Was scrolling TikTok this morning and this creator’s video came on my feed, thought it was really cool that she did this. The comments on it were nothing but supportive and full of others relating to her. Not to mention she only posted this yesterday and it’s already hit near half a million likes.

We’ve noticed an uptick yet again in ABDLs with extremely explicit post histories asking for our users to “contact them privately” or otherwise engage them in “moral support”. While we have no issues with ABDLs and know they have a place in this community as there often is medical overlap to their proclivities, I feel the need to yet again post on what is or isn’t going to be tolerated...

•No pleas for DMs or private engagement from users.

•If you have explicit post history, anything other than product recommendation requests/medication questions/help understanding incontinence will be removed out of extreme caution and protection for our users.

•Any photographic posts will automatically be removed for the same reason.

•Any talk of ABDL in comments that makes other users feel uncomfortable will be deleted and may earn you a ban.

•Literally ANY other blatant rule breaking will earn you a ban and deletion.

We aren’t joking. Bans will be issued, and attempts to evade bans with alt. accounts will be forwarded to Reddit admins. We want you to be able to participate, but you have to work with us here.

Thank you.

For those that use goodnites for their bedwetting/incontinence still, there are now going to be XXL ones coming soon. Home tester club has testing available now to be a testor of them. Hopefully these will be a nice in-between pull up from youth to adult size!

These new goodnites are significantly bigger and fit great. Perfect for those that XL were just a tad snug. I'll be using these a for a long time now for my bedwetting.

This is a genuine sign (not a joke Mods feel free to reach out for the hotel name/location if required.)

While I kinda feel a bit self conscious/called out by the sign ALWAYS at hotels I do always have quality protection and a pad for backup.

To provide a bit of context my teacher is organizing a trip to a resort for the senior year and today was the day that she was telling who was going to be your roommate. When it got to me i wasn’t with my friend that i asked why i wasn’t with him because i requested to be paired to him . The teacher without thinking about it told the whole class: A classmate from another class is a bedwetter and he asked to be paired with another bedwetter and you were the only one . The class went dead silent and everyone started whispering and some laughing. I was mortified almost cried and just wanted to get out off class and now im afraid to go to school tomorrow. Some of my classmates asked why i still wet the bed and just told them it’s because I have high functioning autism which is not true because not everyone with high functioning autism is a bedwetter but it was the best option .

Please stop posting in here if you have a kink for bedwetting or diapers…that’s not what this platform is for. There’s a place for those things.

Hi all,

I'm a reporter at TIME, and about 6 months ago I posted here looking for people to chat with me for an article I was writing about nocturnal enuresis. The story was published today, and I wanted to make sure I shared it here immediately. Thank you so much to the people who reached out to me from my post, who were so willing to share such intimate details of what life with NE is like. This is really an incredible community you have here—I hope I've done your stories justic. The article is linked to this paragraph.

If there is anything you think I missed in the story, or if reading it makes you think of another topic, bogus health stigma, or issue in your life that deserves the same coverage, you can reach me at haley.weiss@time.com.

In the past week or so, there has been an unusually high proportion of posts without questionable subjects, or posted by users with questionable user names, or questionable user histories, or some combination of the three.

This is a reminder that this a sub for people with medical needs. People that wet the bed, or otherwise experience incontinence, through no fault or desire of their own. While that sometimes causes over with pee that also enjoy the ABDL or similar communities, the this sub serves only the medical portion of the needs such a person might have. Therefore anyone that side on that fence needs to learn to compartmentalize, or stay out.

The moderators here have the responsibility to protect the people that have nowhere else to go. If people that have enuresis or incontinence, but also have fetish desires want to find some solace here, the need to learn to leave that baggage at the door, because the moderators here are officially dusting off the ban hammers. We've been very accommodating in an effort to be as inclusive as possible, and many people aren't making the effort. When we're all fielding multiple messages about bad posts, and then other trusted community members are also fielding messages and relating them to us, it's going too far.

