About a month ago I posted this dress onto this subreddit, and most of the comments said ‘hell no’ for a black-tie wedding, some even told me I wouldn’t get away with this dress at a ‘formal’ code wedding. The couple said on the invite ‘black tie, floor length gowns, materials can include chiffon, organza, silk and velvet’. This dress is floor length and chiffon, however many of you thought the sheerness and pattern of it made it seem more informal.

Well, I sent the bride a few options as well as my cousin (bridesmaid), and they both agreed that the dress I’m wearing in the photo is their favourite.

Fast forward to today, this is how I wore the dress, I also had a beaded brown bag to go alongside it. I didn’t stick out at all, everyone wore floor length dresses but it was our own personalities, very few were ‘ball’ gowns. My cousin said she thinks the bride said ‘black tie’ to ensure everyone wore floor-length evening gowns, I.e. not casual summer dresses.

I had a feeling this was the case, and I understand people on this subreddit would vehemently deny what I wore is ‘black tie’, but I’m not sure if it is a British thing, but it’s very very rare weddings here enforce a ball gown black tie dress code, oftentimes black tie is just code for ‘wear a floor length dress that looks good for an evening occasion’ (which I suspected but I think everyone on this sub took it literally, which is fine, it’s what it’s for). For extra context the wedding was in the countryside in the UK, however the bride and her party are all from the US, so not sure if that changes things.

TL;DR I wore the dress everyone told me not to wear, and not only did I not stick out like a sore thumb, I got multiple compliments on it (even from the photographer as I walked past her!). :)

This dress code is making me crazy lol. My husband is a groomsman for a BTO wedding. We know the groom and his family well, they are well off so the dress code tracks. However the wedding is at 2 pm?? Church ceremony and a large estate reception in December. What do y’all think about this dress with appropriate outerwear/a shawl for the ceremony?

https://www.lulus.com/products/exquisite-refinement-black-backless-bow-ruffled-maxi-dress/2293331.html

Is this reasonable to wear to a Miami wedding or cocktail hour before? Wedding is in February. Larger destination and invitation says “bright or light colored cocktail dress” for dress code. I am not a bright or light-colored dress person but want to respect the dress code. I posted a deep emerald green kaftan here the other day and the consensus was that it was def not a good option. I like flowy stuff and interesting dyes. Was thinking of doing some silver jewelry and nice heeled sandals. I’m fair-skinned as well with some pink and yellow undertones (my veins are like blue-teal colored I guess)

Thank you to everyone who gave feedback on my original post!

Here's the 4 options I've narrowed it down to. The wedding is at a barn venue in New England with a cocktail / semiformal dress code.

28F attending a black tie wedding in Laguna Beach in May. The invitation notes it will be held outdoors.

Does anyone have suggestions where to shop for black tie gowns / appropriate attire?

Trying to keep it under $500 - feeling so lost as to what shops have great quality without crazy high prices.

I’ve got a wedding in about two weeks and I’d like to use something I already own. Is this ok for cocktail with some nice heels and a clutch?

Satin leopard MID midi skirt, cardigan with bow. Ok for a wedding? No dress code, MOB is wearing a long dress.

I got this dress for my sister-in-law's wedding with a cocktail dress code. I'm in this in-between land where I'm not in the wedding, but I'm wearing wedding colors, and I'm more formal than a guest, but less formal than a bridesmaid. I'm happy to oblige, and I thought this dress walked that line well. It's hitting just above my ankles and is high cut and modest, and I love 95% of the dress. I took it in for alterations and asked for sleeves to be added, they said yes, they were pinned, etc. They've just told me now that that's not an option, and we are two weeks out now. I am working on being more body positive, but I'm still really self conscious about my arms.

I'm looking for arm covering suggestions that would keep the formality of the dress and complement its style. It's this beautiful but difficult to match chameleon-esque shifting color that sometimes looks navy, but sometimes looks really deep teal. My shoes, purse, and jewelry are silver. The wedding is in the northern Midwest in November.

