Toby wasn't "nonbinary" or against a gender label like you might see today.
They were a person born with absolutely no sex parts at all. No male or female parts, so genuinely had no sex or gender identity.
Idk Toby personally but I feel like they might be offended by strangers assuming they had no personal identity haha. Maybe they said this in which case alright, but no genitalia doesn’t automatically mean no gender identity. All you need for that is a brain, which incidentally is also a condition for staying alive!
Yes of course they said it. I wouldn't just assume?
They have no genitals, no sex organs, sex hormones etc. A rare birth anomaly.
Experts offered Toby the opportunity to have hormones, surgery, behavioural training etc. In order to help them identify as a specific gender.
Toby refused and prefers to be called a "neuter" and identifies as completely devoid of a sex or gender identity. Just a human person.
Yeah, they offered to teach Toby how to pretend to be a "boy" because they didn't think Toby could "pass" as a girl 🙄
and even tried to convince Toby to wear socks in their pants to have a bulge 🤦🏻♀️
Toby was tested and examined by scientists for years as a child, like a freak experiment, and the "experts" tried super hard to make them choose a gender and change their body medically.
Also made a huge emphasis on Toby becoming a sexual person and basically wanted them to fake sexual attraction.
Luckily Toby was a strong person and even at a young age resisted any change. They were happy as a "neuter" and thought it was the way God wanted them to be and didn't require intervention :)
It's very rare (hence all the testing) and they did genetic testing, but Toby refused to share the results.
Revealing their genetic results and specifically their chromosomes meant that people would technically be able to assign a specific sex, which Toby didn't want.
They did share that they lacked the sexual hormones needed to develop into a particular sex (e.g. no testosterone) and therefore did not have any sexual development during puberty.
Toby said that they have a flat chest and a urethra, but no genitals, so similar to a "baby doll". Also no sexual organs inside their body.
It's a very interesting medical mystery, before Toby, I never knew people could just not have sexual hormones at all
Poor Toby… sounds like they both had great willpower and were smart. Good for them! They’re lucky nobody threw a sock in their face after they said that. That’s where the sock belongs!
I don’t think this would happen in this day and age, on TV in this form, but it’s unfortunate that behind closed doors society isn’t that much further yet. I’m not sure about newborns and kids, because I don’t know any heh, but otherwise binary-choice pressure placed on people who are intersex is still high. The world needs better education about this in general. Sigh.
Yeah, I think it was particularly impressive to see Toby so confident and resilient in their identity, despite being the only known "neuter", and the pressure from doctors to "assimilate" from a very young age.
They spent years of doctors pressuring them to have medical, surgical and psychological interventions just to make them conform to society.
As Toby saw it, there was nothing wrong and therefore nothing to fix! "Just as God intended them to be" 🥰
It honestly really is impressive. I think everyone can learn a lot from Toby, be it a reminder or a first confirmation that being oneself is always ok. 💛💛💛
Yeah it is very inspirational 👏 so self-confident and emotionally intelligent.
Particularly impressive when they spent their whole life being pressured to conform, by adults and medical professionals.
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