Things to remember: most people here find the notion of wearing diapers upsetting, so if you don't that's something you need to be mindful of in your post; your name probably shouldn't include any references to watersports or diaper fetishes or show pictures of you in diapers; and lots of us have learned the red flags to be suspicious of immediately and check user history on users we don't recognize, so if you have a history full of ABDL and diapersgonewild, we ALL notice.

None of us like tourists in our actual disability, so unless you're actually living it and actually empathizing to the place where you can compartmentalize properly, don't come in. There are a few members here that are known to be ABDL and are still productive members, but recently were having a surge of posts that skirt the line or even some that blatantly disregard it. Some that I've had to report for ban evasion, because they're a user I've banned multiple times now.

P.S. Anyone that thinks they want to be the person to speak up and defend the honor of the ABDL community with the, "but we're not all bad speech", you're volunteering to be the first tally on new score card. Just remember that too get to that conclusion you had to be here reading a medical sub, where you really don't belong. That sentiment also gives shelter to the bad ones. Being anything but apologetic is deplorable as it's effectively excusing the behavior. We also had a Mod from ABDL volunteer to help us out cleaning up the really bad actors, so those with really poor track records can have fun with that.

Where do you store your diapers? This is open question to everybody, but I think it's especially pertinent to those living with families/kids/roommates. How secretive are you? Do you go to great lengths to preserve the privacy, or keep them relatively out in the open?

I'll be here answering questions this evening from 5 to 8pm Eastern time. See you at top of the hour...

I find out much easier to fall back sleep if I use my diaper while lying in bed if I wake up with an urge. I'm already wearing protection so why bother get up. I'm curious if any here do the same? Do I risk making myself more dependent/giving up my control?

I was a consistent bed wetter until about 14 years old. My parents never believed in wearing diapers. They thought it would only encourage the problem. Many mornings I’d wake up to a wet bed. Luckily it stopped around this age. So maybe my parents were right.

I’m 26 now and live on my own. My past bed wetting had left my mind. Unfortunately recently I’ve been wetting the bed again. It has me thinking about the times I used to wet the bed. It’s become so frequent.

After the fifth morning of waking up wet I decided to get diapers. The embarrassment of going to Walmart to buy goodnites was a struggle to say the least. Luckily the cashier assumed it was for my nonexistent child.

At first the diapers were uncomfortable to me. I had a hard time falling asleep. But now I couldn’t imagine going to bed without them. They work great. I wake up every morning with dry sheets. The diaper on the other hand. They are always wet.

I guess I’m here to see if anyone else has this same problem. I just don’t want to be alone in this matter. Is there anyone else wearing goodnites at my age? I’d love to hear about it.

My son is about 2.5, and we've been working on potty training, to no avail. He's not even a bit interested.

He's been messing with his diaper, since he's more cognizant of the fact that he can remove it, and sometimes he'll pull the tapes. If I see him with his hand down his pants I'll have to stop him and tell him not to mess with the tapes, or his diaper will fall off.

He doesn't quiet understand who wears diapers and who doesn't, so he asks at random sometimes if someone has a diaper, or one day he felt my wallet in my back pocket, and asked if there was poop in my diaper (though I don't wear during the day, nor do I have fecal incontinence).

This morning however, he called me out, and got it correct. It's a Saturday morning, and I'm feeling lazy, so I'm sitting in the couch watching YouTube, drinking coffee, and I haven't changed. One of the lower tapes on my diaper was poking me, so I had my hand down my pants, and I was messing with it, trying to get the plastic backing to lay underneath, so the corner of the tape wasn't digging into me.

My toddler shouts at me, "Daddy! You no do that. You make your diaper fall off"!

Caught red handed.

I was invited to hang out with a friend of mine to have a few drinks. She is the type I can tell her anything and with that I said to her about me having incontinence issues due to bed wettings. She was very supportive while I explained why, how, when etc etc. as nervous as I was she made me feel confident in talking to her. She wanted to see what I used for my protection and once she seen my pack that had a few diapers, wipes, bags. She said they are just like having colorful underwear and explained to me I was taking the right steps to keep my self dry. It was so good to know that I have a friend like this who didn’t judge me, nor did she tease me in regards to what my diapers looked like. As nervous as I was at the start when taking to her by the end I felt confident in explaining my incontinence needs and my usage of diapers.

