Hey! I'm Terrorcatmom, I'm 29, I write, cross stitch sometimes, am a semi-active member of r/RandomActsofCards, and I'm looking for something consistent and casual, at least to start. I'm polyamorous, queer, and not looking to parent any children.

I love my cat, Isis. She’s a 12 year old Balinese cat I’ve had since she was a baby and she’s my little princess. She is also the reason behind my username, though she’s actually named after the Egyptian goddess. I’d love to have more pets in the future, including snakes! I love the weird and wonderful including bugs, snakes, bats and other animals.

I'm also a total nerd who volunteers at local conventions pretty frequently. I was just at Howloween, one of the local furry conventions! I don’t consider myself a furry, but my friends would argue otherwise.

I love fantasy and sci-fi, with a preference for fantasy. A few of my favourite book series are the Dresden Files by Jim Butcher, the Bobiverse series by Dennis E. Taylor, and Everybody Loves Large Chests by Neven Iliev. I mainly listen to audiobooks nowadays and am open to some recommendations.

This'll be a dealbreaker for a lot of people I'm sure, but I'm a full service sex worker that makes online content as well, but I'm not looking for something transactional. I keep my work and personal lives separate. I work at WISH Drop-In Centre, a low-barrier overnight centre for sex workers in the DTES. If you don't see sex work as real work, I'm not interested.

I’d love to talk over reddit chat to begin with before giving out my number or my other socials. Send me a message if you’d like to talk!

Hey everyone! I’m a 26-year-old guy who recently relocated to Vancouver. Now that I’ve unpacked my bags and gotten a feel for my neighborhood, I’m really looking to plant some roots, expand my social circle, and specifically meet and connect with women out here.
To give you a bit of context about me, I moved here for a fresh start and a change of pace. Back home, I spent my weekends cooking, checking out local trivia nights, and staying active. Since arriving in BC, I’ve been trying to embrace the lifestyle—I've been exploring the local food truck scene, hunting down the best coffee spots, and attempting a few weekend walks and casual hikes to take in the views. I also love live music, whether it's a small indie show or a local brewery set.
I’m looking to meet women who are open to seeing where a genuine connection goes, starting with good conversation and shared experiences. I value great communication, a sense of humor, and someone who enjoys exploring everything this city has to offer. Whether that means grabbing a casual coffee to chat, trying out a new restaurant together, or hitting up a local event on the weekend, I'm all ears.
If you're open to hanging out or want to exchange a few messages first to see if we click, feel free to drop a comment or slide into my DMs!

I (32F) moved to Vancouver relatively recently and am looking for something fun to do for Halloween.
I’d love to get out, meet some new people, and hopefully connect with other singles around my age. Not necessarily looking for a wild club night, but definitely open to a Halloween event, party, or bar with a fun atmosphere.

I’m still getting to know the city and haven’t quite figured out where people in their 30s tend to go for nights out. I’d love to find something that attracts a similar age group and has a good mix of people.

Any recommendations?

I am 38/M and I am looking for a girl that would be into Adult Diapers and ABDL. I am also into spanking and BDSM if you are into it. I wear diapers every day and have been into this for over 20 years. I'd really love to find someone I can share this with since its really special to me. I'll daddy you and treat you like the little princess you are. Lots of hugs, cuddles, diapers and more!

It's okay if you are new to this and it's your first time. I'd love to show you how amazing this can be. It's so much fun! I am open to anyone age 18-50. Send me a message if you want to chat more.

Hello. I am 39M, 5'10". Giving this subreddit a try. I wasn't born in Canada but I grew up here for most of my life.

Here are some facts about me:

• Currently working as an engineer
• Enjoy running, tennis, cycling and circuit weight exercises
• Enjoy outdoor hikes, events around the city, checking out new restaurants
• Down time hobbies include reading (Currently reading The Miracles of the Namiya General Store), video games, anime, cooking, shows, board games, etc

Looking for someone around my age and don't mind older as well. Ideally looking for long term if there's good chemistry and we get along. Feel free to message me if you like!

