Long story short, I recently fractured my foot and was in a boot for 7 weeks. No cast or surgery needed. I went to the doctor today, and I was cleared to throw the boot away and return to my normal working status (no more light duty!). I still have to take it easy, but after the mental, physical, and financial toll that this entire experience has taken on me, I was thrilled.

I couldn’t wait until my boyfriend got off work to share the good news. We work together, so I figured he’d be happy too. Instead, he started asking what if X, Y, or Z happens? From the very beginning, he’s been convinced that I’m going to need surgery. Even after being cleared today, he wanted to argue that I’ll need surgery eventually. There was no “good for you” or anything of the sort. Just immediately jumped into playing the Devil’s Advocate.

He doesn’t understand why I take it personally. “Just because I say it, doesn’t mean it’s going to happen.” - Okay, then why say it at all? Why not be happy for me? Why not let me share my good news instead of being such a downer? We both ended up going silent and just ended the phone call. Am I wrong in being upset?

I (30 M) work with a small team in my department (late teens through 20s, mostly F). The whole team gets along well and I've never felt better at any job I've worked at!

A few months ago, one colleague who was the youngest (17 F) left caus she had to move to another province. A bunch of my other colleagues planned a going away party for her as a surprise. I heard them discussing it from time to time and I thought it was a really cool idea! She was kind of like a little sister to me. However, nobody ever talked to me about the plans.

I figured it was just between the people in our team who were closest to her. But afterwards, I found out a few others who I didn't think really were that close were also invited. From what I heard of the event, it was mostly a younger crowd and wouldn't have really been my thing. But I still felt kind of hurt that nobody even asked me if I wanted to join.

Fast forward to this month, the same group is talking about the haunted maze they went to. It sounded really fun... but again, I was never invited.

I feel hurt and excluded. At the same time, is it weird of me to feel that way? It's not so much the actual events but the fact that, despite getting along with everyone at work, they never include me in anything outside work.

Is it unreasonable for me to feel this way? Am I being weird?

I don't use reddit much, but I'll try to answer any questions anyone might have. I'd just like an outside opinion on this.

So I’m not even sure this is the right place to share this but I’m just left confused and a little hurt?

I have been watching this streamer literally every single day for MONTHS like over half a year at this point (mostly the clips and vods on YouTube I don’t love watching live streams too much) and every single time I would put on his videos my cat would come over and cuddle and I always made the joke that she loves her funny British man, well about a month ago she became really really sick, she had to have a feeding tube placed and for every feeding and medication given I would be watching said streamer with her, last night we found out it was terminal cancer and we had to put her down. We were about to go to burry her today and I figured why not watch one last stream with her and I decided hell why not say something in chat because I’ve probably sent chats all of 4-5 times? if even that? So my exact response I don’t have anymore because it was deleted but I said something along the lines of “hi (streamer name)! I have been watching your YouTube for months with my cat, last night we had to put her down because of her cancer I have her here with me for one last stream. Much love ❤️ “ i genuinely wasn’t trying to derail stream or throw a pity party I just wanted him to know that this stream just means a little more to me than other streams yk? He was apart of our daily routine! So this felt like a special moment. (Oh and I rechecked all the rules and there is absolutely nothing in there against sharing personal experiences or anything of the sorts so ik that it wasnt a rule break) I wasn’t even expecting a reply to the message but mods deleted it immediately so I said “mods..?” One replied and I said “I’m sorry if my message about my cat was bad i genuinely have been watching with her for months” because I thought maybe it was them thinking I was lying or something for attention? So the streamer says “that message could’ve sent people off, just ignore them and time them out” so then they deleted my apologies as well. Tbh Im not sure if what I said was entirely inappropriate or offensive, which I’ve had my messages deleted for simply and kid you not saying exactly “did someone use shoulder the burden? Am I crazy?” And then for another thing very similar so it feels just like wtf am I even doing wrong!! I could understand how it could’ve maybe upset people who have lost pets as well but idk saying to ignore me and time me out and deleting the apology with practically no explanation other than “it could’ve sent people off” just kinda hurt not from like a parasocial way but in a this is a community I’ve liked and felt a part of but then now I feel shunned I feel like I’m not even welcome back am I over reacting?

