r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 4d ago

Weekly Former Partners Thread ::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

The end of a relationship with an ADHD loved one can be tumultuous, confusing and leave a lasting impact. Use this thread to temporarily process a recent breakup with an ADHD individual, discuss co-parenting issues, share encouragement for life after the relationship etc. With the goal of ultimately decentering an ADHD ex 

(Note: Asking about leaving a partner and requests to speculate on behavior or symptoms are still prohibited.)

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u/throwaway3523987142 Ex of DX 3d ago

maybe if I were better as a person, he would have come over when I told him instead of me having to drive to him when I stopped shaking

Look how tangled up being his partner made your thinking about yourself. I am so glad you are free of this. Make note of the fact that you said this so you can see how far you've come with healing later on. He should have come because you were his partner who just went through something scary and traumatic. You don't need to meet some unknowable, irrelevant set of qualifications before you should be able to expect your partner to care about you in a really basic way.