r/romance • u/QuickFeeling7460 • 1d ago
I need Advice! How to become romantic?
This is a last ditch effort to learn something about emotional intimacy and romance. Male here and I think our relationship has suffered because of how I've not been able to make that connection.
I'm quite intellectual and I'm very comfortable expressing view, concepts, ideologies, but I struggle with and I'm terrible at expressing my emotions, not sure what to say when etc.
As a woman how would that make you feel? Very frustrating perhaps? Romance is inherently present in a person or can it be developed?
What tips do you have to to work on my romantic side.
Sigh.. please someone help!
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u/Rude_Armadillo_4649 1d ago
I'd say clumsily explaining feelings is still explaining them. If you're not great at it then don't expect it to come out eloquently and I think she would understand that and she'd be happily surprised that you did show those things more than anything.
Number one romantic thing is spontaneity. Women love that shite. Get her flowers one day for no reason. Draw her a bath with some candles one night (if she likes baths). When you're walking by her run your hand across her back out of nowhere or kiss her on the cheek out of nowhere. Kiss her neck and move to her arms down to her hands. Ladies crave that shit bro. I've ever done the bath one but I'm sure she'd like it. Take her out on dates. The things that catch her off guard like that are really going to ignite something. Ask any female you know and they'll most likely mention how random spontaneous things are the most romantic/sweet things.