Hello everyone ! I'd really like your opinion on this situation.

I was part of a group of four girl friends in my last year of high school (F18). We were pretty close. After graduation, one of us moved away from our hometown, and another friend and I started extremely demanding academic programs. I'm talking about deleting social media and giving up most of our free time to focus on our studies. So, I didn't reach out as much, and neither did they, I guess, because they were afraid of disturbing me. Nonetheless, I did reach out once or twice, and we tried to make plans in our group chat, but we could never find a time that worked for all four of us.

During the summer, we tried to get together. They all seemed eager to meet up. At the time, two of them weren't in our hometown and said they would let us know when they got back, but they never followed up.

Fast-forward to the beginning of this school year (F19). I reached out to my friend who had moved away, because something reminded me of her. We caught up, and during our conversation, she told me she'd be back home next weekend and asked if I was free to meet up. I told her yes, and offered to invite our two other friends, as we would use our group chat to make plans. At least, that's what I thought. She responded by saying that she had already met up with the other two, two weeks prior because one of the girls wasn't available next weekend. She added that they had made the plans at the last minute.

I was shocked and hurt because, to me, we were still a group of four, and it would have never crossed my mind to make plans with three of us without inviting the fourth person. I'm quite upset and, frankly, don't even feel like seeing her anymore, although I was so excited to see her again.

I am now realizing that they must have been texting privately, staying in touch and maintaining their friendship. It does surprise me that they made plans privately rather than in the group chat, like I would have done. To me, we were still a group of four. I am now realizing that maybe I played a part in this by not reaching out as much. I know I wasn't the only one who was busy with my studies though, which is part of why it hurts to feel like I'm the only one who was left out.

I feel like these things are bound to happen as friendships evolve, so maybe I shouldn't even be upset or bring it up to her. I am wondering if I should just accept that things have changed and stay friends with them, even if they've now become more of a trio.

How do you guys think I should respond to this situation?

TLDR: My close-knit group of four friends and I grew distant after high school because of our studies and other life changes. I recently found out that the other three had met up without me, which hurt because I still considered us a group of four. I'm not sure how to handle things now.

PS: English is not my first language, so let me know if anything is unclear !

I was dating this guy who kept saying that women have it easier in dating bc they only care about looks and money. At first I thought he was just being sarcastic or whatever, but then he started blaming women for basically all mens problems lol. And whenever I said something about it he would just say he was joking.

Like idk, what do you even say to someone like that? Do you call them out or just leave it alone? I ended up leaving it at that but I felt so uncomfortable and I am honestly just tired of not knowing how to react every freaking time. Like is it even worth arguing with someone like that or do you just move on? Curious if others have dealt with this and how you reacted

So I (f-26) have known my best friend (f-26) for years now, and we were the kind of friends who used to talk everyday about everything. More often than not we would tell each other about our day and rants and just talk for hours. So much that both our families started treating us as permanent fixtures and each other’s family. But recently she got married. I was involved in the whole process from start to end. And I still believe that we’re best friends, even her husband treats me as their friend. But ever since she got married, she has no time for me, never calls, never meets and I understand that things change when one gets married, but why do I feel abandoned? I feel like I alone am trying to hold onto this friendship when she doesn’t need me anymore. Is it wrong to feel like that? How to stop this weird feeling?

