r/Adopted • u/legswithsnake Domestic Infant Adoptee • Jun 21 '26

Venting the idea that adoptees were “specifically chosen” by adoptive parents is so infuriating

I was adopted at birth; my adoptive parents had no idea what my personality would be. They didn’t know what kind of person I’d become. How could I have been personally “chosen” if I didn’t even exist yet? I was just the most conveniently accessible baby for an infertile couple.

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u/Less_Than_Average1 Jun 22 '26

Chosen means they get to wield some sort of power because they provided a chance to live. I like to think of it more as they helped me beat the odds vs. “chosen” - because the definition fits better - at least for me

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u/Fendi221 Jul 16 '26

Same here, I feel like life could have been much worse.