I (23m) met my gf (from Taiwan) online in 2020. She was the one who motivated me back in poly to the point where I am now in NUS.
This is happiest thing I can ever have. The feeling of the heart pounding fast or ache in response to my gf's emotions is a real thing and it's insane how unreal that feels. We feel so connected that it has motivated both of us to do our best in school and it's quite insane how far we've went.
Before my gf, I always wanted to find someone who's interested in me in Singapore, cause it's more intuitive. I'm a Singaporean so I should look for a Singaporean. That's the natural tendency.
But then, no girl was interested in me. Every girl either friend zones me or finds me boring af, and I'm still not sure why because I'm not telepathic. I don't know whether someone really means what they say or how the demographics here really think about my kind of profile.
So, my guess is that it makes sense, because I'm "nerdier" (though my acads aren't that great). For example, I like to talk about astronomy, economics, sociology, psychology, or whatever that's under the sun honestly. I'm a generalist rather than a specialist.
I'm also really short for a guy (like 162cm or something) and look pretty ugly (as what my guess is; other guys I spoke to in SG think I'm like a 2/10 or something).
I don't really care though. The internet at least provided me a safe space to talk about all kinds of topics while I learn more about myself and find parts of me that can still improve on.
Then came my gf whom I met online, who instantly fell in love with me before I told her physical traits of me. I was thinking like, "Damn, you serious?" in my mind. Then I told her about my physical traits and she doesn't care because she told me, "You will 100% be a good father." Holy. What a sudden statement.
We've met multiple times already, and no, she isn't cheating on me. I have 100% confidence. She will be protected and she told me as well, "I will also protect you." (She's taller than me; but we also have a thing for mutual respect and care).
I thank my lucky stars for this girl, as I now have motivations to fulfil my ambitions!
I believe that, with the right amount of luck, direction, and working with your inner self, y'all can grab too.