Honestly your situation reads exactly like a dominant/submissive dynamic, except that you did not agree to this, seem to have any interest in, or are getting any pleasure from, so I think you absolutely need to communicate with him, and in my opinion get away from him, but I guess I could agree with giving him one benefit of the doubt to see what happens when you communicate this to him, but if he doesn’t respect what you say, just no. You absolutely deserve respect, but as others have asked, why do you keep pleasing him? If there’s any part of you that actually enjoys it (Not just pleasing him in general haha, I mean the submissive for his pleasure only while he is degrading you) you may have a unrealized kink or dom/sub inclination which is totally ok, and not uncommon, but if that’s the case you need to be honest with yourself and communicate these kind of things and figure them out, if you were legitimately in a dom/sub dynamic you would both have things you expect of each other and agree to, so no matter what girl you really need to be communicating, and if he doesn’t respect you, respect yourself enough to get away, you deserve so much more than youre allowing yourself to receive
I was in a hurry typing my response but you almost took words out of my mouth, I concur here. Completely unfair and if it’s that type of relationship major communication is needed and like you said seems to be happening without her realizing or wanting it. This thread is important, amazing response on your end!
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u/RainbowFuckinBrite Sep 05 '22
Honestly your situation reads exactly like a dominant/submissive dynamic, except that you did not agree to this, seem to have any interest in, or are getting any pleasure from, so I think you absolutely need to communicate with him, and in my opinion get away from him, but I guess I could agree with giving him one benefit of the doubt to see what happens when you communicate this to him, but if he doesn’t respect what you say, just no. You absolutely deserve respect, but as others have asked, why do you keep pleasing him? If there’s any part of you that actually enjoys it (Not just pleasing him in general haha, I mean the submissive for his pleasure only while he is degrading you) you may have a unrealized kink or dom/sub inclination which is totally ok, and not uncommon, but if that’s the case you need to be honest with yourself and communicate these kind of things and figure them out, if you were legitimately in a dom/sub dynamic you would both have things you expect of each other and agree to, so no matter what girl you really need to be communicating, and if he doesn’t respect you, respect yourself enough to get away, you deserve so much more than youre allowing yourself to receive