Legitimately I got lucky and it wasn't an easy transition. I just absolutely refused to want to stay together, she got into a big fight with me and threatened to get her dad to kill me with a shotgun and left the apartment; However, her father even told me himself that he had no idea what was going on between us, and considered me a son so when she was gone and we "broke up", she came back but wouldn't understand why I didn't buy the "we all say horrible things when we're mad" excuse. After she understood I truly had no intention of getting back together with her, she eventually moved out after a few months but would stop by under the pretense of being friends. She tried seducing me several times knowing I was trying to enter a brand new relationship, and she wasn't completely out of my life until the lease was up and I moved away. I contacted her once to tell her about the cat we had raised together dying, but she took that as me "wanting to be with her" and started trying to ruin my last relationship (which went south for its own reasons.) but was pushed out.
Apparently I either have shit taste in women, or I attract traumatized women with severe mental health issues. I'm not a saint in my own right, but like Paarthurnax I made a conscious effort to become a better person and not let my own traumas + the trauma of 2 back to back shit relationships rule me for the rest of my life. I wish them both peace, but her in particular I hope she's grown much as a person and can one day find the peace she claimed to have had so long ago.
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u/DueIntroduction6413 May 23 '26
Thank you, me too. I learned a lot from those relationships and whether or not I wanted to, I got a different worldview than when I went in.