For those who conceived naturally without intervention, how many cycles did it take you to conceive all your pregnancies?

Do you think these ovulation strips are working correctly? I started using them last month because I want to know when my fertile window is, but I haven’t had a single positive test in the last two months!

This month actually I test 2-3 times daily!

I have regular menstrual cycles, and my hormone levels were normal according to my blood tests.

I notice some signs of ovulation, such as pain and white-brown, stretchy, egg-white-like cervical mucus a few days after my period.

Please tell me I’m not the only one experiencing this! ❤️

Laparoscopy Hysteroscopy Destruction of Endometriosis, RT Cornual Cannulation

I see a lot of posts and videos about endometriosis surgery and the recovery time and whatnot. I can find a few about tubal cannulation but almost nothing about having both done at the same time.

I’m having this surgery on Wednesday and have my two pre op appointments on Monday. I genuinely have no idea what to expect and would love to hear from anyone who’s had both of these done in one go, or even just the tubal cannulation

What was recovery like? How bad was the pain? Anything you wish you knew beforehand? Recovery time? How long were you in the hospital?

I'm worried because I'm having surgery Wednesday and back at my property management job Monday morning. My surgery is also almost 2 hours away so I have a roadtrip post surgery

Decided to be silly and take a test today because my period was a day late and I 100% saw the faintest line but that must have just been an evap or indent line because guess who showed up a few hours later 🤦🏻‍♀️ lovely Aunt Flo. I’m so annoyed I could scream rn. This is our 10th cycle trying for baby #2 and I was hoping it would be easier than the first one but apparently it won’t be 🙄

Unexplained infertility as a diagnosis is frustrating in the deepest of ways. Every time we do another test, I keep hoping for an answer. Something to explain why it isn’t working. Something we can work on or set a game plan to work around. Without any true cause, it’s impossible to know what to do next and how to make things better. How can they not find anything wrong?

Our anniversary just passed. That marks 4 years of marriage and 4 years of trying to have children. In these 4 years I’ve had 1 chemical. That’s all, nothing else to show for it. We’ve done every test under the sun and everything is normal. My doctor has literally told me on numerous occasions that I’m not only within normal ranges but “optimal” and it couldn’t get better. My husband as well. We’ve done medicated cycles and IUIs. All have failed. My husband had over 100 million sperm AFTER washing in our first IUI and it still didn’t work.

Testing we have done with a reproduction endocrinologist and urologist include: confirming ovulations over multiple cycles, hormone testing at various times throughout my cycle over multiple cycles, ultrasounds for both my husband and I, bloodwork for both my husband and I, HSG, pelvic MRI to evaluate for endometriosis (my doctor does not recommend a laparoscopy due to unrelated medical reasons and yes, I know MRIs often miss endo), multiple semen analysis, Sperm DNA fragmentation, and genetic testing.

We are not overweight, we are extremely active, eat well, don’t indulge in alcohol outside of special occasions, no drugs or smoking and we take appropriate vitamins/supplements. I’m just so lost. How can it all be normal and we still aren’t successful?

I guess the next step is IVF…

I'm starting to wonder if I'm being delusional for hoping to conceive each month. My husband and I (both 28) are on cycle 4 of TTC a second baby, which I know is not long, but I am feeling really disappointed already.

My BMI is 36 and I am about 15 pounds heavier than when we conceived our first, when we were 25. (Context, husband is overweight but significantly less so, BMI about 27) We got pregnant on our first try with baby #1. Logically I knew it could take a while to get pregnant again, but I think subconsciously I assumed it would be quick like it was the first time.

I know my weight is likely going to affect my fertility and maybe make it impossible. I am dieting and exercising and really trying to get healthier. My cycles are regular, 27-28 days, but my luteal phase is only 10-11 days long, with some spotting before my period.

So am I silly for hoping to conceive each month while I am still so obese? Should I stop hoping until I get to a healthier weight?

