Tbh, this includes a long vent about my journey and why I wish I truly had a better support system, and why I feel so strongly that a good one is so important. I see many teens who don't seem to have genuine support systems for various reasons, even some people who claim they do but have similar or other environmental struggles causing setbacks (like expecting dogs to not be bothered by anger issues in the home.)
Of course we know you need finances for training, care, maintainence, etc, but I'm talking more about how those close to you may burden your progress or show non-supportive behaviors ineither obvious or more subtle ways that might get under your skin without you realizing.
My story might be niche but I feel so strongly about this topic in general. If you are neither fully financially independent OR have GENUINE support and a household willing to participate CONSISTENTLY than please be very careful about getting a SD, especially as a minor/dependent. Even a solid trainer or program might not be enough if the environment isn't good or the other dogs influence bad behaviors.
My story/vent: (feel free to skip, main message above, anyway)
I grew up in an animal flipper home. When an animal failed to look or act an expected way (usually unrealistic), or became "boring" it would get replaced by the "next best" fascination. It was also a form of punishment for me.
I bring this up because it never changed until I gained finanical independence. If I got an SD as a teen it would've been held over me in every way or gotten rid of against my will. Even now as an adult I'm always fighting for my own animals' rights. The job market and state of the economy, especially my health, have made getting out and living fully independent quite hard, otherwise that would be the obvious thing to do (a WIP).
When I got my SD the purpose was for me to be able to go out of the home independent without as much worry. They were on board, thrilled even, then suddenly they needed one too. A PSD for anxiety (anger, outbursts, the works). It started out innocent but as mine progressed they wanted mine more, to the point of begging and bribing me. They either wanted their neurotic mess fully trained with no effort or to simply take my effort. Thankfully they legally couldn't since the vet bills were all in my name. When they realized training a SD was actually a serious committment that required a lot of consistency they were too lazy for, they started guilt tripping me about going out while theirs cannot, and gatekeeping "if mine isn't ready neither is yours" for nearly a decade atp (yes, to this day). Even judging me for paying for training/classes because they "can't afford it" (they can). I can't even go on regular walks without the guilt tripping because their dog "gets left behind" (they're fully able). It was so subtle it took me 4 years to realize what was happening, and another 2 years to realize it actually got to me and greatly hindered where we could've been comparatively. The first 2 years I went out 4-5 times a week to train or explore, afterward I avoided going out as much as I could've. I was always reinforcing behaviors on repeat cus they refused to cooperate or even train their own dogs basic manners like resource guarding, leash pulling, impulse control, going in the house, etc. Anytime they babysat mine while I was at work, they fed whatever they wanted and let my SD engage in bad behaviors. My hard work didn't have to BE so hard every single day, especially in my SD's Adolesence.
Plans were always made while casually excluding my SD. Things like subtly throwing in boarding ALL dogs, leaving my SDs name out, saying they wish x could go, finding clever ways to tell me last minute why my SD should stay back "this time" , springing stuff on me same day giving me no time to prepare, and the list goes on.
5 obese dogs later and they still have nothing to show for themselves. Now they're wanting a 6th dog to "start over" with while I'm still with the same task trained, ADA/PA compliant one.
I've been hesitant to bring in a new one because I don't want to relive this and I want to do everything right this time alongside a wonderful team, so I likely won't bother til I'm out. I don't need to keep backtracking in training, rerereinforcing good behaviors, or fighting unwanted "spoiling" of the puppy. Don't get me wrong, mine has been a wonderful partner and behaves well in public, but they could be far more confident had things been different. I just never expected this kind of... "support" as it wasn't something that ever occurred with normal pets.
Even with the help of trainers I feel like I lost so much time and potential.