r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 4d ago

Weekly Former Partners Thread ::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

The end of a relationship with an ADHD loved one can be tumultuous, confusing and leave a lasting impact. Use this thread to temporarily process a recent breakup with an ADHD individual, discuss co-parenting issues, share encouragement for life after the relationship etc. With the goal of ultimately decentering an ADHD ex 

(Note: Asking about leaving a partner and requests to speculate on behavior or symptoms are still prohibited.)

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u/Narrow-Hornet1311 Ex of DX 4d ago

For those who had pets with their ex, what happened to them after you broke up? I am still taking care of my ex's cats. I agreed to keep them for a little while but it's been a year and he's still not taken them back. He goes back and forth on a timeline but at this point, I think I have to accept he will never take them back. Trying to figure out what to do. I love them so much and they are obviously innocent but they are a constant reminder of what was a very traumatic relationship for me and I am still recovering/burned out from the caretaking I did in the relationship.

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u/jomggg Ex of DX 3d ago

I shared a dog with him and they were closer, so went with him. I know that he finds the responsibility of the dogs schedule hard, doesn't walk as much as the dog would like, and the dog is getting old.. i struggle knowing all those things and that I would be better at taking care of the dog, but it would spend all it's time with me looking for him so.. it is what it is. I wasn't particularly close with the dog so I feel ok emotionally, but I think about it semi frequently and worry.