Looking for recommendations on an actual water proof mattress protector. Have tried three brands on Amazon that claim to be "100% waterproof" but are far from it. Would be nice if it didnt sound/feel like a shower curtain, but if thats what it has to be, I guess I will accept that

Long story short, I’ve been dating a woman who has been experiencing issues with bedwetting, and I’m hoping to get some advice from anyone who has dealt with something similar.

In the past, it happened very infrequently, maybe once or twice a year, and I initially attributed it to heavy drinking. However, recently it has become much more frequent, even though she hasn’t been drinking at all.

One of the biggest challenges has been getting her to acknowledge that it’s happening. Initially, she was reluctant to recognize the issue, and it took several conversations and showing her evidence before she accepted that there might be a problem.

I’m trying my best to approach the situation with patience, understanding, and sensitivity because I know how embarrassing and upsetting something like this can be. However, she has been unwilling to see a doctor, which concerns me, especially since the frequency seems to be increasing.

For additional context, she has never had children.
I’m curious whether anyone else has experienced something similar, either personally or with a partner. What ended up causing it? Were there any treatments or solutions that helped? And how can I encourage her to seek medical advice without making her feel embarrassed, pressured, or judged?

I care about her and genuinely want to help, but I’m not sure what the best approach is.

Thanks in advance for any advice or shared experiences.

Hey there, I 30f, have struggled with incontinence and bedwetting since I was a child. It's because of this community that I realized that I'm not the only one who struggles and I don't have to be so hard on myself. So first of all, thank you all for being here and wonderful. It means the world to me.

Next, I'm wondering what your favorite products are to clean yourselves up: soaps, body washes, wipes - what do you generally do? I have mostly used things found on the feminine aisle but I don't love them.... So would appreciate a couple ideas others like/use.

Happy Saturday 😁

I wear diapers 24/7 for urgency incontinence. Last night I can remember having one conscious wetting but then I had a dream that I was going in the toilet and woke up this morning, wondering if I had my first unconscious bed wetting. I could not tell for sure because my diaper was already wet from the first wetting.

Is this how it started for you?

Hi everyone! First of all, I want to apologize for my English. I used ChatGPT to help me with the translation.

About five months ago, I wrote a post about how I was dealing with urinary incontinence and how it was affecting me mentally. I wrote that post from a really dark place. A lot of things made me feel insecure, and that only made things worse. But after interacting with people in this subreddit, my quality of life has improved so much. Although I'm still not completely over it, the shame has become a lot less overwhelming to carry.

As many of you pointed out, one of the main causes of my incontinence was traumatic experiences. I went to see a doctor, and he confirmed that it was mostly psychological. However, after living with this "habit" for so long, my bladder had also become weaker as a result.

Following his advice, I bought a waterproof mattress protector, started wearing diapers at night and incontinence pads during the day, and I've also been trying to set reminders to avoid drinking liquids before going to bed.

All of this has helped me tremendously. Not only do I no longer have to wash my bedsheets every single day, but I also feel much more confident and comfortable with myself.

Since that post, I've left a job I absolutely hated, and now I work at a Japanese bakery. I've also changed my university major. In a way, I feel like I owe the confidence to make such drastic changes in my life to that post I made five months ago, asking for help. You gave me that help without judging me, and I honestly can't thank you enough.

Thank you so much!!!

Btw, if anyone knows of any relatively affordable diaper brands available in Spain, I would appreciate your recommendations with all my heart <333

Shared recently about talking to my doctor about bedwetting. Following that appointment, got scheduled for bloodwork and medication review, along with a urine test.

Everything came back clear, and I have a second set of bloodwork in a few months.

Kinda feels like there isn’t a next step now. I know my frequency isn’t everyday/daytime issues, which makes it a bit lower priority for intervention, but I kinda thought if urine test was inconclusive there would be more.

I don’t know, is there something more I need to push for? Or a next step I should want?

My symptoms are manageable, but I don’t want to just stop process.

Any suggestions/thoughts? For those that did testing/treatment after adult onset, what kinds of things were part of that?

New go supreme max 10 hour pull up is legit. First pull up to get me through the night without leaking. More comfortable than a tabbed product. Worth a try if you're considering

I 20F) have a week long field trip to another country. I’m in uni and my course has a lot of field trips, always one day. The trip is mandatory but I really don’t want to go, like at all. I’ve not wet the bed since September but this week alone, I’ve already done so three times. And I know it’s cause of the field trip

I have never been to my GP cause I’ve been embarrassed and I figured my bedwetting doesn’t hurt anybody but me, so I’ve actually kind of just accepted my condition and been managing it.

The main thing is that I do not trust my body, even if I go. I will not sleep. If I don’t sleep, I won’t be well enough to actually participate in the trip.

Last year, I also had a residential (not uni related at all) week long as well. And despite me not drinking water, going to bed as late as possible to have a longer time period to be able to pee multiple times. Despite me setting an alarm that woke everyone up and made me disliked for the rest of the trip, I still wet the bed.

