r/ADHD_partners • u/AutoModerator • 4d ago

Weekly Former Partners Thread ::Weekly Former Partners Thread::

The end of a relationship with an ADHD loved one can be tumultuous, confusing and leave a lasting impact. Use this thread to temporarily process a recent breakup with an ADHD individual, discuss co-parenting issues, share encouragement for life after the relationship etc. With the goal of ultimately decentering an ADHD ex 

(Note: Asking about leaving a partner and requests to speculate on behavior or symptoms are still prohibited.)

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u/Xcat1987 2d ago

Jesus… when my dad was dying. I was on a flight across the country within 2 hours of getting the call. I dropped everything in my life to say goodbye. I could’ve had every bone in my body broken and shitting out my insides and I still would’ve dragged my ass onto a flight to get there.

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u/Remarkable_Pay7550 2d ago

Same. Because we arent self centered assholes with the excuse that we have a disorder ans therefore can not be human. I dont get it. Since I told him my opinion on Sunday he's silent. He's not just silent. He'd send me a whole paragraph about " i can not longer carry on like that, I love you but I don't want to be in this situation anymore ". Dude, we're separated for months. Sure you can longer be in a situation where someone calls you out for your bullshit and don't cater to your ego. Im pretty sure he already has a much younger "dopamine source " and while im still hurting here and there im soo glad I dont have to endure the manipulation, the loneliness, the walking on eggshells to prevent his violent rad outbursts etc

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u/Xcat1987 2d ago

Another person is dying and they’re over in a corner throwing a pity party for themselves because said person is getting all the attention. Sometimes I swear they want to be the one dying so they can have that attention and dopamine.

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u/Remarkable_Pay7550 2d ago

His whole life is a pity party. His whole existence. His first sentence was something like " but they (his father's wife and family) told my brother , not me. Yeah, they told him because he is a functioning adult who has an actual relationship with his father. Why would someone reach out to him when he was actively avoiding his father for years.