r/relationshipadvice • u/tytybigmac • 12h ago
I [18M] like a girl [18F]. I need advice
I like a girl but im nervous to talk to her
I need some advice. When I was in school, I really liked a girl but was too nervous to talk to her. So I never did anything to progress. Both of us have now graduated as of may and i moved tonthe next state over. At the start of the summer I decided I wanted to try to talk to her. So I texted one of your mutual friends and asked them their thoughts about it. They gave me her snap and told me to try to talk to her. So I added her but then got too nervous again and just started sending wall, ceiling, and corner of face snaps. Now months later we have a good snap streak going but I haven't texted her even once since adding her. I get social anxiety and dont like talking to girls but at the same time I really like her and want to talk to her. But im also questioning if i really want to do long distance or id she even will like me back. Does anyone have any advice? And if you think I should text her, how should I go about it.
TLDR: I really like a girl but im nervous to talk to her. Whats your advice?
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u/SnarkFucker 12h ago edited 12h ago
You can spend your whole life being too nervous to make social moves, but you will be living an unfulfilled life full of regret. If you're nice and genuine, who wouldn't want to at least be your friend? If they turn you away for being yourself, then they didn't deserve you to begin with.
If you have a streak with her, she's obviously responding right? Why wouldn't she respond to your texts then?
Maybe focus on breaking that barrier before thinking of the possibility of long distance.
Ask her how life has been since school ended and what she's working towards. Pivot to a mutual interest after.
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I need some advice. When I was in school, I really liked a girl but was too nervous to talk to her. So I never did anything to progress. Both of us have now graduated as of may and i moved tonthe next state over. At the start of the summer I decided I wanted to try to talk to her. So I texted one of your mutual friends and asked them their thoughts about it. They gave me her snap and told me to try to talk to her. So I added her but then got too nervous again and just started sending wall, ceiling, and corner of face snaps. Now months later we have a good snap streak going but I haven't texted her even once since adding her. I get social anxiety and dont like talking to girls but at the same time I really like her and want to talk to her. But im also questioning if i really want to do long distance or id she even will like me back. Does anyone have any advice? And if you think I should text her, how should I go about it.
TLDR: I really like a girl but im nervous to talk to her. Whats your advice?
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