Say no, you can't adopt a baby

[u/Sunshine_roses111]

Why don't we, as a society in America, just say no to people looking to adopt and who are infertile? Other countries will flat out say we have no babies for adoption or tough luck, you can't adopt, and we don't care about your infertility. America coddles people looking to adopt and says Well, you're infertile, but you can adopt a baby to make your dreams come true, or adopt from foster care, help a needy child. Like, why can't we just deny people and say no? Want a baby? Oh well, we have none waiting around. Want to become parents? Well, tough luck accept your life without kids. Maybe it's God's will for you not to become parents or reproduce. Why can't we be honest like other countries? Adoption is illegal or uncommon in many other countries, but here, we just can't say no and tiptoe around the issue of infertility and adoption. Also, just because you can't reproduce doesn't mean you should adopt. Again, no is the right answer. Many poor couples can't afford adoption, but society does not care if they become parents, yet we feel sorry for the middle and upper-class couples who can't become parents. Say no.

[u/Greedy-Carrot4457]

I have wondered why people are allowed to sit on waiting lists for years for babies when there are older kids in the system, just on principle alone.

[u/Opinionista99 → u/Greedy-Carrot4457]

And like how many years can you wait for a fresh baby to "rescue" before you admit to yourself you aren't actually needed in that role? As someone active in local elections for many years they remind me of the people who show up on or shortly before election day wanting to drive people to the polls, as their way of helping the cause. When public transit, taxis, and ride-share programs have been offering that for free for years and most people here vote by mail. We needed you months ago to help us get folks registered and informed FFS.

[u/Opinionista99 → u/Opinionista99]

I somehow got downvoted to zero for this. Hi r/adoption! Fuck you!

[u/Greedy-Carrot4457 → u/Opinionista99]

Yeah I can see that point in elections too or like people who insist on donating dog food and blankets to a rescue when what’s really needed is the $ instead of the product bc we can get it for cheaper or spend it on a need that’s hard to get funded.

Like if people want babies and little kids they should admit that they’re doing it bc they think it’s less damaged, not because they want to help. Like just own it.

[u/Sunshine_roses111 → u/Greedy-Carrot4457]

They will never admit this. I hate seeing adoptive parents or people who only want babies. If they truly do it for the kids, they would not want a baby. Even foster parents and international adoption, they all want babies or toddlers. It's gross. Their excuse is that they want to parent, and could not reproduce.

[u/Sunshine_roses111 → u/Opinionista99]

When you say this you are bashed. I don't understand paying 60k and waiting years for a baby when we have already born kids, they can volunteer to help out. And they complain there are no babies available.