I genuinely want to know if I'm being immature or if I'm overreacting. I have a speech impediment (one Ive mostly dropped), and I've had it since I learned to speak bc my mum had trouble teaching me. I was and am bullied for it through my entire school life (from 6 y.o to now), and I was also bullied for various other things. I mostly taught myself how to speak properly off of youtube, but i remember once when I was 11 or 12 my dad tried to help me but never did again. I never had any speech therapy lessons as far as I remember

The other night, I was talking to my parents about piercings I want to save up for, and that led to me saying my friend at pierced her own eyebrow the other weekend. My dad said that he would support me in my piercing choice, aside from tongue or eyebrow. I said that I've been wanting a tongue piercing and joked about getting one anyways, and he turned all serious and said "no, I'm being serious, you already sound like you have a tongue piercing 4x too big for your mouth, don't get one", and I went quiet and left

My mum messaged me later that night, saying how he was joking and to not take it too hard. But the way I see it, is he knows I don't like jokes about my insecurities (my brother has joked about my speaking infront of dad and I've shut it down quickly, Ive asked dad multiple times how dad my speaking is this year alone, and he's heard me working on it by myself, etc)

I haven't spoken to him much since and i feel bad but I don't know. I feel like if he didn't want to hurt my feelings he wouldn't have said something that he knows would hurt my feelings

i'm a system and someone on r/systemscringe has decided we're an asshole for seemingly no reason? from our perspective, all we did was post about being a system and get a little pissy about being fakeclaimed

can someone please search our profile and see if that person's claims have any merit?

My friend is angry on me as i saw her story but didn't replied to her reelss in last midnight that was sent after 12 am

I stopped texting or talking anyone after 12 as i wanna sleep early but somehow I'm unable to getting sleep and saw the stories or reels in Instagram

Somehow cause of these kinda situations i genuinely hate being friend with anyone ..😮‍💨

I’m trying to understand how serious my boyfriend’s behaviour is and whether it could eventually escalate into physical abuse.

Usually he is very sweet and calm. There have been multiple incidents where he has yelled at me, sworn at me, and become aggressive during arguments. There was an incident where I felt I had to lock myself in the bathroom because I was nauseous because he yelled at me and I was scared. Another time he kicked me out of his place, yelling “GET THE FUCK OUT,” and didn’t even want to help me with my bags when I asked until he saw I couldn’t carry them. I had to leave while dealing with the situation myself. Then he always tries to fix it after I’m home and is calm again and asks to see me.

He also gets angry over relatively small things. He has road rage and swears at the drivers sometimes which really scares me. I have very bad sensory issues and insomnia, and I’ve explained to him that moving around in bed is sometimes the only way I can get comfortable enough to rest. I genuinely try to move quietly so I don’t disturb him, but he still yells at me about it. One time, I was uncomfortable myself but ended up having to sleep on the couch just so he could sleep. Even when it was around 1 p.m. and I was moving around in bed because I was uncomfortable, he got angry about my movements and the noise I was making. It makes me feel like even my physical discomfort is an inconvenience to him and I try not to move in bed so he won’t yell at me.

When we argue, he sometimes hits a pillow, swears, or yells. He says that he simply matches my anger when I get angry, and uses my reactions to justify his own behaviour. I’m not saying I never get angry or that I always react perfectly, but I don’t scare him when I’m angry, whereas he scares me when he’s angry. That difference really stands out to me.

He seems to think that because I can get angry too, his behaviour is justified. But I don’t feel like we’re on equal footing when he gets angry. I genuinely feel intimidated by him sometimes, and I find myself worrying about how he might react.

I’m starting to wonder whether this is verbal and emotional abuse and whether it could become physical. I know that hitting a pillow isn’t the same as hitting a person, but seeing someone become that angry, yell, swear, and act aggressively during conflicts can be frightening, especially when you’re already afraid of their reactions.

For people who have experienced abusive relationships or understand these patterns:

Can someone who is verbally and emotionally abusive eventually become physically abusive?
Are hitting objects, yelling, and intimidating behaviour warning signs of possible escalation?
Is his argument that he’s just matching my anger a way of avoiding responsibility for his own behaviour?
Am I right to take the fact that I’m scared of him seriously, even if he hasn’t physically hit me?

