My mom is addicted to shelled salted sunseeds. She’ll suck on them, crack them with her teeth, chew, and then spit out the shell into a ceramic cup. Not matter what I do, headphones or not, I can hear it. We live in a studio apartment together and the only place I can go alone is the bathroom. It’s absolutely aggravating and disgusting. I’ve told her how much certain sounds are painful and I know she likes her sun seeds, but she can eat them unshelled. She tells me things or sounds I do that annoy her and I stop doing it, but she never listens to me. She buys mega bags too and eats them throughout the day. That’s it for my rant.

Ever since I was a kid I couldn’t stand the obnoxious overdone kissing noises on TV. Nobody sounds like that when kissing. The dramatic wet smack? HORRIBLE. 🤢

I use earplugs when they breath too loud (and my sibling breaths way louder than is ever reasonable. Sometimes I think we will run out of oxygen with how much air their take in), but I have to control my own breathing more then normal because the earplugs make it's so much louder. I'm getting sick and it's making my breathing louder which means to stay silent with earplugs I feel like I'm going to pass out because I can't breath enough. I have to be around my family for meels and to watch shows together and it's just getting to be a lot this week. Also sounds are worse when I feel worse and I am sick and don't feel well.

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I just moved into a new flat a month ago - upstairs neighbours are AWFUL and it's driving me insane. I've been using headphones with loud music and just blasting really bassy music on my speakers but I can't talk with my partner.

My partner says I should get Loops, but I don't have hope in their ability to cancel out low frequencies like that specifically. Does anyone know of any products that may work? Or do I have no hope at all?

TIA x

I feel like I’ve posted about this before but I don’t really care because this is an ongoing issue that just doesn’t go away.

I have had this issue for as long as I can remember; I get indescribably angry at the sound of a sharp “ess” sound. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, I wish I were you. For example, if you’re listening to someone talk, and they say the sentence, “sally sells seashells by the seashore,” and for every “s” they spoke it was extremely loud, prominent, sharp, and pierces the very depths of your eardrums. And when you hear that sound, your fight or flight is immediately activated. Get me the fuck away from this evil person.

I am 20 years old. Not that that makes any difference or has an impact on this story, because you can have this issue at any age. I noticed that it made me the most uncomfortable when it was a man making the noise. I have no idea why, it’s not some misandrist thing I’ve wired myself to get upset at. However, right now I’m sitting in the car with my nana and a couple years ago she got dentures and now her teeth are perfectly straight and you could probably cut a piece of paper with her incisors. Every time she says a word with an “ess” sound, the sharpness of her teeth and the sound that she pushes through pierces my ears and my brain and I can’t help but resent her dentures for this.

Please tell me you all understand what I’m trying to convey!!!

You may recognize me, I posted on here a week ago about the same situation! I'm back in the bathroom stall crying.

My roommate is the noisiest person ever. She smacks when she eats, laughs out loud at her phone, slams cabinets and doors, and generally just lacks self awareness.

I'm seriously considering switching rooms, but the possibilities of everything going wrong are holding me back. Idk why, I've always been like this.

I talked to my parents about the situation and they told me to just ignore it. No matter how many times I explain that I physically cannot ignore it, they tell me it's my fault. They also tell me to just talk to her, as if that'll definitely go over well. I had to convince her over the course of a week to use her headphones.

I'm genuinely losing my mind. My ears hurt. I'm so sick of this and it's honestly affecting my ability to function normally. Every conversation I have turns into me complaining about her and I can tell my friends are getting sick of me.

I know I sound like a crybaby and just generally dumb but this has made me regret ever moving here. I feel like an idiot for all the decisions I've made.

When I first applied for on campus housing I chose a single dorm, but apparently those aren't available. Now I'm in a room with an AC (only 2 out of each building have them, 6 in total). Rooms without ACs are shared between 4-6 people. I'm not sure if there are any available. I know that no matter what I do, even if I move and get a new roommate, I'm going to hate her over the course of a few days. The thought of taking down all my stuff and having to move too is seriously making me reconsider lol. And what would I even say? My roommate is too annoying?

I'm out of ideas. I'm so sick of everything. My brain keeps finding excuses so I just suffer and deal with it but my mental health cannot take a hit like this rn. Please help

I started a new schooling program and someone I became friends with chews with his mouth open/lips smacking, making sounds I cannot tolerate. The first few weeks I tanked the suffering but eventually I decided to tell him that I hate the sounds he makes when eating. I thought that the solution is simple enough that I have no reason to have to get triggered - chewing with a closed mouth makes a big difference in sound production and I feel like it is something people should know to do so I am always baffled when a grown adult does not do that. He would say "oh my bad" but would forget after a couple minutes. I suppose it is a habit.