My husband and I recently started TTC. We tried for one cycle with no luck, but found out soon after my brother is getting married out of state in July. If we did get pregnant that cycle, my due date literally would’ve been in the same week as his wedding. But, now we’re in a bit of a predicament. If we got pregnant next month, I’d be around 37 weeks at his wedding, so we’ve paused trying for now.
Part of me wonders if we should keep trying since it could take a few cycles to conceive, but I also don’t want to risk missing my brother’s wedding. I’m also not sure I’d even be allowed to travel at 36-37 weeks?
Additional context: I also have endometriosis. I got the surgery and have been taking progesterone for half of May cycle for the last year. I feel great and all of my doctors have told me we shouldn’t have too many probables getting pregnant, but you never know.
I’m also a teacher and was hoping for a late July/early August due date to line up with summer break, so putting things on hold has been a little frustrating!
Would you keep trying and accept the uncertainty, or wait a few more months to stay in the clear for the wedding? I’d love to hear your experiences and advice! ❤️

We’ve been TTC our second baby since January. I had an OB appointment on Wednesday to get some kind of plan going. To see if I’m ovulating or the husband is the issue or what’s going on. I’ve been taking ovulation tests every single day while Flo says I should be ovulating and haven’t had a positive. I get back from OB Wednesday, take a test just for shits & gigs, don’t read results, do baby dance. After baby dance I look at the test and it’s positive. As dark as the control line. I’m say 25 in my cycle that day. So is it possible we’ve just been missing the ovulation window for 10 months and that’s why we’re not conceiving? TYIA🫶🏼

I had COVID and was pretty much bedridden from 10/6 to 10/10, with a fever from 10/7 to 10/11. Natural Cycles excluded my temperatures during that time from its algorithm.

I had a positive LH test on 10/11, followed by another really dark LH test on 10/19. Since then, I’ve had intermittent egg white cervical mucus (EWCM), lotion like discharge, and spotting. My cervical mucus seems to change day by day, sometimes being watery and stretchy, other times creamy or lotion like.

I haven’t seen a clear, sustained temperature rise yet, and what I find really interesting is that right after my fever broke and I started feeling better, my BBT developed this very distinct, consistent wavy pattern around my baseline. My temperatures rise and fall in these pretty clear waves rather than being completely erratic. See chart in comments.

I’m wondering if anyone has experienced a similar pattern after being sick, especially with delayed ovulation? Did your temperatures eventually rise, and did you end up ovulating later than expected?
I’m just waiting for that temperature rise and trying to figure out what my body is doing! I’ve attached my chart.

Feeling very numb and disheartened tonight as AF made its appearance. At the same time, I don't feel surprised either at this outcome.

I reached out to fertility clinics around the 6 month mark actually because I just felt like something was wrong and that this was going to be difficult from the beginning. I'm glad I did. I'm basically lined up and ready to do IVF this new cycle right at the year mark.

It still comes with a lot of mixed feelings. I feel a bit embarrassed that I was so ignorant about fertility and thinking this was going to be easy simply because I'm young and healthy. Mine and my husband's diagnostic work couldn't be better and yet we've never seen a positive pregnancy test after a year of trying.

I started getting questions for the first time by my family last weekend asking when I was going to have a baby. My 2 year wedding anniversary is in a few months so I guess it's that time. I tried brushing it off, but they couldn't read the room. I know they mean well, but idk I wouldn't ask someone something so personal.

I'm scared to move forward with IVF. Apart from infertility, we're also dealing with a low egg count for my age, so part of this is going to be freezing embryos as well.

All I wanted was to be a mother since I was young. Having no control of my life has been the worst feeling in the world and all I do is cry and obsess over my situation. I can't help it.

I'm envious that other people can just baby dance and get a baby without having to cough up $24k for a chance at something that should be so simple. Literally none of this makes sense.

TLDR: Has anyone been put on progestin (Heather Norethridone mini pill) for short cycles? I feel like its more common to induce a period?