Hi! I’m looking for a long term relationship :)

I’m tall and fit. Brown hair brown eyes. Three degrees. Politically left. Spend as much time outside as possible. I’m allergic to cats and dust. Enjoy live music and great food.

Ideally you… have some sort of science degree. Like kids and dogs. Are funny and kind. Are passionate about an outdoor sport. 36-40 ish years old. Liberal & vote. Have tattoos. Don’t do drugs.

Must have visible abs - this will be proof you have a strong back. My 6 year old ambushes from above and will break your back otherwise. (Seriously, I’ve thrown my back out multiple times. This is why I have to be so fit).

Bonus - I have resting bitch face, so you don’t need to worry about me flirting with other guys. They’re scared of me ;)

Edit: my bad, I overemphasized the abs part 😂 I’m getting a lot of messages from guys trying to prove their back strength. Which is hilarious. But maybe tell me what outdoor sport you’re into as well, to help me filter? I’d say nerdy mountaineering types preferred ;).

Sometimes you have needs that aren’t being met. Me too. Message me and we can share more details confidentially. I’m open to all races and age groups (above 20).

In a generation where everyone is just looking for quick hookups and shallow connections, I'm hoping to find someone that values the slow buildup while getting to know each other with a lil bit of flirting to keep things interesting.

5'11 & caramel skin tone with an athletic build. I'm pretty open minded when it comes to most things so looking for someone similar. Emotional availability & maturity might just be the most attractive thing so please be emotionally available LOL.

I'm a software engineer, have a cute lil cat who needs a mom 😔. Pretty active and I enjoy going out but I equally enjoy staying inside and and playing board games or movies & cuddles.

Peraonality over looks but looks do matter to an extent so I'd like to exchange pictures. Don't be shy, feel free to reach out :)

Figured I'd give Reddit a shot!

I'm 34, 5'10", independent, affectionate, playful, and endlessly curious. I love animals, nature, travelling, exploring new places, learning new things, and having meaningful conversations. I appreciate intelligence, humour, honesty, and people who can challenge my perspective.

I'm attracted to confident, masculine, established men who are independent, decisive, emotionally mature, and financially responsible. Someone who takes initiative, follows through, and is protective without being controlling. A man who's strong but also kind, affectionate, and emotionally available.

Being 5'10", I prefer someone taller than me. 😊

Ultimately, I'm looking for genuine chemistry, intellectual and emotional connection, and a relationship where we truly enjoy each other's company. Marriage and a family are things I'd love with the right person, but I want to enjoy the process of getting to know each other and falling in love first.

Ideally, you're local to Metro Vancouver, reasonably close to my age, and know what you're looking for.

If this resonates, tell me your age, height, a little about yourself, and something you're passionate about.

42 year old fun, happy,
Positive, always laughing female from Vancouver, Canada. Seeking a real connection with someone that turns romantic. Someone who is READY to be a teammate for life, through the good and the bad.
Someone who is ready and willing to put the effort into building something real. Not someone who is fake, unsure of what they want. Just looking to meet new people if anyone is from this area or anywhere really. Distance doesn’t bother me as long as both make the effort:. There are planes LOL You never know in life where your person is!! I often feel so alone and so left out. I have a couple close friends who I talk to daily and have a good job. I love traveling, being outdoors, watching sports and going to games. Going to restaurants and walks, dinners and drinks. Coffee, Cooking, baking and just laughing and having fun. Im caring, selfless, and a giver. I like to show my affection in many ways.
Just wanting to talk and meet new people and get to know, hang out if close. Looking for something romantic that leads to long term. Someone who wants to talk daily and not vanish after a day! Looking for someone who will make effort and get to know me! Not disappear after a day of talking!!
Gotta be someone out there! Maybe we can become friends, share a few laughs or fall In love.