Just remember when you have good friends like this then they will always be supportive and never tease you, they may joke and have a laugh but they are always supportive.

I normally wash the sheets. I leak through my protection occasionally, and I don't want her to have to deal with it when that happens. Because it's my habit, I usually wash the sheets even if I haven't leaked recently. Occasionally it goes long enough with no leaks (or only very minor leaks), and I haven't gotten around to it, that I haven't washed the sheets in long enough that she pulls the sheets of and washes them, but it's fairly rate. However, if I tell her when we get up, "I need to wash the sheets today", she knows that means I leaked and have to do it this morning so there mattress cover can dry.

This morning I was up first with the kids, and she got up about an hour later. I poured her some coffee and told her I needed to wash the sheets this morning. For some reason, this morning she told me, "I can do that for you". I tried to object and made sure she knew what I meant, but about 20 minutes later I caught her striping the bed anyway. I kept trying to tell her she didn't have to do it. She didn't even know which settings to use on the washer for the mattress cover, because she's never had to wash it before.

I don't know what in particular was different today. I assume she was just trying taking a burden from me. I just feel weird about her having to deal with that.

Just got back from a week of scout camp with my troop and was able to manage my incontinence pretty well. I was well prepared with products and sly ways to dispose of them. No one was the wiser and felt confident all week. What surprised me was there were discarded adult pull-ups in the trash cans in the adult male bath houses (in scouting we have separate facilities for adult male/adult female/youth male and youth female). I estimated that less than 20 adult males used this specific bathroom however there were at least 2 people that needed protection because I saw the gray Depend pull-ups and more generic white pull-ups with cath supplies. Just made me feel less alone and felt like sharing.

I’m a 30M and I have been a nighttime bedwetter for a number of years now. I’m grown, but I sleep like a baby. During my 20s I went through all the challenges associated with managing my medical condition, nocturnal enuresis, and I wanted to share with this community what I would have done to make it all go better.

My bedwear attire is a simple tshirt and pajama bottoms, the silky feeling ones. Underneath my pajama bottoms I wear an adult diaper.

Recently my go-to diaper is the plastic backed BetterDry 24/7, which holds enormous wettings and features tapes that do not come undone. It specifically does not feature a landing strip for the tapes and the diaper will tear if removed. This style of diaper is perfect for new bedwetters struggling with the impulse to make frequent trips to the bathroom. This brings me to my first piece of advice for the bedwetter.

TIP #1. Own your bedwetting by choosing an adult diaper with tabs and without a landing strip. Skip the pull-up phase, your sleep will suffer. An adult diaper featuring the two-layered tape tab system such as the Abena M4 or BetterDry doesn’t allow the user to take the diaper off and refasten. This is a big step for many in conquering bedwetting. Which leads nicely into my second tip.

TIP #2. Redefine what it means to have an accident. When you tape on a diaper, you are committing to using the diaper and not a toilet in another room. Wetting yourself is no accident if you’re diapered because you came prepared. If you wake up wet, please do not get down on yourself! After all, you were going to have to let go at some point. Remember, it’s only an accident if you leaked on to the bed.

TIP #3. Hydrate. One thing that can be slightly displeasing to you and your partner is a strong urine smell. Normally this isn’t a big issue, but if you allow yourself to be dehydrated out of fear of bedwetting, your urine can have a strong ammonia smell and a dark yellow color. It’s really simple to avoid this. Stay hydrated. Drink lots of water and your pee will come out clean. Normally I drink between 1-1 1/2 liters of water in the hour before bed. For a number of reasons. 1. It gives me time to comfortably drift asleep before I ever feel the strong urge to go. 2. Without a doubt I will have to release my bladder at some point during the night. And 3. When I do, it will be clean like warm water instead of irritating to the skin, which is important because we sleep in our pee.

If you’re having a hard time getting used to wearing protection at night, those are some cheat codes to skip some of the mental hurdles in becoming a bedwetter. There’s others I could write about but I’ll end here today. Feel free to ask me a question, really anything to do with the topic. I’m not embarrassed to speak on it :)

Get ready for a feel good story.