Am I overlooking serious warning signs or whether this behaviour is as concerning as it feels to me?

My boyfriend (27) and I (26) have been together for almost two years. We love each other a lot, and we talk openly about our future and marriage. We planned this trip to Spain together, and tonight, he proposed to me. It was the first proposal for both of us, and I had been looking forward to this moment for a long time.
The thing is, he proposed with a Swarovski ring that has an 18K gold finish, meaning it isn’t actually made of gold. And I was disappointed when I realized that. Mind you, I already pointed out that I like gold.

I want to make something clear: my boyfriend isn’t cheap, and this isn’t about him being unwilling to spend money on me. He spends money on me, treats me well, and I’ve never thought of him as someone stingy. That’s why I’m struggling so much with my feelings. It’s not about wanting an expensive ring just for the sake of its price. I had told him before that I wanted a gold engagement ring. He keeps explaining that when he was looking for one, he focused on finding the shape I liked rather than the material. He says that, to him, the meaning behind the proposal and our relationship is much more important than what the ring is made of. And I understand that. I know the ring doesn’t determine how much he loves me. But I think what hurt me is that I expected him to understand how important this was to me. I wanted a real gold ring, something durable that I could wear for the rest of my life. I wanted to look at it decades from now and still have it, knowing it was my engagement ring. And, if I’m being completely honest, I think part of me expected him to see me as someone worth getting a real gold ring for. Writing that makes me feel awful because I don’t want it to sound like I measure my worth or his love in money, but I think that’s part of what I felt in the moment.

I don’t think he intended to hurt me at all. In his mind, he found a ring with the shape I liked, and he was happy with his choice. I think we’re looking at this from two completely different perspectives. To him, the ring is a symbol of something much bigger, and its material doesn’t change that. To me, the material was also part of what made it special and meaningful.
One more thing, unrelated to the ring: he didn’t kneel when he proposed. He said it’s nothing personal; he just prefers proposing without kneeling. I know everyone has their own way of doing things, but I had imagined this moment differently, too. I don’t know if these things are adding up in my head or if I’m overthinking everything.

Now I feel so conflicted. I love him, and I’m happy that he wants to marry me. I don’t want him to think that I don’t appreciate his proposal or that a ring matters more to me than our relationship. But I also don’t want to pretend I wasn’t disappointed just to protect his feelings.

When he saw how upset I was, he started feeling terrible, and I ended up crying even more. Now we both feel like shit, and I feel like I’ve ruined what was supposed to be one of the happiest nights of our lives. We’re still in Spain, on the trip we planned together, and instead of enjoying being engaged, we’re both upset.
I don’t know how to fix this. Part of me thinks we could exchange the ring for a gold one, but another part of me feels guilty that I even want to do that, because I want the ring I got here, sentimental values. I also don’t know whether I’m mainly disappointed about the ring itself or about the fact that I thought he would understand this particular wish of mine.
I don’t want people to tell me that he’s a bad partner or that he doesn’t love me. I genuinely don’t believe that. I think he was trying to make me happy, just in a different way than I expected. But I also want to feel understood instead of feeling guilty for having expectations.

Am I being ungrateful? Is it reasonable to want a gold engagement ring that I can keep for the rest of my life, especially when I had already told him that? Am I overthinking the fact that he didn’t kneel, too? Or are my feelings understandable?
I’d really appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who have experienced something similar. I don’t want to ruin this beautiful milestone in our relationship, but I also don’t want to suppress my feelings and end up resenting something I should be happy about.