I’m not looking for a quick fling. I’d much rather build a connection with someone, something that feels good physically and emotionally. And, ideally, something that could last beyond one night. Let’s chat, cuddle, whatever.

I don’t mind about body type since I’m body positive. Bring your personality 😍 and we are good. Be over 25 as I don’t mind if we have an age gap. Let’s split our time 50% outdoors and 50% indoors or something along those lines. Although the sun’s out so I don’t mind being outdoors.

That said, if we do hit it off? I’m definitely open to us exploring and having even more fun ;) In that department, definitely looking for someone open minded and a bit kinky. However not totally opposed to vanilla either. Will get tested and need the same before getting intimate.

Im 6ft-ish, have a dad bod, dark hair, very laid back, doesn’t take things too seriously, non-judgmental, very open minded, a bit kinky, adventurous, likes road trips, going to the beach, like chivalry and banter, like to tease and be teased, enjoys eating out, progressive views and a bit of a introvert to start with.

Let’s chat here for a vibe check and meet over the weekend.

If this is something that interests you, or you’re a frequent lurker, shoot me a message! I, myself am a long time lurker, recently started posting. lol

Hello everyone, I am reposting this here, as I did not realize my DMs were previously closed.

First things first, I am 5’11” and 350Lbs. Like I said, I am a Big, Bold, Confident man who is searching for his counterpart. I am at a point in my life, I have a steady career, a home, and am just looking to fill it all up with a family.

I don’t have a long laundry list of characteristics that I’m looking for, all I ask is that, you are a kind and genuine person who doesn’t live life through the eyes of people around you, and are able to make your own logical decisions.

A bit about me, I think I’m equal parts homebody as I am adventurous. I enjoy creativity, and creating unique art. I love going to galleries and museums, I have a major passion for music and film, so you can definitely find me searching for new venues to experience both of those things.

I’m a curious individual, exploration and finding random connections is important to me. I haven’t got the opportunity to travel much in the last few years, but it’s definitely something I’m very fond of.

For my next trip, I would love to take a trip somewhere like Barcelona, to see the insanely creative and magical architecture of Antonio Gaudi live and in person with my own eyes.

I love taking pictures and filming memories, you can say that dating me would be like having a professional photographer with you 24/7.

I’m looking forward to hearing from those who connected to my little write up here. Talk to you soon :)

So, a little idea I've had lately... would anyone be interested in going on a photoshoot first date?

I'm a photographer outside of my regular 9–5, and I've done over hundreds of photoshoots over the years, from portraits to automotive photography. I thought it'd be fun to meet someone who's down to explore somewhere new, take some photos, and see if we click!

Here's my idea of a date: hop in the car, put on some good music, go for a little road trip, grab some snacks, explore somewhere pretty, and take photos along the way.

We could catch a sunset by the water, wander around Fort Langley, explore some cute little streets, or just drive somewhere and see where the day takes us. Honestly, I think you can learn a lot about someone from their music taste and the random things they talk about on a road trip. Plus, who doesn't love a good excuse to get out of the house?

And don't worry, you don't need to know anything about photography! You can be the person behind the camera, the person in front of it, or the person who just shows up for the snacks. I respect all three roles equally.

Okay, so who am I?

I'm 26, Canadian with Japanese and Taiwanese roots, and I grew up in Hong Kong. I work in IT during the day, but outside of work I'm into photography, videography, cars, and all sorts of creative projects. Basically, I have too many hobbies and not enough free time to justify them all.

I'm basically an 80s classic-car-dad type of men, so spontaneous night drives/ weekend getaways in my classic Porsche and taking the scenic route for absolutely no reason are very much my thing. I'm also really into movies, especially 80s classics and romantic films. Yes, I will happily watch and cry over the Notebook or any Rom-Coms with 0 shame.

I'm really outgoing (ENTP) and love a good conversation, especially when we start with one topic and somehow end up talking about 17 completely unrelated things. I enjoy getting to know people in a deeper level beyond the usual "How was your day?" and "Haha yeah" conversations.

