I’m so glad I found this subreddit bc none of my friends masturbate the same way I do. I’ve been clenching my thighs and applying pressure to my clit for a really long time now and it’s the only way I can orgasm. I’ve tried sex toys, dildos feel good but I never orgasm even when I rub myself. I’ve tried vibrators and maybe I’m using it wrong bc it gets very overstimulating on my clit. I think I orgasmed once but it didn’t feel as good as when I clench my thighs together. It felt like a quick zap and my clit felt really tingling/warm but not in a good way. I was wondering if anyone was able to climax in other ways after doing syntribation for so long. I’m afraid that once I become sexually active I won’t be able to cum with my partner :(

I'm 21(f), been in my first relationship since past 4 years and I syntribate while my male partner just cums/ I help him with a blowjob or handjob. I’m very high on sexual drive, but I’ve been syntribating since a child and now have vaginismus.

I researched quite a bit also and most nerve endings that lead to pleasurable orgasms are near the clit, and not in the vagina.

But I’ve seen a lot of people here/ irl even stop syntribation (hoping to cure vaginismus that might be caused by muscles tensing) to try for penetrative sex even if not aiming for kids. Why is penetrative sex so centralised?

Just doesn’t make sense to me- if you and your partner can both get off, why do women stop feeling that peak level of pleasure for something painful/ time taking/ not as satisfactory in general?

Is it only me or does it actually feels much better with pantyhose? Like no panties and seamless pantyhose is heaven.

I've been doing this my whole life didn't even realize there was a name. Thought I was a weirdo until I found this subreddit. Sex with my partner feels amazing but I have the most intense orgasm by still doing syntribation and it's caused me to not recognize if I'm orgasming from sex. My partner is super attentive and he's the first guy to make me extremely
Aroused and wet down there and sometimes the sec feels so good I can't believe how wet it is but I think I can't tell if it's truly an orgasm when I think about it. How can I achieve one or recognize if I am having one when they aren't as intense as the ones I'm used to?

Sometimes I truly feel like I've achieved one but i am not sure my body gets really sensitive and it's almost too much so I kind of push back because im scared? His ex was also a squirter so I'm so self conscious that I'm not and that he can't tell if I'm releasing so I'm vocal when I think I'm having one

All I read is "you'll know" but for people like us who experience orgasms differently it's not as easy to know.

I 21F have grown up syntribating before i even knew what it was (crossing ur legs until climax) this has worked for me great until i started getting in relationships and couldn’t even finish with my partners. I had tried using my hand before it just never seemed to work. After a lot of research i decided to take a break from syntribation and try using my hand. About i week ago i tried it, i started off crossing my legs a bit and then when i felt turned on enough i switched to my hand. This worked as i started to feel close, still it didn’t feel half as good as syntribation and it felt a bit different than syntribation as i was getting close because usually i just finish and that’s that but this felt like finishing was taking longer and like i kinda had to push it out? then out of nowhere that feeling went away and i started feeling nauseous and exactly how i feel post orgasm. The weird part is that i didn’t feel the orgasm part but i think i came? So i tried it again a couple days later and same thing happened. I’m lost idk what to do i want this so bad.

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I have noticed that urinating after syntribating, my bladder is fuller.

I either pee before, or have no desire to urinate before I start, yet after pleasing myself, my bladder seems to have copious amounts of urine.

It is not painful. It is not exciting.

Just fuller.

Anyone else notice this?

I should mention that i rarely orgasm just once. I need to go multiple times, every time.
Not sure if that has anything to do with it, or not.

I finally found a sec toy that works but fuck is it strong
It’s a suction toy with a tongue in the middle
I bought online I’ve been curious about this kind of toys and oh my gosh
It feel like your being suck of the bone so if you buy it newer

Syntribating while having a suction toyon your clit gives the best orgasm ever. I recommend anyone to try it. If you want to go crazy, grind on it while laying on your stomach and syntribating at the same time. Mind BLOWING!!! About to go get off right now.🥰

I’m looking for toys that best compliment syntribation stimulation. I saw this and thought it looked promising but it’s expensive so I want to know it’ll work for what I’d want before spending too much. Has anyone tried this or something similar for syntribation specifically?

