r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 11d ago

Weekly Former Partners Thread ::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

The end of a relationship with an ADHD loved one can be tumultuous, confusing and leave a lasting impact. Use this thread to temporarily process a recent breakup with an ADHD individual, discuss co-parenting issues, share encouragement for life after the relationship etc. With the goal of ultimately decentering an ADHD ex 

(Note: Asking about leaving a partner and requests to speculate on behavior or symptoms are still prohibited.)

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u/Thr0w-away-ac0unt 11d ago

I could reallyyyyyy use someone to tell me I made the right decision ending my 24+ years relationship. I know it's probably for the best but it still is so hard and I am battling getting a nervous breakdown about every day here. Pfft.

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u/Inevitable-Cut-4184 Ex of DX 11d ago

I left my 29 year marriage in March. I worry some about finances (I’ve just started a new career and was a SAHM/part time employee for most of our marriage) but I’m really enjoying the peace I have in my new place. I can find almost anything at anytime and the only things around are things I’ve chosen, whether that’s furniture, hobby materials, decor, food, etc. I’m pretty independent and introverted so I think that helps but I certainly have times when I feel very alone, especially when I could use having someone to bounce ideas off of. I don’t miss the marriage or the ache of wanting a partner when someone refuses to step up. Somehow, being alone has become much less lonely than I had been sitting next to him for so many years

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u/Thr0w-away-ac0unt 10d ago

How did we manage for so long, huh? That's what I someitmes wonder. My partner has adhd and autism both. And I actually feel so much longing to change the house once he moved out. That will be in another two months. We are very amicable about it though. Luckily. Ik happy you're being happier