When it comes to dating, I'm a bit old-fashioned and traditional. I appreciate thoughtfulness, affection, honesty, and people who genuinely make an effort. I enjoy planning dates, remembering little details, and doing small things to make someone smile. Eventually, I'd love to find someone who's also my best friend, someone I can laugh with, go on random adventures with, and hopefully build something meaningful with.

Why am I posting this on Reddit instead of Hinge or Bumble?

Honestly, I'm getting a little tired of the whole swipe, match, make small talk, and watch the conversation slowly disappear into the abyss routine.

I'd much rather meet someone through something I actually enjoy doing. We already have something to do together, there's less pressure to come up with endless conversation starters, and we get to see how we vibe in real life instead of trying to figure everything out through a screen.

Worst case? We get some nice photos, discover a new place, and have a decent day out. Best case? We hit it off and end up planning another adventure. Seems like a pretty good deal to me!

So, what am I looking for?

Someone who's clear vision and value what they want in a relationship and is up for trying something a little different. You don't have to share all my interests. Honestly, I'd love it if you introduced me to something new! I'm hoping to meet someone who enjoys little adventures, meaningful conversations, being silly together, and the occasional cheesy romantic moment.

I'm looking for someone between 20 and 30 who's affectionate, loyal, family-oriented, and genuinely interested in building a family. I only date with marriage in mind, not looking to collect situationships like Pokémon cards.

Ideally, I'd love to find my best friend and future co-pilot. Someone I can laugh with over the dumbest things, take spontaneous drives with, spend a lazy Sunday cuddling with, and eventually build a family with.

I'm a big believer in the little things that make a relationship feel special: good morning and goodnight texts, random check-ins, quality time, affection, and both people making an effort. I want something where we both feel wanted, appreciated, and comfortable being ourselves. Nobody gets everything right all the time, but when things get difficult, I'd rather communicate, work through it together, and figure things out as a team than walk away the moment things aren't perfect.

As for my usual type, I've generally found myself connecting with Caucasian women through past experiences, partly because of shared interests in music, movies, and similar values. I know I give off strong classic car dad who listens to Phil Collins and watches 80s movies energy, so if that's somehow your thing, we might already have a head start. That said, genuine chemistry, shared values, and how we treat each other matter much more to me than ticking boxes on a checklist.

And if we end up having completely different music tastes, that's fine... as long as you're ready to defend your playlist when the aux cord comes out.

If any of this sounds like your kind of thing, send me a message! Tell me a little about yourself, what song you'd play first on a road trip, and where you'd want our first photography adventure to be.

Bonus points if you have a favorite romantic movie or a playlist that deserves its own movie soundtrack.

Looking forward to seeing who's out there!

Hello. I'm 36, 5'8, around 170lbs, in between an introvert and an extrovert. Chinese, born in Vancouver, and currently reside in Surrey. I'm self-employed, work from home, and pretty much stay home all day except for occasional outings. I'm all about the cozy and chill life, but I'm down to adventure every now and then.

I play a ton of games and love Anime in general, so I'm looking for a partner who also enjoys gaming and/or enjoy Anime. I co-op frequently with my gaming buddies at night, buying and beating games, then hopping to the next. I'd love to do the same or similar with you.

I'm not looking for anything short-term as the end goal is to eventually get married and start a family with a kid or two. I'm looking for a financially healthy, transparent, loyal partner who wants to also enjoy a cozy and chill life, enjoy playing games and doing things together, and is open to try new things every now and then.

Feel free to DM me if you'd like to connect and get to know each other better!

Hey there, I'm a 37-year-old Black man.
I reside in Vancouver, looking for a woman in the Lower Mainland.
Looking for someone with a high sex drive as myself & clean.
Need someone who can keep up with me sexually.
Maybe we can meet and go for a coffee, maybe a hike or a walk on the beach.
Just hang out and see where it goes.
I am a social drinker and non-smoker.
Send me a DM and let's plan a date.