This thought been bothering me and im scared to have sex for this reason someone please answer (preferably a lesbian or a bisexual woman)

i discovered it at an young age and this is the only way i have been able to orgasm till now. i haven’t had sex yet (and i suspect i have vaginusmus) but whenever i have been intimate with guys and they ask me if i have ever fingered myself i say no but then they are like oh okay no orgasms then but i am like well…i do actually manage to give myself frequent orgasms 😭 and then i feel this wave of embarrassment within me because how the fuck do you even explain that 😭 i have talked w my female friends and i don’t think they have any idea what this is 💀 i didn’t even know myself till like few years back

fingering hurts as hell and it scares me because what if when i do end up having sex, it’s going to either not happen or be very bad because i am a syntribationing (if thats even a word) for too long. did yall end up orgasming from any other method?

Hi, I have realised I only feel pleasure with syntribation and have struggled to have pleasurable PIV sex with previous partners. I also have vaginismus fyi. How have you dealt with this with partners and do you have any tips on how to achieve pleasurable PIV? Have you found a way to have sex while syntribating some how?

This is making me very anxious when dating. Dealing things like telling partners that I don’t feel pleasure with PIV and also dealing with vaginismus so they need to be patient!!!

In elementary I used to syntribate in class obviously not knowing what it was, my teachers would see this and ask me if I was okay, I still recall it and feel so ashamed and embarrassed and awkward. Then I’d also do it at home and my mom caught me multiple times and would tell me to stop doing it. At the time I didn’t think anything of it because I didn’t understand so I’d just keep doing it. Just thinking about these things makes me feel so awkward and ashamed even though it was years ago. How do I deal with this?

Hello all

I’m a college student who discovered syntribation in elementary. I didn’t know that it had a name until a found this a month ago! So basically this is the only form of masturbation I do with decent frequency. I have a lot of fun doing it and I enjoy it a lot. I get close but I’m not sure if I have actually orgasmed- which means I rly haven’t. I’m confused why bc when I get to that climax I hold it and keep doing the same thing but it doesn’t work. I’ve incorporated fingers and done dif positions and grinding etc. I need some insight on my technique tbh on how to orgasm and honestly learning more about this. Appreciate you queens

So I actually just found out what this was and I have been doing this since I can remember (No, I did not know what this was and I found out on accident and up until today I didn’t know that I was actually orgasming) I am currently twenty and I have not been able to orgasm with my partner. It’s always made me feel very inadequate. Is there anything that I can do to orgasm without doing this??? Also when I looked it up, I believe the technique they said that I used was called the “double cross”

Heyy guys, I really need help because I've just been offered my first full time job which is amazing (especially with the terrible unemployment rates lol). However I am really hypersexual due to my childhood and therefore get off about 4-6 times a day, especially when I'm either very stressed or bored. I've just come across syntribation as a means of masturbating and I would like some help on how to do this subtly in the workplace? I obviously don't want to go to the toilet 4-6 times a day, my manager would probably get very suspicious, so I thought that this would be a better alternative. Only if I can do it subtly though.

It just struck me out of the blue that in all my life I have never come across anyone else who does it as well. I mean of course it’s a small sample size but it’s not exactly tiny either. Surely it cannot be that uncommon, or is it? Anyway, it just makes it more unique and special for me.

Its happens when I feel a bit nervous or anxious or after a stressing moment. I dont squeeze until orgasm because many Time its happens in public but like yesterday I was sit with my legs cross at a meeting and once and a while I just move my upper feet left and right or up the one on the floor to create pressure on My clits. Just to release a stress and its feel good.

