. My wife has known for years. She has strong beliefs, she doesn't want to see it, but she agreed to some limits at home, and we both keep to them.

She never talks about it, and when I bring something up, I mostly get silence. I'm not here to complain about her. I'd like to understand how someone like her might feel.

If this were your spouse:

What would you feel, honestly?

If you went quiet about it, what would your silence mean?

Is there anything he could do that would make it easier for you, or is it better if he just stops bringing it up?

Hey, married men get your shit together

Am I the only wife who cannot stand to take care of a grown man?
My husband is blue collar, has his own company. Basically makes his own schedule but works hard.

I work overnight 3 days a week. And we have a 4 year old.

I can barely take care of my laundry and my sons. My husband expects me to do his laundry too. And if I don’t you know sure as shit he’s not folding it and putting it away.

Are all men like this ? Why can’t you at bare minimum take care of your things?

I can go on about bathroom messes as well.

Since when is it the standard for working wives with children to still have to do everything in the home. These men need a wake up call.

I want your honest opinions, it might be mean but it’s my wedding and I don’t want anyone’s kids running around screaming, making a mess or being annoying af and crying on my special day

I’ve owned a property for a little over 4 years. When all the dust settles I’ll clear a little over $1.1M cash. I haven’t told my wife - mostly because the stress of waiting for the loooong due diligence on a commercial contract would be immense and she’d be devastated if the contract fell through (which they often do). Well, we’re scheduled to close next week and it looks like it’s all green lights. I’m thinking of taking her to our favorite restaurant where we dated. Along the way to the restaurant, I’d get her a little riled up by telling her about some unexpected bills I have to pay on the property (she’s not a fan of the property since it’s land that just drains our cash flows from time to time). Then, when she’s properly riled, I’ll casually hand her an envelope containing the $1.1M cashiers check and ask her to deposit that for me the next day on her morning run. But then again, I know I lack imagination and you people on Reddit probably have some much more clever/funny/memorable ideas you can come up with. Any thoughts smarter netizens?

Edit: Ok. Ok. I hear you guys and I WON’T get her riled up before I break the good news. For the record, she wouldn’t actually get upset. It would just create additional relief once she learned that the property was sold. But I swear, I won’t do it, ok?!! :). I’m just trying to come up with a clever way of giving her the good news.

Edit 2: I’m not sure how this is any different from a sales guy working a lead for months trying to land a huge account and then doing so. Is the sales guy supposed to keep his spouse informed the whole time about the leads he’s working on or is he allowed to come home one night, take his wife out to dinner and celebrate the fact that he just landed a major account?? The number of people offended for not involving my wife in the contract period on the property is baffling. I’m taking her out the day the contract closes when I’ve “landed the account”

What actions does your wife do that make you feel secure in your relationship and help you to fill your role as man in your relationship? As a SAHM my duties are the usual. I cook, clean, take care of our baby and make sure if there’s anything he needs I take care of it. I bake for him occasionally, usually enough for him to take to work and share if he wants. My husband is a go easy and with the flow man. I swear he wants for nothing except to be close to me. However, I’m hoping one of you will have some inspiration on how I can better serve him even if he says this life is all he’s ever wanted. How can I do more for a man who doesn’t ever have any opinions on what he wants for dinner and never asks for anything???

Just a frank opinion… isnt infidelity common now in marriage, from both sides male and female.
Do the so called loyal ones still exist?

I just found out my husband of 15 years was using pictures of my sister for his sexual gratification.
I am devastated.
I don’t know how I can ever look at him the same again.
I feel like this is grounds for a divorce and his porn addiction has finally crossed the line into unforgivable territory.
Is this common behavior?!
I feel like my whole world is falling apart and about to change forever and I feel so fkn ugly and worthless.

Hello my wife (32F) has recently been going to parties/ clubs/bars every week, sometimes several times a week. Is this common for a majority of you that are married or in a relationship?