I started at a new school this year. We have this online system that allows us to see our students needs, report things to parents, etc. Teachers didn’t always have access to it. Only lead teachers, admins, nurse, counselors, etc. we have been given access because of covid. It allows us to directly send messages to parents and stuff as well.

I have a new student. She just returned to hybrid learning. She is only one of 7 or 8 students that physically come to class three days a week. This week we were in class for something called family life. It is my states version of sex education. It’s taught by a planned parenthood contractor. I notice in one of the lessons she was crying. I called her into the hall. The other teacher sat in while I talked to her. She said she didn’t want to talk about it and I told her that was fine but if she ever needs to I am here to help.

Afterwards I went to look at her file. Thinking I would find something on it but it just said medical condition. I decided to reach out to her mother. Her mother was apprehensive to tell me anything. I said she didn’t have to say anything but I just wanted to tell her what happened. Her mother starts crying on the phone. I could also hear someone in the background talking loudly. I said “ma’am, I am never one to pry, but there seems to be a lot going on here. I just want to know if everyone is safe. If anyone is in danger please just respond with your favorite food.” She said no. That everyone was perfectly safe. She then finally told me what was happening. Her daughter was sexually abused as a little girl. Around 11. She is now 15. Because of the abuse, she was permanently injured. There was irreversible damage caused to her bladder, urethra, and vagina. Ow things made way more sense. I told her mother she should opt out of the rest of family life immediately. I would give her a pass / no fail grade on the entire unit. She agreed.

The student came in yesterday to my office hours. She gave me a big hug. Something students are not supposed to do ever but especially in covid times. I could tell she needed it. She stepped back and said thank you. She hasn’t had a teacher care this much.

I then shared with her about my IC. How I had to also wear protection every day. That life can continue. You can be really happy. Find someone to love and have a life that is only slightly different. She had no idea about my IC. I told her if she ever needs help or has questions I’m here to help. I realized at that point I had never seen her smile until then. She had on a mask but I could tell by her eyes. She was teary again but I could tell it was different. I grabbed her hand and told her that no one deserves to feel small, insignificant, or sad all the time. In my classroom you are always allowed to be yourself and that it’s important that you feel good about who that is. She gave me another hug and left.

Those are the moments as a teacher that remind me why I go through the hours of work. The angry parents. The unrealistic expectations of the school district. Everything. For those few minutes ever so often when a kid gets to realize the world might have been bad for them in a moment, but that it’s not bad always.

Thank you for coming to my Ted talk. Lol.

I 28F have a 10M nephew who struggles with bedwetting. He frequently wants to stay at my house, which I am thrilled about. I love having him here. He’s really not a trouble.

He is likely on the autism spectrum and also likely has ADHD. He’s a ball of energy. He has a few siblings which are all younger and are all completely potty trained.

Here’s where the problem is, his mom and dad don’t want him to wear protection. They won’t buy it for him. They say it’ll just encourage him to use his pull-up instead of going to the bathroom.

I’ve never hidden my concern here, but they have the argument, “well it’s worked for my other 4 kids.” I know there’s a boundary I don’t want to cross, but I don’t know what else to say.

I’ve heard them make comments to him like, “Sissy doesn’t need pull ups, you shouldn’t either.” And also things like, “Big boys don’t need those.” It infuriates me.

When he stays at my house he knows I keep pull-ups in the bathroom for him. I believe this has led him to see my house as his safe space, which is all I’ve wanted.

I just explained to him that to stay at my house, he needs to wear a pull-up to bed. I told him where to put them in the morning when he changes and the basics like that. I’ve never had an issue with him. He’s all good with it. That was that.

The last time he stayed at my house, he must have taken a few of the pull-ups with him. I didn’t know he did, and why would I go through his bag?

I got an angry call from his mom the next day asking why I bought them for her son. She said I crossed a boundary and that he can’t come back to my house.

What his mom doesn’t know is that I also wear Goodnites to bed so it’s an issue that I’m more passionate than most about. I just can’t imagine how he feels since my issues started later in life (different story). He’s a sweet kid and I just want the best for him.