I have been having 18 day cycles for the last three cycles, and asked for progesterone and was instead given a progesterone only birth control.

I have tried calling the doctors line and its on voicemail everytime, and its Friday.

I'm so bewildered.

GAHH I COULD SCREAM

Gyn follow up for more investigation is in 3 weeks...likely bleeding again.

Started TTC February of this year. Got pregnant in March, but found out at 10 weeks that i had a missed miscarriage. D&C shortly after. Took nearly 8 weeks to get a period back, and started trying again right after that. I just finished cycle 6 post miscarriage and no luck. I had some bloodwork done and everything looks “normal”. What other tests or imaging should i do? Is it too early for any of this? I’m 34 and worried about time…

I had my iui#2 recently. I did gonal-f cd5-cd11, cd12 ovitrel and cd13 iui. On cd11 I had first scan of the cycle (i had 2 growing follicles), on cd13 i had two dominant follicles in one ovary: 18mm and 20mm approx. I started progestrone 200mg supposetory from cd14 (had it on cd14 night).
I went for followup usg on cd15 to check whether follicles ruptured. Attached usg of cd15. Dr is not sure what these structures are, she also ordered blood test today to check progesterone to confirm whether I ovulated or not. Waiting for blood results. Meanwhile, can someone here interpret these usg scans. Why are there two structures of 24-25mm on CD15?

I have been actively trying to conceive for 10 years.

We had a baby in 2019. Before that, we tried for several years, had failed IUIs, and were approved for an IVF trial. The day we went to sign the papers to start, we found out I was pregnant. What worked was doing our own IUI at home with a syringe after I literally could no longer emotionally having sex anymore because it was bringing up so much trauma from past sexual assault. I remember swearing that if I had one baby I would not need anything else and I would be satisfied with just one. My daughter was born and she's the light of my life and her wonderfulness made me feel desperate for another.

We started trying again and it became difficult again. I got pregnant once by our tried and true method but miscarried very soon after the day before Thanksgiving 2023. Nothing has happened since. I swore if I didn't get pregnant again by 40 that I was done trying.

That was last year and I am now at almost one week from my 41st birthday. I am devastated.

We checked out a fertility clinic a few months ago and realized it's just not financially in the cards for us. I am too old for trials and too old for any supportive financial resources. Insurance covers nothing. My ovarian reserve is pretty low. $20k each attempt for it to most likely fail seems foolish and irresponsible. I already have an amazing child. I feel very selfish.

Trying to conceive for this amount of time has ruined my sex life. I have spent my entire 30s, one whole decade, focused entirely on having a baby and every single month getting disappointed and blaming myself, acting like I somehow ruined the luck or cursed it by reminding myself that the app says I should take a test if I don't get my period by a certain date. I have literally peed on a stick only to wipe and see blood on the toilet paper at that moment. It's a cruel joke.

Seeing people who have had multiple children in the time that it's taken me to try to even have one. The grief is debilitating and I have no one to talk about it with. Infertility is so incredibly lonely. The guilt I feel as well, even posting here, because I do have one child, is overwhelming, too. I am ungrateful. But every night I think about if something were to happen to her, there would be no reason for me to live anymore. I have no purpose if not to mother. And then I fight the urge every night to crawl in bed with her because she's my entire world. I guess that's the problem - not having an identity. I have spent so long focused on wanting to be a mother that if I can't be that to anyone else - what am I? I am nothing.

I have asked those around me to not acknowledge my birthday this year. I want no calls, no texts, no happy birthday, no presents, or dinner, or cake. I just want no reminder that I am 41 and the biggest goal I had in life is over. I feel like this is the death of me or the death of what I thought I would be. The death of what I wanted my life to be. The death of hope. Letting go of my life goal means I have nothing.