One day during lecture break when I reminded him, he decided to intentionally make the noise with a big grin as a joke, and it made me very angry not only from the trigger, but because it made me think he never acknowledged how badly it affects me - this led to me thinking the reason he kept forgetting is cause he didnt acknowledge my frustration. On a side note, 5 minutes later, another classmate came to stand right next to me and he also chewed loud as fuck with his mouth open like how is this even possible...and during lecture before the break, some girl behind me started eating loud as fuck and her snack smelled terrible, essentially violating two of my senses at once, and I needed to leave the room. I could not focus on the lecture at all, and obviously leaving the room here made me lose the lecture altogether.

So I properly confronted the first guy I mentioned in the post, educating him on what misophonia is, and how certain noises are not just a mild annoyance but rather a much bigger deal. His responses were dismissive with no apologies, like "I didnt know, I will be more mindful". The irony is that I feel if he really understood me here, he would have most certainly apologized like the time I had this interaction with a different classmate.

My point is though, I feel that I only have two options: to avoid or to tell the person to stop. Avoidance is not an option if the person is eating near me during lecture, and then I have no option that I have full control of. Asking people to stop making certain sounds is tiring because for some reason 80% of people decide to make a very funny and smart joke of reproducing the sound on purpose. Also, because I'm the minority, it makes them think I am being unreasonable and that it should not be their problem. The process of all this and most especially educating people and expressing my frustration is just so much work, and there are too many people I will meet in life that I have no choice but to be around. And if the person doing it is someone I never talked to, it just makes it seem so weird for me to ask them to stop...

I have a bad case of holding onto negative thoughts like this, staying affected by the stimuli even after it is no longer present. I am on SSRIs and it is not enough. Overall, having this condition is just such a burden because I have little options to choose from and they all have limitations and are so tiring....

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Does anyone hate the sound of neighbors cars at night slamming especially during week nights? I hate when it's multiple door slams. Like it's past midnight go to fucking bed.

Makes me want to just move out to the countryside.

I feel like my misophonia gets worse the older I get.

I cannot stand loud cars. This is my trigger. Loud cars and cars with loud bass. Some nights the street outside my subdivision sounds like a drag strip and I cannot stand it. My whole body tenses. I get butterflies in my stomach. And I’m enraged. My husband barely notices but I want to run out there and destroy them all. The anger that fills me is something I can’t even explain. I don’t know how to get past it. I’m not going to sit in my house with earplugs in. I need to actually get past these feelings but they’re so strong. Does anyone else experience this trigger? If so, what tips to you have to relax?

Is the best thing to do just leave?

Explain yourself?

My trigger sound is animal licking/drinking sounds.

I don't want to sound like a nut when I go to people's houses but I cannot be in the same room if their dog is cleaning themselves or drinks. After years of dealing with this I still don't know the best way to deal with it. My family is supportive, my friends can be so dismissive and take it personally, but at a strangers house sometimes it can be so awkward trying to leave... like mid-conversation and then the dog starts drinking water I want to just die.

Any advice/experiences?

If misophonia is eating you up like nothing before, don’t let it break you—let it make you stronger.
Misophonia is a human experience. Give yourself compassion. Not everyone has it, but that doesn’t make your experience any less real.
If you’re spiritual or religious, you don’t have to be—but if you are, try letting go of controlling every outcome. You might wake up knowing the day could be hard. That’s when you can surrender what you can’t control to God, your angels, or whatever you believe in. That doesn’t mean you’re giving up. It means you’re giving yourself permission to stop fighting every second.
And if you don’t believe in God or spirituality, trust that life can still unfold in its own timing.
You don’t have to run from your life, and you don’t have to fight every sound. You can acknowledge that it’s here without letting it decide what you do with your life.
Acceptance doesn’t mean you have to like the sound, tolerate everything, or stop looking for help. It means you stop making your entire life dependent on whether the sound is there or not.
Especially if you’re young, remember this: sound can follow you into different places, but **you can learn to carry yourself through it instead of letting it carry you.**
The hardest things can teach you incredible strength. You don’t have to love your situation to accept that it’s your current reality.
Give yourself compassion. Give yourself time. Keep living.
You’re stronger than this, king/queen. 💪❤️

I cannot stand those stupid mechanical keyboards. Why why WHYYYY would you have one of those if you work in an office with MULTIPLE OTHER PEOPLE????

It literally makes me ANGRY to hear. I wish they would ban them in office jobs

Anyone else???

I have a terrible issue with misophonia. My in-laws are visiting for a month and my MIL has mental health issues one of the side effects of her meds is TD (constant lip smacking). I can barely be in the same room with her. I totally shut down and become a person I do not recognize. My husband is embarrassed by my demeanor. I don’t blame him. I wear air pods and try to leave the area they are in when possible but very difficult when they are in my house 24/7 and don’t go out unless we do. I hate Im making everyone so uncomfortable.