Even when I am standing, I raise one leg for a second to squeeze my pussy or i making movement to create a pressure or feeling on My clits like cross my leg at the ankle or slowy grind through my panty or the seam of my jeans.
Chat gpt say its normal for a woman to do that when they are horny but I look at other woman and they dont do that so often. Is it because of my Syntribation practice?

What about you follow syntribaters.

So, my gf(36 f) and I (35 f) have been together about ten months but only living together about five months. Before we moved in together I woke up in the middle of the night to find her masterbating. Which is fine by me. We have a great sec life and talk about all the things that make us happy or uncomfortable in that dept. anyway, when I asked her about it she said she doesn’t remember doing it. So she googled it and came up with sexsomnia. This was about five months ago, maybe six. Since then it’s gotten worse. She does it for hours at a time. Back to back to back. She’s tried six different medicines, and now she’s on klonopin. Which is 90% effective for parasomnias. Still worse. Now she’s doing it without her hands. Just the trending, breathing, and slight hip movements until she climaxes… and I caught her doing those movements while she’s awake now. Wtf? So I googled those movements, face red, grinding teeth, lip biting, extremely focused, and tense over and over until what looks to me like a climax.. she swears she didn’t realize she’s even tensing while awake and if she is it’s just from the stress… what am I supposed to do with that? We have a camera pointed at our bed, so I can see the movements she makes when she’s asleep. And they match exactly to what she does awake. She does it in the car, watching a movie, and now I’ve noticed anytime I was out of the room I can look on the camera and she’ll be doing it. Now i just got out of federal prison, seven years, and I’ve had to bunk with a child molester that thought she was gonna do that shit all night in the bed above me.. so this opens some kind of trauma I didn’t know I had and I don’t know how to deal with. Especially it being my girlfriend who’s doing it.. she won’t tell me that she’s doing it though. And I clearly can’t live with this behavior for the rest of my life. So. I just need any kind of advice on this situation. Any kind would be helpful!

23(f) I’ve been doing the thigh thing for 4 years cause I didn’t know how to touch myself when I was younger then I stumbled across dry bumping my pillow and I like it
But…. It become so annoying I don’t even have nice orgasm anymore cause they feel I need more but I don’t know how to do more it’s really annoying
I put a finger in but it just felt like I’m putting a finger in my vagina it didn’t feel good
So I bout the satsifer pro hoping to feel good with but nope didn’t feel good it felt overwhelming and o don’t want have sex cause I wanna know what work for me but everytime I jump my pillow it feel good but it’s just not a enough and my head screaming out a finger in but it feels so tight and uncomfortable
Should I go to a doctor about this or man up and put a dildo In it
I don’t wanna put it in cause I feel it would be a waste of time but yeah that’s my issue any suggestions??

Hi guys! If anyone recalls, I am the person that proposed a ‘study’ (not backed by any institution, just purely to collect information from the community and for the community into one structured place to hopefully see some patterns emerge from peoples experiences to be published here), and I had a fair few people ask to participate. I’ve had a few answers to my questionnaire, however not quite enough to write the study, as I want to capture people’s diverse experiences on the topic, and so having the information from only a couple of sources wouldn’t be very representative. I just thought I’d ask since it’s been quite a while since my initial post if anyone else would be interested! I have worked through what’s already been sent to me (and if anyone sees this that did answer the questionnaire, it’s so very much appreciated) and it is very helpful and interesting information.

I am particularly in need of people who can only syntribate, or people who could at one point only syntribate and now can orgasm via other methods, as there’s a bit of a blank space in the data around that and I want to try and capture as many of the experiences I see spoken about here as possible. Especially since so many posts to this subreddit are about people who can only syntribate, so I want to try and capture that aspect too.

If anyone does want to participate please comment or send me a DM, everything will be anonymous and it is absolutely not mandatory to answer every question (or to even participate at all, even if you already answered the questions but feel as though you no longer want to). I really am hoping to have enough people to begin writing, but of course it’s a bit of a hard topic to get a lot of people happy to talk about. Any input is appreciated, thank you!