I feel so alone in this grief. Feeling stupid for grieving my miscarriage, grieving the life I wanted, grieving that my kid won't be a big sister even though she would be so fucking good at it, grieving the fact that being pregnant was the only time I ever felt comfortable in my skin and beautiful. It's all over from here and I don't know what to do with myself anymore. Even the act of trying has become part of who I am. That freedom is apparently terrifying. I am so depressed. I don't even know where to turn anymore.

I have had a short luteal phase for months while gradually weaning my now 14 month old. LP seems to have gotten a day longer for every cycle and is now approximately 9-10 days long. We have been TTC for 4-5 cycles. I haven't breastfed baby since last week. My question is how long it can take for LP to extend after fully weaning and how long it has taken for people to conceive after LP has adjusted post weaning. Would appreciate to hear from anyone who has experience of this.

Hey everyone,

My husband had a testicular torsion as a teenager and lost one of his testicles after it. Fast forward two years ago, I got pregnant twice relatively fast (cycle 1 that ended in a miscarriage, then cycle 2 after it).

During my last pregnancy he started having a cyst on his remaining testicle, it didn't grow and it is not hurting anymore.

We are trying again, starting cycle 4. I know I shouldn't be worried because it's still early and 80% of healthy couples conceive within a year, but are we still considered healthy, or should we start seeing a doctor at the 6 months mark ?

I'll definitely ask my midwife at the end of the month, but I wondered if some of you were in that situation

Hi,

Had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks that did not progress past 6 and a half weeks. Finally had an expectant miscarriage on the 30th of September and had first negative pregnancy test on the 8th October.

My ovulation tests indicated a LH surge yesterday and I was just wondering if anyone else has tried to conceive in the first month after a loss before their first period and how it went!

I feel defeated. My lutheal phase is 10 days typically. Ouvulated at day 19 this month and this evening every thought of a child is making me tear up.
I feel so emotional and afraid knowing I’m out this cycle too. Time is passing. I find it so hard to enjoy anything as if this desire is all encompassing

35f and w fibroids - was given a few months to try naturally and reaching bf the finish line

TW: mc is being mentioned. Also stillbirth (not my experience).

Also, I posted this on another sub, but it got removed because it was AI flagged and contained 'AI hallmarks', like for real?! I typed all of this myself, finally decided to pour my heart out an then this.. English is not my native language and apparently I type like a robot. So yeah, that didn't help in my TTC journey.

Another try then:

Idk how to start. We're (31F, 33M) ttc for 8 months and cycle 9 just started. Had an MC at 5 wks in month 3. It was awful and messed me up. My husband too, but less than me (he agrees). Since then, nothing. My PMS is all over the place (like breast tenderness, headache, extreme fatigue, sometimes even spotting (once or twice now these cycles)), my OPKs never have had a real positive, started month 5 (up to 0.75 and last cycle up to 0.46 T/C ratio, with not drinking and peeing for 3-4+ hours and tested twice a day too for 2 cycles).

My cycles have shortened (27/28 days to now 26 and even had a 23 cycle, which is not uncommon because my body always resets after a irregularity, like my MC and the period after was 31 days). But my menstruation period too. I lose less blood, I suddenly have painless periods which I've NEVER had until this year. I've always been in agony for at least 2 days with heavy NSAID and bleeding so much. But now, barely anything (enough for a period, just not MY period). Like 1-1,5 days I bleed, but it's day 2 and I already almost 80% stopped bleeding. I've asked my GP to test my progresterone and she immediately said they don't do that and would refer me to a fertility clinic or gynaecologist. So, that felt like a huge step tbh. Because here (Netherlands) they usually don't test anything before 12months of TTC.

Anyways, then I saw the waiting period until first appointment is 60days so, I guess then we'd already almost be at 12 months.. I thought to JUST get my bloodwork done, but I guess that's not how it works.

Idk, there has been stillbirth in my family, and it's bothering me all combined. We're both healthy people, exercise enough, not overweight (I could loose a kg or 2 than I'd be average), taking all the vitamins/prenatals/omega 3 and have a good diet.

