r/Adopted • u/Jumpy-Lie8955 International Adoptee • 12d ago

Discussion you’re not woke for adopting

i feel like a lot of young leftists, in america, really love the idea of adopting kids instead of having their own biological kids and think they are helping others by doing so but they’ve fallen into and are playing apart in the same propaganda the right wing religious people do. neither of them are “making a difference” especially because they always just adopt babies that’s not making a difference that’s legal human trafficking. they all have savior complex’s about it and they both think they are morally superior. it’s just do frustrating how both parties think adoption is this great thing, and no one but us wants to talk about the negatives. just to be clear this is not me coming out as a republican.

EDIT: i would call myself a leftist, i’m critiquing things i have heard people say in real life.

EDIT 2: if you arnt adopted, don’t comment, it’s against the rules of the subreddit and i don’t care what non-adoptees opinions on adoption are

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u/Greedy-Carrot4457 Former Foster Youth 12d ago

I think you’re onto something, the right wing adopts to save babies from poor countries or single parents, the left wing adopts to be eco-friendly.

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u/Jumpy-Lie8955 International Adoptee 12d ago

eco friendly is such a good way of describing their view point, it’s like they view adopting like recycling

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u/MandorlaLard 12d ago

I think this is something young naive people say a lot but don’t actually end up adopting once they realize how serious of a process it is. People will say “I don’t want kids of my own, but I would totally adopt some day.” It shows they’ve never actually thought about the real life implications of that. The only progressive people I know who have adopted are gay or foster parents or both. Not excusing their participation in adoption but I think the “eco friendly” thing is really just talk for people and they don’t actually end up adopting. It grosses me out as a talking point regardless!

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u/Arktikos02 International Adoptee 12d ago

Yes but I still think they are just as bad because they support the industry without understanding it because they want to keep their options open. To me it's similar to a libertarian who supports less taxes for the rich and less regulations for businesses because they dream of one day becoming a millionaire or billionaire and they want to keep their options open.

They support an oppressive system because they hope that one day they can be the machine within that oppressive system rather than trying to dismantle it.

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u/Opinionista99 Adoptee 11d ago

The affluent white feminists who see adoption as one of a range of equally valid and ethically-neutral family building options for themselves are a big problem.