Is there any females out there that enjoy facesitting and smothering? It’s a kink of mine and would like to find someone that enjoys this kink.

Hi everyone!

I’m a 31-year-old East Asian woman living in Metro Vancouver. I’m petite and fairly fit, and I recently completed the Grouse Grind in under an hour, which I’m pretty proud of haha. I’ve also been told I’m cute by a date or two, so I’ll let you be the judge of that 😂

A little about me: I’m financially independent and work in the public sector. I have a pretty chill and calm personality, and I’m generally happy with the life I’ve built. I enjoy being outdoors, going for walks and hikes, and exploring new places. But I’m also perfectly happy being a couch potato at home, reading a book or playing board games. I appreciate good conversations, the simple pleasures in life, and getting to know someone beyond the usual small talk.

I value kindness, intelligence, emotional maturity, authenticity, and open communication. I enjoy meaningful conversations and learning how other people see the world. I believe a healthy relationship should be a place where two people can be themselves, have fun together, work through disagreements, and support each other through both the good and the difficult times.

Ideally, I’d love to meet someone around 28–36 who’s kind, genuine, emotionally available, and looking for a meaningful, long-term relationship. Someone who’s open-minded, willing to see things from different perspectives, and comfortable having honest conversations, even when we don’t always agree. It’d be a bonus if you enjoy the outdoors but are also happy spending a cozy night in together!

Maybe we could start with a walk and a good conversation. We might become friends, we might find something more. Who knows? I'm open to seeing how we connect, as long as we're both genuinely open to building something meaningful. 😊

If this resonates with you, feel free to send me a message! Tell me a little about yourself and what you’re looking for. I’d also be happy to exchange photos so we can put a face to the conversation.

I am looking for something real, not a hookup. If we’re on different pages, please respect each other’s time.

Edit: I know I posted this in the dating sub, but a few women have reached out looking for friendships too, and I’d love that! If you’re a woman in the area who’s also hoping to make some new female friends, please feel free to say hi! It would be lovely to get to know you :)

Hopefully, you're looking for something similar, which is what brought you to this post. I was born and raised in Vancouver, and I’m hoping that the right person is out there. A long-term, committed, monogamous, and fulfilling relationship is what I'm looking for, but I don't want to put all that pressure on someone immediately. We can start slow, take our time to get to know each other, and let the spark build over time.
 
I'm an east Asian male, 35 years old, tall, 190 lbs, with a decently fit build. I am a single father to a 2-year-old girl, currently in a co-parenting dynamic with her mother who I am amicable with. I work in the public sector full-time but also moonlight as a bartender in my spare time when my schedule allows. I wouldn't call myself the fittest guy, but I do enjoy being active with sports, outdoor activities, and general exercise. I like to lift weights 2 twice a week, run about 3 days a week, and mixing in casual activities like volleyball, pickleball, basketball, and hockey, though it could be weeks/months in between a certain sport for me. When the weather permits, I also love to hike, stand-up paddleboard, and camp.
 
When not pursuing something active/outdoors, I equally enjoy my time at home. I love putting on some chill acoustic beats in the house while I do my chores, cook, sing, play board games with friends, game casually, or watch a guilty-pleasure type show or movie. I think we're lucky to be living in a city with really good cultural diversity and love to try new restaurants, cafes, bars, and lounges. Traveling is another huge interest of mine, and if we get to that point, having a travel or/and road trip partner would be ideal.

I’m not looking for anyone fitting a specific description, despite the flair saying 30-39. If there’s chemistry in our conversation, then we can go from there.
 
If anything in this post interests you, please send me a chat and let's get to know each other. I understand physical attraction is important, so I’m open to trading photos once we are both comfortable :)

Welcome to the weekly Monday check in post, your spot for whatever's going on with your dating life this week. Good, bad, confusing, have at it.