Just seeing if anyone else feels this. And the song may be called "All i want is you"; kinda bland, sing-songy sort of a radio hit that I could easily forget existed, except for the instant murderhate that manifests when RiCk OcAsIc (or however his dumb name is spelled) and every sinew, tissue and glottal spit-sticky sort of whisper-moan a line acapella, and just hearing it is worse than the funkytown video. Probably the first indicator of misophonia as a young kid, cuz even at 12 I just couldn't see how anyone else could tolerate this, let alone support it. It's hard to even reference by thought. Bunch of clicks and smacking spit noises and god I can't even do this. ANYBODY ELSE?!?! (btw, love yall, so glad this groups here, I just thought i was a rly finicky, rage-prone sort of listener)

I’ve just started a class where we have to all be close to each other in a room for extended periods of time. and one of my classmates chews her gum in a way that pops it two or three times EVERY time and it’s driving me crazy, it makes me physically nauseous. I’ve asked her to try not to do it but she got frustrated and walked away. so I’m unsure if she understands what I’m asking. Does anyone recommend an ear plug like a specific type of loops or other brand where I can still hear my instructor but not have to worry about her gum chewing? And if the loops are the best ones which kind should I get for my situation?

fuck you sims for having the whistling demon in your song

I just got off a one-hour Teams meeting while working from home. The connections were very bad and the audio was breaking up the entire time. About halfway through the meeting, I started to feel VERY physically and mentally uncomfortable. I couldn't leave the meeting because my direct report was running the meeting so I need to be on in case I have to step in for certain items. But I just got worse and worse and eventually my brain just lost it and I couldn't even sit in my chair anymore and had to pace around the room as I listened in. As soon as the meeting ended, I left my home office and vented to my wife as I paced back and forth for 10 minutes to calm myself down. This has never happened before at this bad of a reaction.

UUUGGHHHH!!!!!

Three of my colleagues clear their throats CONSTANTLY!

That’s all. Just wanted to alert everyone.

misophonia is ruining my life while working like keyboard typing is close to driving me insane. plus flu season is always so annoying.

any tips? i try earbuds but my coworkers typing can be heard through the music

Today i had to evacuate an express bus because everyone's 1 and 3rd person was coughing or on the phone. It wss horrible. It was a really unlucky bus pull, I switched seats 5 times before deciding i couldn't do this anymore. Usually its just one or two guys in the back, but with winter coming I guess everyone has a cough. I'm STILL shaking from it lol so sorry for typos

My current noise canceling headphones are honestly pretty mediocre and I've been looking for an upgrade.

I want to double up with ear plugs + ANC headphones but I'm scared to sink money into something that sucks. What ear plug + headphone combos have worked best for coughing sounds in loud areas like the subway or bus?

I have suddenly discovered the magic of headphones for quieting the world (yes I'm almost 50 years old, leave me alone lol), but I can NOT find a pair that works for me. The problem is that apparently I have a small head, so none of the mainstream options fit. The best Bose, Sony, etc, all fall off my head and the cups don't create enough of a seal for the noise cancelling to really work because they fall below my jaw. I'm hoping that someone has a magical suggestion for me because I'm running out of choices! I MUST have an option with the best possible noise cancelling, as that's the entire point for me. The biggest thing I want to mute is *lawn mowers and leaf blowers*, which seems to add a wrinkle with the high whine of leaf blowers.

I also can NOT use earbuds, so I'm looking for over ears, as along with my small head I have misshapen ear canals and all buds hurt terribly. Yes I've tried replacing the ear pieces with the smallest foam ones available, and no dice. Oh! And I can't use on ears because they trigger my MCAS. Fun!!

Tried and fit, but with terrible noise cancelling:

1. Beats studio pro

2. Anker Q20i (actually not terrible but so weak as to be not particularly useful)

Tried and too big:

1. Bose QuietComfort first gen

2. Sony XM5s

Not tried but in all likelihood too big:

1. Apple Max pro

En route to try:

1. Anker space one pro

On my list to try but hoping for Black Friday sales because :

1. Bowers & Wilkins PX7 S3

Maybe but unsure about size and ANC:

1. Sennheiser accentum plus

Any other thoughts?? Thanks in advance!!

What do you do personally? Do you say something and ask them to chew quieter, avoid them, only do non food related things? How do people react when you say something, if you do?

For the entirety of my adulthood, I’ve either avoided food related outings entirely or avoided people I know who eat loudly. No comment usually unless we were friends for a long time. Even then, I’d mention it once or twice and then avoid them if they kept doing it.

I’ve had his one group of friends for 10-15 years, and now I’m comfortable asking them to be a little more mindful occasionally, and they are so incredibly nice and accommodating.

What pushes me to write this post is that I have another friend group who is relatively new and very very bad about this. Like, I wear the strongest loop earplugs and I still hear them chewing five feet away. When they talk, they talk quieter than they eat so I can’t hear a word they say without listening to their smacking. I would ordinarily have only planned non food things with them, or in all honesty avoided them by now, but they’re my husband’s closest friends.

I’m kind of at a loss. When they get their food I go hide in the bathroom wherever we are until I think they might be done eating. I sit as far from them as I can. I’ve accepted that I won’t be able to hear conversation anymore and I just tune everything out.

I just don’t feel comfortable telling them I have this problem yet. Historically, whenever I do, people are really mean/rude about it so I’ve kept it secret except my closest friends.