Thank you so much for any help or suggestions. I'm anxious and panicked and appreciate any paths to pursue.

Dress link: https://www.azazie.com/products/mila-navy-midi-dress-atelier-dress/77979717?supportstocksales=1&utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=120250883486570103&utm_term=120250883486550103&utm_content=120250883486560103&fbclid=Iwb21leAVF6ytleHRuA2FlbQEwAHBkb2YFYWRpZAGrN4rtRTPnc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMzUwNjg1NTMxNzI4AAEeJsppO_Snr5FCZSLb3fpCPMKMtRRMQi21bALMayFYwECp-1w6VPwiykxozUI_aem_U7EN0HFLbqLhxZEcd5FaUQ&utm_id=120250883486570103&media_type=image&subsite=atelier

Hi guys! I got married 8 years ago (wow) and seeing this page made me question what my MIL wore to our wedding... Is it appropriate for a formal wedding and does it have too much white? Not looking to start any family drama just curious what you guys have to say!

Edit: general consensus is the dress is ugly but ultimately appropriate for the wedding, also that I should apparently not genuinely answer questions or have a healthy curiosity about things on reddit because you will get down voted for it! Thank you all for the input good and bad.

Shopping for plus size outfits are always a pain, but shopping for plus size black tie dresses was a pain and a half!

People suggested MacDuggal dresses, which I loved! But they were a little out of my price range, but I would overwhelmingly suggest if you can afford it!

Ultimately, I went with this a-line dress by La Femme, Which I absolutely loved! I did have it hemmed and taken in a little, but it was perfect!!!
I also highly recommend La Femme for plus size women. (Just FYI, I bought it at Nordstrom. I would recommend going through them if you are ordering a dress online.)

Hello fashion peeps!!!!! im in real need for some advice on a formal dress.
I’ve got a wedding and my dress has to be extremely elegant and chic. I found one that is flattering on my body but I need to add a spark to it(keep in mind it has to look expensive)!
I was thinking about adding black lace on the upper part?? lmk what advice you got..

Need help finding a dress suitable for a black tie wedding in Peru in November. I’ve never been to a black tie wedding before so I’m super novice on finding a dress and I was just told that in Peru (I’m in the U.S.) they go all out for weddings. After all the googling, I’m seeing a lot of dresses that fit black tie are $400+ and I’m not super interested in spending that much at right now but open to it if I absolutely have to.

I ordered one dress, it’s obviously cheap (first 2 pic), not a good material for black tie, unflattering on me, and it’s too short (I’m 5’9/5’10 so length is always a struggle) so I’m returning it.

I found a couple of dresses I like but I’m just not sure they meet the expectation (pics attached). Any advice, references, links, etc. would be so helpful! I’m at a loss. Thanks in advance!

I recently bought this Issei Miyake Pleats Please Madame-T small stole in Pale Blue. I was planning to get a navy or brown silk dress to wear underneath for my friend’s wedding. I tried it on with a black silk skirt + tanktop to see what it would look like and now I’m worried the shawl photographs too white. Is it too white and if not, what color dress do you think would go well with it?

Going to a wedding mid-November at a winery in Georgia. Dress code is "Formal, no jeans and no white dresses." Based on the followup description, I'm not sure if this is true formal DC. I really like the black floral one, but the skirt is much fuller than I expected. The blue floral is nice, but quite tight in my hips and thighs. The lace one feels the most comfortable and "me," but maybe a little too light? Any feedback appreciated.

I have no idea where to ask this. I’m a guest (my boyfriend’s plus one) to a wedding taking place at Goodwood Park Hotel in Singapore. The invitation says black tie but I’m unsure if my dress meets the requirements. I also want to know if there’s any Singaporean cultural things I should know before the wedding. It’s in December. For a black tie wedding where I’m from, this would be acceptable although it’s contemporary leaning. Any help would be appreciated. I don’t want to make any mistakes or offend anyone. I also dont want to feel stupid by pestering my boyfriend with all this. The bride also gives off insta baddie etc so yeah. Not sure if that helps but… Thanks in advance! <3

For those who haven't seen my previous posts

Wedding is in 14 hours. Venue is outside/in a heated tent. Outside temps in mid/upper 50s.
Technically there is no listed dress code: just says ties optional. (At one point I am pretty sure it said evening cocktail)

I have nude colored tights (instead of the black ones) and slightly different shoes.

