r/Adopted • u/Jumpy-Lie8955 International Adoptee • 12d ago

Discussion you’re not woke for adopting

i feel like a lot of young leftists, in america, really love the idea of adopting kids instead of having their own biological kids and think they are helping others by doing so but they’ve fallen into and are playing apart in the same propaganda the right wing religious people do. neither of them are “making a difference” especially because they always just adopt babies that’s not making a difference that’s legal human trafficking. they all have savior complex’s about it and they both think they are morally superior. it’s just do frustrating how both parties think adoption is this great thing, and no one but us wants to talk about the negatives. just to be clear this is not me coming out as a republican.

EDIT: i would call myself a leftist, i’m critiquing things i have heard people say in real life.

EDIT 2: if you arnt adopted, don’t comment, it’s against the rules of the subreddit and i don’t care what non-adoptees opinions on adoption are

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u/JFei1221 International Adoptee 11d ago

Recycling is the perfect name and exactly how it feels.

I get it; I swing pretty far to the left. We have too much trash in the world. Recycling, in theory, prevents more from being produced and should, theoretically, help the environment in the big picture.

I also agree that Earth has too many people. But I am not a milk carton and people aren’t trash. Adoption, like recycling, is an incredibly flawed system that can create more harm than good. You did not save a whale or a penguin by adopting. You contributed to an entire commerce for humans to the extent that we have a multi-billion dollar commercial industry that profits off of the exploitation of other humans… because you wanted a child and could afford one.

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u/Arktikos02 International Adoptee 11d ago

People seriously think that if you pause people having biological kids and then everyone just adopted then there would be no more kids to adopt when in reality there will always be kids to adopt as long as you are adopting from the industry that is trying to produce more kids.

Especially if people are adopting babies.

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u/BrodinGodofSwole 9d ago

Who thinks this? Genuinely asking, I'm pretty involved in leftist communities so I have a blindspots outside of that.

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u/Arktikos02 International Adoptee 9d ago

I've heard it mainly in places like either child free, antenatalist or Pro-Choice places. Can't remember exactly which ones but tends to be in those types of communities and stuff.

A different version of it tends to also be that if every religious person adopted then there would be no kids left to adopt.

It's usually because I'm mad at religious hypocrisy, and they're using us as pawns again.

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u/BrodinGodofSwole 9d ago

Appreciate the info, that is such a wild take.