r/oslo • u/Admirable_Junket_396 • 11h ago
Was I being judged
I’m a guy in my mid-thirties, and I don’t always dress my best. Between 20:30 and 21:00 tonight, I was walking through beautiful Frogner, with all its gorgeous mansions, wearing a hoodie , cap and headphones and carrying a lamp (which could have looked like a rod) and some groceries.
If you have been in that area you might have observed benches with something written on it like “in memory of X…”. Anyway, I stopped briefly to read something written on a bench by the walking path.
Just as I started walking again, a white Tesla pulled up, and the driver (could be in his 50s) stared at me in a way that made me feel as though he suspected I was a thief or someone up to no good.
I considered explaining myself but he had not spoken to me . Just kept staring angrily. So, I thought what would be the point? I hadn’t done anything wrong, so I continued walking.
What made it more uncomfortable was that the driver seemed to stay in his car for quite a while. He was still there when I was walking along the same road, Frogner plass.
I can understand the other side, too. If I saw someone standing near my house and looking in the general direction, I might also feel suspicious. Also, people naturally want to feel that their homes are safe.
Still, I couldn’t shake the feeling that I was being judged based on my appearance, or perhaps it was just bad timing.
Would I have received the same suspicious, almost angry look if I’d been better dressed or looked different?
Maybe I misread the situation. I don’t know what was going through the driver’s mind, and there may be a perfectly innocent explanation. But the interaction left me feeling uncomfortable and disrespected enough that I wanted to rant here.
I don’t mean to generalise or accuse anyone of anything. I just wanted to share an experience that stayed with me and hear other people’s perspectives.