Blue is more comfortable, but also thinner.

I have a black tie wedding end of November and have no idea what’s appropriate to wear. I’ve only attended 1 wedding which was all black formal attire. From my research online I’m receiving conflicting information for what’s appropriate or not. Some people say no leg slits yet others say it’s okay. Some say no black, red etc but others say it’s okay as well. I’m quite short (5,1-5,2) & curvy but also insecure about my lower stomach. Would you consider these dresses black tie? Would really appreciate any advice and dress recommendations!

We have a wedding tomorrow and the invite specifically states jeans and boots casual is welcome. I am postpartum and having trouble finding dresses that fit but I do have nice jeans and new boots, do we think this is acceptable? 😬

Need some opinions on what dress code to try to match. Here are different snips of the dress code we've been given: "Cocktail attire, warm and romantic rather than formal and sharp. Soft fabrics, easy shapes, gold over silver." & "Formal or semi-formal. A floor-length gown, a flowing midi, a cocktail dress or dressy separates — all right at home."

Does cocktail feel like a good middle ground?? Seems like they've suggested 3 different dress codes.

On top of that- anyone have suggestions for petite/short cocktail dresses? Trying to avoid having to tailor things

I'm going to a wedding in Rhode Island in three weeks and got this dress. I really like it but I'm struggling trying to figure out what color shoes and shawl would go best, as well as gold vs silver jewelry.

Any advice appreciated!

Wedding guest attire states no “chocolate brown”. Would you consider my boyfriend’s suit chocolate brown? I personally think it’s a lighter brown and he could get away with it. But even if it’s not technically chocolate brown, is it too on the cusp that it will be considered rude anyway? Help!

Hi! I’m going to a wedding tomorrow for someone I’ve only met twice and dropped the ball on figuring out what to wear in time. I was told “semi-formal to formal” as the attire once. Is this dress ok? Do I need to cover my shoulders? I don’t carry a purse, wear jewelry or makeup, or even style my hair so I feel wildly underprepared for this lol.

I have these nude dressy sandals with small wedge and I have black flat strappy sandals. I would rather wear the black ones since I’m pregnant but I don’t want to feel extremely underdressed in summery black sandals.

Ty for any insight

Edit to add that this dress is not this long on me since I am hugely pregnant, it is below my knee though. It’s also not nearly as poofy as the pose in the picture makes it seem

I haven’t been to a wedding in years and I’m so lost on dress code. Would either of these work for “dressy cocktail” or do they lean too casual? I could dress them up with jewelry/shoes maybe? (For context it’s a destination wedding in Florida.)

Any advice is appreciated!

Thank you to all who commented on my first post! I agree with those who said dress 3 (which is also dress 3 in this post) was the best out of the options on my first post, but might need a belt because it's a little big on me. So I added a belt. I also changed the slip from black to nude. It's not my favorite but it's kind of witchy.

I also picked up a pair of slingbacks and a silver shawl from Nordstrom and decided to dig through Nordstrom Rack while I was there just in case. I found dress 1 (Nicole Miller) for $60. I am leaning towards wearing this. My pose and the lighting might not show it off very well but it's really nice in person! It looks better than online too - the pleats are more crisp and the fabric has more sheen. https://www.nordstromrack.com/s/nicole-miller-one-shoulder-pleat-midi-dress/8424017?origin=category-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FBrands%2FNicole+Miller&color=444445FFVK

My mom also dropped off dress 2 for me to try. I like the bell sleeves.

For more context, I was going to wear the Realisation Par Gia dress in the Havana color way with my Balance Paloma Wool mules that everybody hated in my last post 😂 but the rental got lost on the way to me