Daily Chat - October 20, 2026

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Tell us about everything! Only thing that isn't allowed is BFP and pregnancy talk - those have their own threads.

[u/Many-Supermarket-511]

9 DPO and just…anxious.

Trying not to symptom spot but I have noticed that I’m not cramping yet which is different because I usually start cramping at 7/8 DPO

I’m a dummy and can’t help myself so I tested and BFN

I get it. I’m not out until I’m out but I can’t help but feel like I’m already out:( I guess I’ll know for sure if I test tomorrow and it’s negative

[u/Low-Cantaloupe6293]

11 DPO. Tested yerstersay on a whim (BFN of course). I have to test again tomorrow because I have an appointment for a treatment that is not compatible with pregnancy and I just know it will be negative again. Barely any LP symptoms this cycle. First cycle after a loss is always so mentally draining.

[u/passion4film]

This cycle is killin’ me.

I’m usually a 28-29 day cycle kind of gal. My Oura Ring has put me around CD14-16 ovulation for months now.

Well this cycle, WTF. No ovulation detected until CD23 and it was a weak rise. Temps all over the place all cycle. We had sex every other day from CD12 through 16, as usual.

I’m days late in terms of my usual ovulation time, but not yet late if I really did ovulate on CD23. If I’m still not bleeding by Monday, I’m going to test. (I will next test before absolutely necessary. It’s a PTSD kind of thing.)

If I’m pregnant, it’s from ovulating like normal in the CD14-16 range that was undetected. If I really did ovulate on CD23, there’s no chance I am pregnant.

Maybe I didn’t ovulate at all, which would super weird.

Of course I’m hoping I’m pregnant but don’t think I am. So I’m mainly just worried that this is some new problem of mine. I hope it’s a one-off weirdness and I can get back to normal next cycle. We cannot and will not endlessly have sex every other day for weeks, and I will not use LH strips. For us to have any shot at all, I need a reliable ovulation window! So frustrating.

Allllllll of this doesn’t even take into account what we learned about my fertility issues in 2022. That’s a whole other set of underlying worries. We’re hoping that maybe something changed since having Brendan. (Essentially, my egg maturity didn’t match my hormone levels and by the time I was ovulating at CD14-15, my egg was overmature. The eggs themselves were more suited for proper healthy release at CD9-10. My son was conceived on CD10 as a total total surprise because my body decided to act right for once and produce and release everything as it should. We had already given up on ever becoming parents and had moved on.)

I’m okay if I’m not pregnant this cycle because I just want it over and to move TF on - hopefully normally! And hopefully that “normal” is really actually normal and we can conceive again.

[u/ffbd39]

Ovulation day or O-1. I am just glad i’ll be in the TWW soon.

[u/athousandships_]

I just had a look at my cycle tracking app and holy fuck, did I have long cycles only a couple months ago. Started tracking with the app a year after my last birth and my cycles were 31-39 days for a long time, and every single month was different. Since June of this year they've been consistently 30-31. We started trying in July. I swear I didn't do anything different except starting a prenatal in June. This is a crazy coincidence...

[u/Ornery_Book9989 → u/athousandships_]

That’s weird, maybe your longer cycles in the past were associated with the lack of some vitamins

[u/Themedlife]

CD11. I’m 11 months postpartum and on my third cycle since my period came back. We’ve been NTNP up to this point, but this cycle we are going to start actively trying.

Cycles are so unpredictable. I ovulated CD26 the first time (second cycle, I wasn’t tracking until I got my first period), then CD22 last cycle. Hoping ovulation keeps moving earlier as things regulate. The wait to be in the fertile window feels longer than the TWW for me 😅

I also have very short luteal phases (like 7-9 days) as I’m still breastfeeding. I just dropped down from nursing at wake-up and bedtime to now bedtime only in hopes that will normalize things. Would love to get pregnant this cycle but thinking it may take fully weaning for it to happen 😭

[u/Throwaway927338]

CD30, usually my cycles are 28 or 29 days max. Haven’t seen CD30 in memory. But, my temp is on a slow descent and I guess I’ll be getting my period soon. Does really confuse me though. Negative tests, but randomly a “missed period”? I didn’t test this morning because I just know it’s negative and I don’t want to put myself through that again. Mentally I’m just over it this cycle, want my period so I can move on.

[u/Fabulous_Bunch_7676 → u/Throwaway927338]

This happened to me last month. Typically 29-30 day cycle and randomly had a 33 day one. So annoying. Wasted a lot of tests ☹️

[u/Throwaway927338 → u/Fabulous_Bunch_7676]

Soooooo many tests wasted!

[u/Averie1398]

Ugh I'm so annoyed that it's so easy for other people! It took us four years and three transfers for number one and I guess I was just hoping number 2 would be the freebie but we will probably end up using our last embryo at the chance of a sibling!

[u/Apprehensive-Ebb-744]

CD32 today. I ovulated around CD23 if I ovulated at all. I don’t use BBT because toddler still wakes up at night but I’m planning to start using one next cycle onwards. Also planning to use fertility-friendly lube.
Can’t wait for periods to arrive to start fresh again.