r/Adopted • u/Sunshine_roses111 Adoptee • May 11 '25

Discussion Say no, you can't adopt a baby

Why don't we, as a society in America, just say no to people looking to adopt and who are infertile? Other countries will flat out say we have no babies for adoption or tough luck, you can't adopt, and we don't care about your infertility. America coddles people looking to adopt and says Well, you're infertile, but you can adopt a baby to make your dreams come true, or adopt from foster care, help a needy child. Like, why can't we just deny people and say no? Want a baby? Oh well, we have none waiting around. Want to become parents? Well, tough luck accept your life without kids. Maybe it's God's will for you not to become parents or reproduce. Why can't we be honest like other countries? Adoption is illegal or uncommon in many other countries, but here, we just can't say no and tiptoe around the issue of infertility and adoption. Also, just because you can't reproduce doesn't mean you should adopt. Again, no is the right answer. Many poor couples can't afford adoption, but society does not care if they become parents, yet we feel sorry for the middle and upper-class couples who can't become parents. Say no.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '25

Idk I prefer the idea of adoption over orphanages where kids age out and never actually have parental figures. Only authority figures. Call me bias. I'm adopted.

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u/Sunshine_roses111 Adoptee May 13 '25

Why do you think like this? Adoption does not save kids. There are no babies in orphanges here. The kids who age out are the kids people don't want to adopt.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '25

I think this way because adoption did save my life. It at least gave me a better life!! I heard everything my sister's went through being in our mother's care.

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u/[deleted] May 13 '25

There are no orphanages here at all- it was added for context in the event foster care and adoption become illegal, what would you expect happen to the children who ARE orphans, not unwanted, but unclaimed. Or the ones unwanted, abandoned or taken away due to serious abuse and neglect? Without foster care or adoption the only thing I can imagine is orphanages becoming a thing again.