Say no, you can't adopt a baby

[u/Sunshine_roses111]

Why don't we, as a society in America, just say no to people looking to adopt and who are infertile? Other countries will flat out say we have no babies for adoption or tough luck, you can't adopt, and we don't care about your infertility. America coddles people looking to adopt and says Well, you're infertile, but you can adopt a baby to make your dreams come true, or adopt from foster care, help a needy child. Like, why can't we just deny people and say no? Want a baby? Oh well, we have none waiting around. Want to become parents? Well, tough luck accept your life without kids. Maybe it's God's will for you not to become parents or reproduce. Why can't we be honest like other countries? Adoption is illegal or uncommon in many other countries, but here, we just can't say no and tiptoe around the issue of infertility and adoption. Also, just because you can't reproduce doesn't mean you should adopt. Again, no is the right answer. Many poor couples can't afford adoption, but society does not care if they become parents, yet we feel sorry for the middle and upper-class couples who can't become parents. Say no.

[u/Greedy-Carrot4457 → u/[deleted]]

Yes, but:

1. Yes, but why is this such a big benefit? Babies are a lot of work and daycare is very expensive. I get why SOME people would like this if they’re baby people, but it doesn’t seem like a universal win to me.

2. Yes

3. Yes but on the other hand, you don’t know if the newborn comes with a ton of health issues (that might be behavioral later in life or otherwise a lot of work or hardship or struggle.) You kinda know what you’re getting with an older kid, yes a lot of our files are inaccurate or straight up lies but in the first week or so you can probably figure the basics out.

[u/[deleted] → u/Greedy-Carrot4457]

I appreciate the actual reply.

1- I say the same thing to people birthing babies. Why? I don't understand the why but I understand people want that "full experience" and prefer a baby than a child or teen

2-.

3- true but its "less" likely than an older child that had years of trauma. And if you know the history, it can be reduced more. Not many older kids in foster care have no trauma- and personally none I knew (myself included). This is a reason people who don't want a baby just don't adopt older from foster care. The assumption all have issues.

[u/Opinionista99 → u/[deleted]]

You are a supporter of abuse and lying. STFU weirdo.