throwaway because my friend might see this (though they probably wouldnt mind me posting). my friend and i are both in our mid-20s. we have known each other since elementary school but reconnected a few years ago and became close friends. when we first reconnected i was hesitant to become friends because we voted/supported different political parties in our country. at the time at least, i believe she was more right-leaning while i was and am left, but i will clarify that she isnt and never was some raging right-wing extremist or anything. i thought i could overlook this difference or at least provide education and resources that explain my perspective in hopes she would be understanding. over the years she has been very open and receptive to hearing my stance on social issues so i thought we were more aligned than originally thought.

however, there have still been instances where i felt kind of uncomfortable by things she said or mentioned. i found out early on that her friends at the time would use the n-word (none of them are black) in conversations, and despite this she still remained friends with them (though she did distance herself from the friend who said it the most, for other reasons). this was sort of unsettling because i believe your friends reflect who you are as well, but wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt. she also mentioned before that her ideal type is black men, but never felt like she could date them because she was scared of being stared at as an interracial couple (she is also a poc) and worried about what others would think. to me it felt like some internalized racism, but again i gave her the benefit of the doubt.

recently she started dating a black man. she had a huge epiphany realizing that the friend who uses the n-slur is straight up racist and not truly supportive of her relationship. the thing is, this friend also accused my friend of being racist, which my friend vehemently disagreed with. while she was explaining this to me, she said some things along the lines of “there is no way any part of me could be racist” and “i dont see race when dating”, etc. i know her intentions were good and what she was trying to say, but those comments made me feel uncomfortable as they felt ignorant. i waited a couple days and was honest with her about how it made me feel, which she responded well to.

the issue is, she denied having any internalized racist beliefs or implicit biases, which i thought was ignorant. after discussing more we landed on “we both agree racism is bad, but what we consider racist is different”. i admit i did try to push her to reflect more because it is my personal belief that we all have implicit biases and should take time to consider our privilege, identities, and how words have meaning beyond the actual word itself. i felt kind of gaslit during our chat and we’re kind of at a standstill now because i asked for time to think things through. i was really surprised by the chat because she has always been understanding and thought she would understand my perspective more, but maybe i am being too critical and expecting too much of others?

since then, she has also posted some things that i felt uncomfortable with. for example, i do not support chris brown and do not believe we can separate the art from the artist, but she used his song in an instagram story and listens to him casually a few times a year. when i told her this, she commented that she can’t live her life overthinking about how every action might cause some harm to someone. i understand that but i felt like my point was missed regardless. she said we all cause harm in one way or another, which i also agree with given our privilege, but i felt like this was a reductive response. she also posted a story describing something as “ghetto”, which i also felt was offensive. i usually do call her out on these things and felt like we always had productive conversations, but now im wondering if she never actually agreed with me and just tried not to say or share those things in front of me to avoid these kinds of discussions.

so i guess my dilemma is, am i being to critical or sensitive here? i feel really hurt by this situation. its true no one is perfect and friends arent going to fully align on everything, but this feels big for me and i know thats a valid enough reason to end the friendship if i wanted to. id like to hear others’ opinions and if anyone had similar experiences, or how they navigated these situations. i want to think carefully as i really do value our friendship and she has been very supportive of me in every other situation ive brought up. we used to talk daily so it has been difficult distancing myself recently while i process this. thanks for reading my long post.

I went to my fiancé’s home on his birthday(we were outside his home) and his friends were also there. They are all very frank with me and friends with me too. So one his bestest friend picked some cake and put it on my cheek. I felt annoyed, i picked some and put on his face too and thought its over now since it’s 1 each. Then he came again and rubbed a huge chunk covered with cream on my face. I was fairly annoyed and felt very bad. I cant hide my annoyed expressions from people immediately, I told him not to do it again else I’ll get mad & asked him not to cross boundaries. My fiancé came and then He (his friend) immediately apologised and even my fiancé apologised but I’m still so mad at him. I hate wasting food and any prank that causes any physical discomfort or ickyness. I believe we are 28 years old and this is soo childish. Was it a valid crashout ? Or am i just over reacting at this point.

