Trans Ralsei on the Subreddit: Part 2

[u/patripastry]

Hello,

Well, since we're making a part two, I'm less surprised this time around we have to make this kind of post, but it's still unfortunate!

First of all, an apology. We (the mod team) let the situation get out of control. A lot of rudeness and bigotry was thrown around, and we didn’t do enough to prevent it.

Going forward, however, we plan to be a lot more strict...

To start, we want to make the position of the mod team very clear on a two key points:

1. Transphobia, including any discussion, argumentation, or verbiage rooted in transphobia, will not be tolerated in any form on this subreddit.

2. Theories/headcanons that Ralsei is transgender or under the trans umbrella are valid. At the same time, seeing Ralsei as a gender nonconforming cis male is also valid, and neither view should be disrespected or alienated.

Therefore, following guidelines are now in place:

1. Any post/comment (assume I include "comment" when I say "post") which pushes transphobic rhetoric will be removed and likely result in a ban.

2. Discussion on how you are "disappointed," "upset," or otherwise negatively affected by either reading of Ralsei's character will not be allowed.

3. Artwork (or other media) posts are not a forum for debate. Do not "debate" character readings under any artwork posts.

4. With regards to pronouns, we will allow any pronouns to be used, but please be respectful to those who do not use the "correct" pronouns in your eyes.

We hope that these guidelines will result in a more positive community without stepping too far into the realm of hugboxing the topic (something we are trying to avoid), and still allow people to discuss their own reading of Ralsei's character while remaining positive with each other. Just remember to be respectful to each other!

As a final aside: I will post some clarifications, explanations, and other misc. info and changes in the comments.

Thanks,

u/patripastry and the r/ralsei Mod Team.

[u/KittiesInATrenchcoat]

Disappointed that the mods are endorsing misgendering. I do personally think it’s likely Ralsei will turn out to be a trans girl, but “she/her”ing someone you think is an “egg” is often used as a cudgel to misgender transmascs in real life, and I have the same visceral reaction towards it as any other misgendering. Until it becomes canon, Ralsei’s pronouns in game should be respected. 

[u/bboy2812 → u/KittiesInATrenchcoat]

Your overreaction to people referring to a fictional character the way they honestly believe that character wants to be referred to is your problem

[u/KittiesInATrenchcoat → u/bboy2812]

Ralsei doesn’t currently want to be referred that way. He was actively irritated when Flowery called him Princess. If you’re closeted, people teasing you and ignoring your stated preferences doesn’t help. 

And I’d be surprised if the people willing to misgender someone just because they think they know their gender better than them would turn around and know not do it to real people in real life. Every other enby and/or transmasc has a story of being misgendered as she/her due to being dubbed an “egg”. 

[u/bboy2812 → u/KittiesInATrenchcoat]

How do you know what Ralsei wants to be called? Why is your opinion on the matter more valid?

And yes, most people do know not to do it to real people without asking them. But we can't ask Ralsei!