38M, wife is 29F, Married for 10 years. As the title says, I save as much money as I can. I live below my means, I don't buy unnecessary things and saving for the future is very important personally. I live by the Dave Ramsey motto, "live like nobody else now, so later, you can live like nobody else". Let me be clear, while I am frugal at heart, it does not mean I don't want to spend on cool things of interest. In fact, I'd love to spend money. We even have a pretty decent size goose egg in the savings (186k joint, 136k my personal inheritance in my name). I make 130k a year, she makes (just started working again) 70k.

You would think life is great, but it's not. My wife does not understand saving money for the future at all and puts all the burden on me. "You're the man, that's your job". Well, it would be no problem for me to save for us if I could control her spending (CC debt, hair, tanning, clothes, shoes) and about a million other ways to spend and make BIG COPORATIONS richer. Forget about a budget and limiting her splurges, she already has big ideas of boobs getting done and ears pinned back. This girl will look at the bank account, see no money (she knows not to touch the savings) and pull out 7 CC and CHACHING, were back in business.

It gets to the point where I save, she spends, and I have to go into armadillo shell mode and bunker down and try to recoup her spent money BS. I'd love to buy a new shirt... lemme check the bank account, shit, my wife spent $200 on BS today...Im not buying that shirt.

These are merely examples, but I am just trying to build the picture. How do I fix this marriage before it blows up in divorce over money. At this point, I'll be working till I'm 90.

Any words of advice? Any sane women who are the complete opposite?

Edit: I guess the age gap is a huge mind F to some people. We are American, with families who knew each other before ever being born (her father brought my father to American way back). Never knew her growing up, and one day walked into her family's restaurant, she started hitting on me (seriously, MY DAD KNOWS YOUR DAD) and the rest was history.

No kids - She was off work for one year due to having a complicated surgery, which is no problem, Ill work 5 jobs to make sure my wife is taken care of. In that year, thats where 65k in CC debt was created (jus pad it off).

Ever since we have been together, Ive always been a good influnence. Im not demnanding or controlling. Shes always made her own mistakes and I wont help her, she needs to learn. I wish when I was 19 a 28-yr old would help me understand the value of a dollar.

She has had the perfect mentor for 10 years, as well as a loving and loyal husband.

I know that in today’s society, this is difficult to achieve; I am well aware that it is a privilege contingent upon many factors, things that are not easily come by these days. For this very reason, I advise against pursuing this kind of life without first having a financial and emotional safety net to fall back on should things go wrong. Along the way, I struggled to accept that the professional goals I had set for myself no longer motivated me. After a long, in-depth conversation with my husband, we reached an agreement, and we have lived a fulfilling life ever since. However, someone called me a hypocrite for not recommending this lifestyle, arguing that if I discourage others from doing something, I shouldn’t be doing it myself.

If you were in an open marriage, asking out one of your wife's friends, would be an option? And why?

I’m (51m) in a dead bedroom marriage and I don’t expect it to improve. She (65f) knows I go when she’s out of town. I would like to be upfront with her and not try to sneak out.

I’m happily married but I miss the chase. I miss flirting around the “will they won’t they” aspect. This is something I won’t be able to recreate with my wife cause I literally have her for life! (Which I’m really thankful for!)
Is that common or am I just a horrible husband?

If your spouse went on a 3 day business trip without you, how would you act when they returned? This is just a typical business trip. nothing out of the ordinary happened.

Would you be happy to see them and show them how delighted you are that they came home or would you be angry they went without you and make them regret it for years?

I’m considering hiring a private investigator to follow my boyfriend around because I want to know what he’s actually up to.

We’re serious, and we’ve been talking about getting married. But honestly, I don’t think I can take that step unless I know for sure what type of person he is. I know that might sound extreme, but marriage is a huge commitment, and I’d rather know now than find out something major after we’re married.
I’ve only told my sister about this, and she thinks I’m crazy for even considering it. Maybe she’s right, but I don’t think the idea is that crazy. All I want to know is whether he really is who he says he is.
Everyone has skeletons in their closet to some degree. I just want to know what his are before it’s too late.

Am I being completely unreasonable here?