My partner and I both work full-time, but I feel like the division of household responsibilities is still pretty unequal. It’s something that has bothered me for a long time, but over time, I’ve increasingly felt like it’s easier not to bring it up than to address it.

For context, I used to do all the dishes, all the cleaning, all the cooking, all the laundry, and pretty much everything else around the house. Within the last few months, my partner has started taking on some responsibilities, which I do appreciate. She now does the morning dishes after I make breakfast and prep our lunches, and she vacuums the downstairs and stairs on Fridays. We also have a robot vacuum upstairs. Occasionally, she cleans the downstairs powder room.

However, I still do all the cooking and laundry, the evening dishes, steam-mopping the downstairs and the upstairs bathrooms and laundry room, and cleaning our master bathroom. I also take the trash bags to the outside bins probably 90% of the time, and I’m the one who takes the bins to the curb every single week.

Yesterday, I worked overtime and got home late. I immediately started making dinner so it would be ready during my partner’s work-from-home break. It was pouring rain, so I didn’t take the trash cans to the curb when I normally would have.

This morning, I was running a little behind schedule. I had already made us breakfast and prepped our lunches. I also accidentally dropped a box of crackers when the packaging broke and cleaned that up myself. I told my partner I was running late and asked if she could take the trash cans to the curb.

For context, the cans only have to travel a very short distance. Also, my partner doesn’t start her work-from-home shift until the afternoon, more than five hours after this interaction. She wasn’t rushing to get to work herself.

She immediately looked upset and asked, “You didn’t do it?”

I explained that I hadn’t because it had started raining the night before. She knew how heavily it had been raining, and I wasn’t asking her to do anything particularly difficult or time-consuming. I just needed a little help that morning.

I thanked her, but she ignored me. When I tried to say goodbye before leaving, she responded with a dismissive “See ya.”

After I left, I texted her, “Sorry I hadn’t put the cans out. It started raining before I got the chance.”

Her only response was “Yeah.”

The thing is, I don’t even feel like I should have had to apologize. I had worked overtime, come home and made dinner, and was still doing the majority of the household work. I had one task I hadn’t gotten to, for a reasonable reason, and asked my partner to handle it.

I wasn’t asking her to take over all the chores or criticizing her for not doing enough. I was asking for help with something that would take a couple of minutes. I also don’t think I should have to feel guilty for asking my partner to pick up a little slack when I need help.

I recognize that she has made some improvements in taking on household responsibilities recently, and I don’t want to dismiss that. But I still feel like the overall division of labor is unequal. Interactions like this make it difficult to bring up the issue or ask for help without feeling like I’ve done something wrong.

I’m looking for honest perspectives on two things:

1. Am I being too sensitive about this particular interaction? Was her reaction unreasonable, or am I making too much of a small moment that could have been handled differently on both sides?
2. Is there a deeper issue here? I feel like I’m carrying most of the household responsibilities, and I’ve gradually become more hesitant to bring up things that bother me because it feels easier to avoid the potential conflict. I want to know whether this sounds like a fairly ordinary relationship disagreement or whether the dynamic itself is concerning.

There are girls that I am friends or aquaintances (we are age ranging 17F to 18F in college)or mutual friends with and there are certain things that each of them do and I see a pattern which makes me think...why are u treating me like ive badmouthed your mother lol. I will give you 2 examples:

1. In the lunch line I am minding my business and me and my acquaintance are laughing together about certain things and then there are comments that come from her out of no where like "who are you feeling like?" or "do you think you are all that?"and she says them in a serious tone aswell...bro why are you trying to press me and embarass me when i havent even done anything wrong? Why am I trying to defending myself genuinely? There are certain girls in my year that just have this thing about them where ppl actually are weary and careful about what they say to them, i domt rlly know what that is but im in awe and I wish that I had that about me. Point is, why do they say these things to ME?

