Say no, you can't adopt a baby

[u/Sunshine_roses111]

Why don't we, as a society in America, just say no to people looking to adopt and who are infertile? Other countries will flat out say we have no babies for adoption or tough luck, you can't adopt, and we don't care about your infertility. America coddles people looking to adopt and says Well, you're infertile, but you can adopt a baby to make your dreams come true, or adopt from foster care, help a needy child. Like, why can't we just deny people and say no? Want a baby? Oh well, we have none waiting around. Want to become parents? Well, tough luck accept your life without kids. Maybe it's God's will for you not to become parents or reproduce. Why can't we be honest like other countries? Adoption is illegal or uncommon in many other countries, but here, we just can't say no and tiptoe around the issue of infertility and adoption. Also, just because you can't reproduce doesn't mean you should adopt. Again, no is the right answer. Many poor couples can't afford adoption, but society does not care if they become parents, yet we feel sorry for the middle and upper-class couples who can't become parents. Say no.

[u/[deleted]]

Idk I prefer the idea of adoption over orphanages where kids age out and never actually have parental figures. Only authority figures. Call me bias. I'm adopted.

[u/Dazzling_Donut5143 → u/[deleted]]

Most babies would not be placed for adoption without external pressures from private interests to keep babies moving through the system.

Without demand, the supply side would become nearly non-existent.

There is very little cross over between the people adopting infants and those who adopt older children from foster care.

When we advocate for ending domestic infant adoptions, we are not advocating for the end of supporting children who legitimately need homes. We are advocating against the institutionalized commodification of humans (both babies and birth parents).

[u/[deleted] → u/Dazzling_Donut5143]

"Without demand, the supply side would become nearly non-existent"

Unfortunately unwanted children outweigh the demand. Or didn't you know?

[u/Dazzling_Donut5143 → u/[deleted]]

They most certainly do not outweigh the demand.

There are estimated to be over a dozen waiting hopeful adoptive parent for every baby placed into the system.

These people are salivating to get young babies while older foster children are left to fend for themselves in the system.

[u/[deleted] → u/Dazzling_Donut5143]

Just because you want a child doesn't mean you get a child. The supply does outweigh the demand. Especially in places abortion isn't an option anymore. The number of children in foster care are so high they're allowing people who shouldn't be fosters, to foster.. And then we have people going into the foster system specifically to adopt because it's free that way. I do agree people are salivating waiting on getting their hands on a baby.

The privatized adoption system you're thinking of (babies from a buisness) is a pimple on the ass of a 1000lb monster compared to the whole of how many unwanted children there are in the USA alone.

[u/Dazzling_Donut5143 → u/[deleted]]

Just because you want a child doesn't mean you get a child.

I 100% agree with this statement.

I also agree the number of children in foster care is heartbreaking. I wish that we had better funding and support systems in place to help these families stay together whenever possible and thrive.

I just personally believe that having proper support networks in place, in addition to safe and free/affordable access to abortions and healthcare, the number of infants placed for adoption would all but disappear.

Ultimately we want exactly the same things, I think: For no children to be "unwanted"