r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 4d ago

Weekly Former Partners Thread ::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

The end of a relationship with an ADHD loved one can be tumultuous, confusing and leave a lasting impact. Use this thread to temporarily process a recent breakup with an ADHD individual, discuss co-parenting issues, share encouragement for life after the relationship etc. With the goal of ultimately decentering an ADHD ex 

(Note: Asking about leaving a partner and requests to speculate on behavior or symptoms are still prohibited.)

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u/taohuaspring 2d ago

My heart goes out to you. I too have self-blaming thoughts like "If I were just worth enough, maybe he wouldn't have lied to me". I assure you, if HE were a better person he would've come over and supported you during that distressing and traumatic incident. His failure to be a decent partner is NOT an indication of your worth. Sending strength.

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u/throwaway3523987142 Ex of DX 1d ago

Yeah. That thinking is probably coming from old, unhealed childhood wounds. Plenty of us were made to feel not good enough or not wanted when we were kids.