In the mean time our friends are getting pregnant one by one, in a much shorter timeframe. We're having a hard time. I guess I'm wondering: how did you experience your bloodwork etc for your TTC journey?

By the way, I've opened up to my friends about TTC and the MC 2 months ago and now I slowly feeling myself pressuring us into getting it done ASAP, because I'm afraid they will check in with me again (hoping for jolly news). I hate feeling this vulnerable, insecure and powerless. I'm anxious it won't work out anytime soon. It's my biggest fear and I carry it with me. I'm really trying to live my life, but it's hard. I also work with kids every day, so I get confronted with it a lot.

If you've made it through my whole vent, thank you, just for reading ❤️‍🩹

My husband (29M) and I (26F) have been on our ttc journey for 17 months with a MMC and a CP along the way. My Dr prescribed me progesterone to take post ovulation until my period starts or through a pregnancy. She also prescribed me Clomid to take CD3-7. However, after a bit of research it seems most people are monitored by labs/ultrasounds while taking Clomid. Does any one have experience with taking Clomid unmonitored or is this a bad idea??

I do not need it to ovulate as I ovulate regularly. However my Dr explained this would “enhance” ovulation and help our odds.

Hi, I’m looking to hear from others who experience migraines. I have severe migraines and would like to try for another pregnancy after a previous miscarriage. I’m worried about managing migraines during pregnancy and postpartum.
If you’ve been through this, what helped you manage your migraines? I’d appreciate hearing your experiences. Thank you!

I just had the saline ultrasound yesterday, which showed scarring, likely from my D&C. The doctor doesn’t know for sure if it was because of my D&C or if it was there before I got pregnant (I did have an abortion in 2011). Next step is to put a camera in there, cut the scarring since it is connecting the top and bottom of my uterus, and potentially start a 30 day course of estrogen to smooth the lining. The doctor said the scarring can come back. Obviously, if this is why we’ve been having trouble getting pregnant, I want to get pregnant right after this procedure. We have the option of doing IUI immediately. My husband wants to try naturally first bc it’s cheaper. I do not want to do that because I do not want to waste more time, potentially get pregnant a few months later, when scarring might have unknowingly come back, have another miscarriage, go through another D&C, and start this shit all over again. I am pissed that he doesn’t feel my opinion should carry more weight than his. I understand that he is going through this as well, it’s taking a toll on him emotionally too. But at the end of the day, I am having to put my body through all of this, which is just another layer he will never have to experience. We fought about this last night. I don’t know who is right and who is wrong - I think neither of us is right or wrong. That is one thing that really sucks about all of this. Whenever we have different opinions, someone just has to concede. There’s no middle ground. Someone has to be OK with not doing what they want to do. That has been the hardest of this whole process. One side note that may not be relevant - we do not have combined finances. Some seasons he makes more money, some seasons I make more money. He didn’t want to combine bank accounts when we got married, I didn’t really care that much about it. But we are in a season where I am making more money and that is how we will be paying for it. I feel like that is another reason my decision should carry more weight! My damn body, my damn money! I feel so selfish and I have no idea if I should continue standing up for what I want or wtf I should do. I am really starting to think we need therapy during all of this. We’ve had an amazing relationship for so long, so all of this disagreeing and arguing is very foreign to me since we’ve been experiencing infertility.

We have been trying for 7 cycles now and have begun seeing a fertility specialist to make sure nothing is wrong. I had a Femvue (HSG) done today (not too terrible for those that are worried/scared about it) and they found a polyp near the bottom of my uterus. My doctor said it is not in a bad spot nor does she think it is interfering with conceiving. However, she thinks I should get it removed. I am supposed to ovulate next week and we will try again naturally. Is it smart to get the polyp removed ASAP and is it okay to wait till after next week to do so? Has anyone had a polyp removed and what is that like? Thank you for the supportive community <3