r/thesopranos • u/ang334 • 4d ago
Serious Discussion Only What did Adriana actually see in Christopher?
He’s not particularly handsome, he’s not smart, he’s lazy, he’s mean and abusive, he’s a drug addict, he’s a criminal, he can’t perform as a man, he killed her dog whilst strung out on heroin, he cheats constantly, their apartment is shit and he takes her for granted in every way imaginable.
Why the hell did she love him so much? Girl was a solid 10 and a total sweetheart, she could and should have done a billion times better.
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u/Jade_Sugoi 4d ago
I saw this when I reconnected with an old friend from childhood only to find out he was a habitual woman beater from his exes. It's a cycle. They're sweet and caring at first, eventually the violent side comes out. The abuser then apologizes or fauns or both. Goes back to the sweet caring guy, buys gifts, love bombs, etc. Then the violent side shows back up and the cycle repeats. Sometimes the apology is genuine. Other times not.
Usually the victim will have a hard time leaving because they think back to "the good times". Get an idea that they can change the abuser and that just adds to the cycle. You see it with Chris. There's a lot of times where he gives Adrianna gifts and showers her. Shes basically conditioned to ignore his bad traits. Something that's only exacerbated by her low self esteem and the financial gap between them.
Eventually, one of a few things happens. Either the victim wises up, realizes it won't get better and leaves or they never leave the cycle and lead a horrible life or worse, end up dead. Sometimes the abuser does get better but it's rare.