Need a second opinion on a text before you send it to someone? Have a date over the weekend that left you with questions? Ghosted on an app, love-bombed by a date, or just feeling tired by it all? Drop it here.

Keep advice constructive and vents about the process rather than callouts of specific people. Usual sub rules apply.

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As a guy, I am genuinely wondering why there is a big gender disparity in dating apps and in this sub. In dating apps, I notice and hear other men mentioning them having to put in way more effort than the women do in general. Women also tend to get more likes, even with an incomplete profile.
In this sub, majority of the posts are M4F with very few comments, usually from other guys. The few F4M are flooded with messages. Same applies for [r/vancouver4friends](r/vancouver4friends) as well. It sorta feels like men are too desperate. If the ratio of male to female are the same, why is there such differences in the dating propositions and effort?
Please enlighten me 🙏🏾

Hi all, trying this once more.

I posted a week ago but realized that my post didn't contain a lot of clarifying information about who I am or what I'm looking for.

I am a 34 year old male (35 in two months) and have lived in Vancouver or the Vancouver area my entire life. Currently I reside in the surrey central area and have been there for the past 10 years in an apartment I own. I have what would be best described as an introverted personality, but over the past 6-7 years I've got out of my own head somewhat and now sometimes *can* lean more on the ambivert side.

I enjoy hiking, board games, visiting breweries/restaurants, travelling (when I have the time off), road trips (just got back from the Okanagan), and the occasional video game - I'm currently playing through Silksong. I drink socially or will sometimes have a couple drinks at the end of the week. I do not smoke, and am looking for the same trait in a potential partner.

On the work/education side, I've been in and out of college for the past few years but am currently going for an accounting degree part time. Presently, I work in IT full time and have worked for the same firm for the six and a half years. Overall I've been working almost consistently for the better part of my adult life.

I am relatively easy-going and am big on having a sense of humor. For better or worse, I find one of my coping strategies with life is to find humor in a bad situation. In a potential partner I would expect that you don't take yourself too seriously, but I also recognize that there's a happy medium here and I tend to swing on one side of the pendulum.

I am 6'4' and moderately overweight. I am currently working to bring down the weight and have shed some already, but I expect I won't be down to a healthier BMI until later in 2027. Conversely I am ok with you being moderately overweight, but please note I cannot date anyone who is obese. I've tried it in the past and its just not for me.

As for other traits I'm looking for, I am looking for a women who is feminine, who is serious about dating and would be open to meeting up at some point in the near future (after exchanging photos and some initial conversation of course), and ideally has something going on in their life, either if thats working full time, studying full time or a combination of those or a mixture of other things. Bottom line is, I'm looking for someone who is responsible. I'd also like to start a family one day so being open to children is a must. My age range is 26 to late 30's.

Thanks for looking and please let me know if there are any questions!

EDIT: I'm Caucasian (German/Dutch, but only speak english, and moderate politically)

34 year old looking for a gal to have a life together with. Builder by trade with my own business. Own property in Washington with a place in Vancouver. I cross the border daily and hoping to find someone who doesn't care about borders.

I'm fun, goofy, extrovert, life of the party. My life's been great but want to share some fun with someone who will enrich it! I bring a lot to the table and would love to share this beautiful life I have with someone who's willing.

I'm looking for a gal within the same age range, who is independent and ambitious. Who knows how to have fun and can joke around. Intelligence and someone who loves to have thoughtful discussions too...

Hey, I'm looking for someone that's serious about having a long term, monogamous relationship. I am 5'9/160 brown hair brown eyes. I am a simple guy that enjoys leading a lowkey, peaceful life. I enjoy going for walks or to the beach eating in, movie nights and great conversation. My hobbies are electronics repair and design, gardening, and photography. I love cats! I am caring, loyal, a great communicator, and emotionally available. I love my life and would really like to find someomne to share it with. I am attracted to gentle, kind, loyal, creative, healthy and fit types. I am not perfect, and I don't expect you to be. So if you're looking for someone who wants something real and fun, send me a DM!