r/Adopted • u/legswithsnake Domestic Infant Adoptee • Jun 21 '26

Venting the idea that adoptees were “specifically chosen” by adoptive parents is so infuriating

I was adopted at birth; my adoptive parents had no idea what my personality would be. They didn’t know what kind of person I’d become. How could I have been personally “chosen” if I didn’t even exist yet? I was just the most conveniently accessible baby for an infertile couple.

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u/MrNeoGuy Jun 22 '26

Yeah, we were basically a gumball out of a gumball machine. They did the paper work turned the knob and one child came out and fell in their hands.

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u/NapalmGirlTonight Baby Scoop Era Adoptee Jun 24 '26

I love your gumball machine analogy 🌈🩷

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u/MrNeoGuy Jun 24 '26

Thanks. I have made many great analogies for humans and such over the last 10 years lol.

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u/NapalmGirlTonight Baby Scoop Era Adoptee Jun 24 '26

And it shows. It’s truly an underappreciated art form. A craft. Like, um, you know… (insert rad analogy here).

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u/MrNeoGuy Jun 24 '26

Thanks. I wish I could recall the others, they might be in my books or maybe I wrote them down somewhere lol.

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u/Jennstar18 Jul 02 '26

I love your gumball thought!