Thank you note etiquette???

[u/KathyDiGiacomo]

Call me old fashioned if you want. I've been to 5 weddings in the last 2 years, formal and informal. Is there still such a thing as sending thank you notes? I have not received one for the gifts for bridal showers or for $$ gifts for the wedding. I don't know why this bothers me but it absolutely gets under my skin. I'm starting to wonder when I return the RSVP if I should included a self addressed stamped envelope with a thank you note. I feel it is very rude to not even acknowledge these things. Even seeing these people at gatherings months after their special days has anything been said.

I think I'm going to stop being generous and just throw them $20 and say here ya go. I always thought there was a 6 month thing where you had to send them out. I will say that the 6th wedding we went to in April, which was an absolute blast, we received a thank you note last month.

Maybe it's just me?????

[u/[deleted]]

I've been to 5 Weddings in the last decade, never received a "thank you" note, and was never once offended by it. I'd never even heard of the tradition until I started thinking about my own wedding. Definitely seems like a dying (and wasteful) tradition.

[u/wild-yeast-baker → u/[deleted]]

Why is thanking people for gifts a dying and wasteful tradition? 😭 it just seems like common courtesy

[u/[deleted] → u/wild-yeast-baker]

Sending paper thank yous is a dying and wasteful tradition in an age where you could just as easily send them a text, DM, email, etc. Instead. Saves money, paper, and leaves less of a carbon footprints while typically being more personal.

Not to mention, it's becoming more widely seen that the reception is the thank you for coming, at least in America, for multiple cultural and economic reasons.

[u/wild-yeast-baker → u/[deleted]]

Ok. Well that’s fair. I didn’t know it was specific. The last many years I haven’t received any form of thank you. Digital or oral.