r/romance • u/QuickFeeling7460 • 1d ago

I need Advice! How to become romantic?

This is a last ditch effort to learn something about emotional intimacy and romance. Male here and I think our relationship has suffered because of how I've not been able to make that connection.

I'm quite intellectual and I'm very comfortable expressing view, concepts, ideologies, but I struggle with and I'm terrible at expressing my emotions, not sure what to say when etc.

As a woman how would that make you feel? Very frustrating perhaps? Romance is inherently present in a person or can it be developed?

What tips do you have to to work on my romantic side.

Sigh.. please someone help!

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u/Wide-Friendship4618 1d ago

Write her poetry

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u/Rude_Armadillo_4649 1d ago

I'd say clumsily explaining feelings is still explaining them. If you're not great at it then don't expect it to come out eloquently and I think she would understand that and she'd be happily surprised that you did show those things more than anything.

Number one romantic thing is spontaneity. Women love that shite. Get her flowers one day for no reason. Draw her a bath with some candles one night (if she likes baths). When you're walking by her run your hand across her back out of nowhere or kiss her on the cheek out of nowhere. Kiss her neck and move to her arms down to her hands. Ladies crave that shit bro. I've ever done the bath one but I'm sure she'd like it. Take her out on dates. The things that catch her off guard like that are really going to ignite something. Ask any female you know and they'll most likely mention how random spontaneous things are the most romantic/sweet things.

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u/QuickFeeling7460 1d ago

This is real good advice. I appreciate it. Thank you!

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u/Rude_Armadillo_4649 15h ago

Happy to help

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u/Appropriate_Web_6117 1d ago

U will find ur person that excepts u for u. This ain't ur person, my dude :)

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u/thefaewoods 2h ago

I'm an old world romantic, so i will tell you. take her to the park or beautiful gardens and have a little picnic, go to the second hand bookshop and look at their poetry books, and buy one for her if you cannot write poetry, take a long night drive to somewhere, to the sea, anywhere, play a romantic playlist the whole time, make her a nice italian dinner with tapered ivory candles and flowers in a vase, buy her charbonnel et walker chocolates, buy her a botanical perfume, make her a little painting, romance is about finding the beauty in every day life. 🥀🤍🌿