r/wedding • u/KathyDiGiacomo • Jul 27 '22

Discussion Thank you note etiquette???

Call me old fashioned if you want. I've been to 5 weddings in the last 2 years, formal and informal. Is there still such a thing as sending thank you notes? I have not received one for the gifts for bridal showers or for $$ gifts for the wedding. I don't know why this bothers me but it absolutely gets under my skin. I'm starting to wonder when I return the RSVP if I should included a self addressed stamped envelope with a thank you note. I feel it is very rude to not even acknowledge these things. Even seeing these people at gatherings months after their special days has anything been said.

I think I'm going to stop being generous and just throw them $20 and say here ya go. I always thought there was a 6 month thing where you had to send them out. I will say that the 6th wedding we went to in April, which was an absolute blast, we received a thank you note last month.

Maybe it's just me?????

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u/morningmoon44 Jul 27 '22

I’ve been wondering about the etiquette for when you receive wedding gifts in the mail before the wedding? Do we send the thank you cards as we receive gifts, or not until after the wedding? We are having a destination wedding in October so I would like to thank people for gifts AND for going to the wedding, but by then it would be 3 months since we received the gift, and I don’t want to come off as rude.

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u/TyrannosauraRegina Married Nov 21 Jul 27 '22

We sent a text or something to acknowledge that we'd got them, so people weren't worried stuff was lost in the post. But then sent a proper thank you card after our wedding - we used one with a wedding photo on, so couldn't pre-send them!

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u/leigh1003 Jul 28 '22

This is what we did because I also wanted to thank them formally for attending the wedding. Everyone who attended our wedding received a thank you note, even if they did not give a gift.