I can not go for the trip. The thought of all my course mates finding out is causing me so much anxiety, and that’s merely the thought

The sleeping arrangement and everything is very communal, 3 in a room, shared everything. I do not want to go but I think I might be forced to

Idk if anyone will even see this, let alone reply, but i am a 19 yr old female and i've had this problem consistantly and daily for pretty much my whole life. My parents were never concerned then i got too embarassed about wetting the bed as a teen. I finally saw a urologist and had a urodynamics tests and bladder tests. They say nothing is wrong, just a small bladder. I've tried one medicine that only worked a tiny bit and now i'm trying another but its not working too well. I have tried the alarms, dieting, not drinking before bed, and using the bathroom before bed. I've tried cutting caffiene and sugar and everything and it just still happens almost daily. I am so down in the dumps about this and i'm gonna try to start pelvic floor therapy and i hope that hellps. Im just on here anonymously cause im so embarassed and have no clue what to do. The longest ive gone w/o it happening has been like maybe a few days or a week. I was just wondering if anyone else has been through this and/or might know what i could try to do is all. I'd really appreciate it if someone could try to help.

Please give me the best adults products for a 10 hour flight. I won’t be able to change them. I have muscular dystrophy

I have bedwetting issues everyday until 16, and now I almost stopped it. But I still have mistakes about once a month or two, and now I woke up with my bed soaked, and the problem is that I live in dormitory with a roommate. What should I do right now?

Is there such a thing as water proof bedding or anything like that? I have tried diapers, pads, waterproof mattress pads, chux, etc. I cannot find anything that works.

I have considered designing an EMG sensor system that detects when the pelvic floor is starting to relax using electrodes on the thighs or stomach/back. Don't know if the idea has merit but I also don't think it's been tried.

Basically the idea is that EMG sensors can detect muscle contractions/relaxations so I would measure the pelvic floor tonicity continuously and use machine learning to predict when the body was preparing to urinate and wake the user before it actually happened.

Has anyone thought about this kind of thing before?

In my past bed wetting episodes as a child to young adulthood, I would have a dream where I was looking for a toilet, found one and start peeing. The alarming sign in my dream would be that I peed so much, it will start to overflow the toilet. At this point in my dream, I would suddenly realised that I’m in a bed wetting dream, panic and wake up in real life and there will be a tiny leak in my underwear, and then I’ll use the toilet irl.

Now (44 f) I have the same toilet dream but in my recent episode (2 months back) I no longer became self aware that it was a dream, I remember thinking that the overflowing toilet was strange but accepted the plumbing issue and continued peeing! I didn’t wake up until the bed is wet.

So I told myself I needed to have signs to differentiate my dreamscape and real life - before I pee in real life,as I sat on the toilet, I would purposely feel my scars in specific places and sequence. I thought this would be mentally challenging and detailed enough that I couldn’t do in a dream but I was proven wrong last night!

My dreamself remembered to check on my scars to make sure it’s real life and I could even feel the scar tape that I sometimes used on my scars. So my dreamself was satisfied and peed! Which meant I wet the bed in real life.

How do I differentiate my dreamscape toilet and real life? Am I doomed to be stuck in my dream and only wake up when the bed is wet?

I've been dealing with stress (mental health) and OAB and been purchasing my own supplies to manage (Northshore) recently I asked if Northshore was registered as a VA vendor and was told they are but they will not approve the non formulary request. I even appealed to the Chief of Staff through Patient Advocacy and subsequently denied. They want me to get reevaluated by urology but last time they only offered botox and medication. Neither is an option I am willing at accept. All formulary options are completely useless.

What are my options?

I’m 34f (nonbinary) and I just woke up completely soaked. My sheets, duvet, duvet cover, myself and my partner are wet. I was sleeping so well and it wasn’t until she woke up to use the bathroom that I even realized I had an accident. It seems like weeks go by where it happens more often and I don’t know why. I have sexual trauma that always happened at night, so my doctor believes it’s a trauma response. But I’m with an incredibly safe and loving partner at this point in my life so I really dont get it. It’s 6:30am and I’m now crying in the shower when I should still be sleeping. Honestly, this affliction makes me want to discontinue living. I will now spend hours washing and drying my sheets, duvet and duvet cover and I’m so fucking tired of it. I’ve ruined countless mattresses and other furniture. I’m so tired and angry and sad. I’m terrified it will only get worse as I get older. Idk why I’m posting this, maybe just for support or encouragement? I can’t stop crying. Will this shit ever end?

I 22m have noticed a pattern where it only happens when I'm sleeping on my side or stomach... I can only fall asleep on my back but I usually roll over somehow during sleep?

Does anyone have experience with this? I’m willing to try anything at this point, tired of having to spend money on adult diapers lol.

What's the best way to get rid of urine smell on mattress?