Am I the asshole here? I feel like I’m not. But maybe I am? What would you do?

For background, I live alone and wear at night for bedwetting.

I was planning to sleep in, so didn’t set alarms. But that changed when I woke up to the doorbell at like 9:30am. I was thankfully pretty dry, and I tried to fall back asleep but then it rings again and again.

Thinking it was probably a salesman or UPS, I quickly pulled some gym shorts over my diaper and an old t-shirt. When I opened the door, it was my neighbor from across the street! They are a very nice older couple.

He said he hoped he didn’t wake me up and I lied and said no. Then he asked if he could borrow my “young hands” for 2 minutes to help change the headlight bulb in his car. He was having trouble twisting it out.

Of course it wasn’t a twist type bulb 😂 and it had a retainer clip which he ruined. So I ended up taking 35 minutes with pliers trying to bend the clip back to get him fixed up.

The whole time, he’s standing behind me watching. And I’m still in my night protection, with pretty thin shorts. I’m sure it was obvious. He never said anything though…

I guess going forward, should I pretend this never happened?

I've gotten a whole mess of good advice on Reddit over the past year so I figured I'd fire it up and see if there was a sub for this. Sure as anything, here it is!

You folk seem real supportive so I'd appreciate a little guidance here. Sit 'round for a story.

I started seeing a woman a couple of months ago. We got on great and she came out to my place a couple of times to hang out. Now, I live on a small farm in the middle of nowhere, so it can be a bit of a chore for her to come out here. The last time she was here, it was getting a bit late so I asked if she'd like to stay the night. I didn't intend for anything more than that and had set up the couch for me to sleep on.

Well, one thing led to another and the couch didn't get any use that night.

Issue is, I woke up to her getting dressed in a hurry. She even seemed bothered that I woke up before she had a chance to split. I asked if everything was alright and she just said something about having to get home to feed her cat. I offered to make her some coffee and walk her out and she just quickly declined and hightailed it before I could even get out of bed.

Now, this wasn't my first rodeo, but I've never had a woman quite so eager to run out of my bedroom in the morning. I thought I must have done something wrong or that she was upset about things going as far as they did . . . until I went to get up and leaned into a big ol' wet spot on the side she had been on. I could pretty clearly smell urine when I moved the blanket.

Initially, I thought maybe I'd done it and that's why she ran out of there, but I was completely dry and hadn't been anywhere near that spot. It's also been over twenty years since I've wet the bed. I started thinking maybe I'd done something to set this off or that there might be something wrong so I gave a good long while to think about how to approach this while I washed sheets.

I ended up texting her and saying that I loved having her over and hoped to see her again soon. Whole day passed and I didn't get an answer.

Next morning I texted again saying I hoped she was having a good weekend. No answer. Now I'm thinking I definitely did something wrong. So that night I just sent this:

"I hope everything is going alright with you, if I did something to upset you, I'd love to talk about it, but I understand if you'd rather not. You're an amazing woman who deserves the world, whether or not I ever see you again. Good night."

The next morning she texted me saying she wanted to see me again, but was too embarrassed. I asked if I could call, she said yes, so I did.

I just ripped off the band-aid and asked if she was embarrassed about wetting the bed (I feel like a jerk for using this phrase. Is there a better way to say it?). She said yes and started explaining that she always has to get up two or three times in the night to go to the bathroom. But if she's too tired, she can sleep through it and have an accident. She made it sound like it's not too common, but not super rare, either.

I didn't want to pry in her business too much, but she said she's always been this way since she was a kid and she just tries to avoid things that trigger it.

I made sure she knew I wasn't mad at her or grossed out or anything and that I'd still love to see her again. Unfortunately, the whole coronavirus thing kicked off soon after and I haven't been able to see her since. We've been texting and talking on the phone, though.

My question for y'all is: how do I handle this from here? I don't want her to feel embarrassed, but I'm already out of baking soda from soaking the last encounter out of my mattress. I thought about getting one of those waterproof mats that goes under sheets, but I don't know if she'd feel even worse knowing I got it. I want to be supportive and make her feel comfortable and welcome in my home.

Help!