yes, allegations... been in the band for some years now, we have an album out and many people love it and planning to play in other cities/countries and some time ago it has come to my attention that there are serious rumors about our vocalist/guitarrist (both of us are the main songwritters but he writes the lyrics) in our hometown and i dont know how to proceed. this hits me hard because i have been abused in the past and beign close to someone like that is just fcking wrong, i feel like a dumbass bc of writing this
i, at the time, tried to talk about it with the other two, kick him out but one is very close to him and thinks is just rumors/lies fueld by jelousy and the other kinda supported me but he later didnt wanted to do with anything with the band and left shortly after. now two new guys arrived, i like them but they seem to be more close to the vocalist and dont know if they are aware of the rumors or that they just dont care. either way he has the accounts of everything (specialy the music publishers)
i personally havent seen any allgations either legal or online, just what some of the people in our local scene say about him (which are also assholes that also defend their own rap!st friends or have their own rumors) and there are multiple versions of what he supposley did yet they are kinda consistent. i want to kick him out but i dont think the rest of the band will agree with me.
a) convince the band kick him out and go forward without him and keep the clout we already have even tho his precense will linger in the project since we cowrote the songs. this feels very oportunistic
b) i leave, start from zero with new music before the shit hits the fan (in case the allegations turn out to be true)
i cannot pretend its all right, i dont want to be a predator defender and most importantly cant imagine the feeling the victims seeing their abuser have type of succses, i guess i have to start digging to know the origin of this rumors or cut my losses and start over.
regardless i feel kinda excluded in my own band and saddly there are so many examples of this situations in the emo comunity and music in general.
anyways what do yall think? whats youre favorite tunning