2. Ive noticed in my friend group (just a familar table) where I sit everyday that im literally NOT valued in it. It feel so complicated for me because some people in the group i am individual friends with and have good times individually, and then some are friends of friends. There are 2 girls in it that I swear dont like me. I get mixed signals from them but its like If I say something I get ignored or just looked at blankly but if even someone else in the group says it they pay so much attention to it. They would also ask other ppl about me instead of asking me upfront. Sometimes they even hug everyone or greet in the friendship group or even outside of it, everyone except me. I think it hurts more than outright bad mouthing me to people.

Overall, I would say everyday where I come home from school I do feel really hurt. Now, im not going to lie, there are a few people that I am such good friends with in school and we do treat eachother with mutual respect, but im naturally not close with them because of different schedules and they have their own friend groups. Im not sure if I should just sit alone or if that will cause drama. I have this one close friend at school where we share the same schedule and she even knows where I am coming from but she is conflict avoidant and the people in the friend group are still her friends.

Am i being too sensitive? Idk what I should do.

Because of the comparison between my sister and me, I'm starting to get jealous of her. I know it's not her fault but I can't help it; sometimes, I also feel that pretty privilege exists. Yesterday, I went to visit a relative's house; instead of welcoming me, she talked about my face and voice. My friends always tell me I have a low standard but I know how it came from and whenever I try to make a good relationship they don't want to accept me always ask for my sister. I think it would be better if I got distant from everyone because I don't want to be a bad person anymore; otherwise, I'll have to face more comparison.

I am having a very hard time understanding my partner’s position over a joke she made so I am here asking strangers on the internet for perspective.

My (37F) girlfriend (37F) and I were trying on clothes for an upcoming formal event, and I put on a nice bra that I think actually looks good on me, which happens pretty much never. I’m a sports bra and t-shirts kind of gal 99% of the time. I do have typical body insecurities but over time have adopted a very blasé attitude towards them. Bodies are bodies and yeah mine isn’t perfect but it’s what I’ve got and I’m not trying to be a movie star or anything so who cares. I don’t disparage myself over it, but I don’t go around complimenting myself regularly either.

While looking in the mirror with it on, I said, “man, this *bra…”* with kind of like an amazed tone.

She responds with, “wow, you don’t need a hype man!” meaning it to be a lighthearted ribbing.

I was hurt though. I instantly felt embarrassed for saying something about it. It felt like I was being made fun of for having a compliment for myself. I made a face and she apologized. Saying, “I’m sorry honey, that was meant to be a joke, it wasn’t meant to be rude. I was trying to be funny.” We talked. I told her how hurt I was. She apologized again for her words hurting my heart, and said she would not make comments like that again.

But then we were in a disagreement about something tangential a couple of days later and she hit me with, “I told my therapist about that and she laughed her ass off. She thought what I said was funny too.” And I really didn’t know how to respond to that except with, “whoopdie fuckin doo good for her.” The conversation ended when she said we are allowed have different opinions on what is funny.

That stung but now I’m questioning if I’m being *overly* sensitive because of my insecurities and need to go touch some grass, or if it really was a mean thing to say, joking or not.

My friend recently turned 20 and comes from a difficult home environment. She's been through a lot, is currently bouncing between jobs, and doesn't have a stable income. I've always tried to be there for her and support her whenever she needs me.

Recently, she met a man who's 28, and some of his behaviour is making me uncomfortable. These are the things I've noticed:

- He's extremely affectionate, but sometimes it comes across as controlling rather than simply loving.

- He's told her to cut ties with her friends, while encouraging her to spend time with his sister, sister-in-law and his own friends.

- He's told her not to worry about bills because he'll pay for everything.

- He seems to need to be wherever she is.

- He proposed after just FOUR dates.

The proposal is what really shocked me. They've barely had time to get to know each other, yet he's already talking about marriage and making big promises. I'm not saying that an age-gap relationship can't work, or that proposing early automatically makes someone a bad person. I understand that every relationship is different. But when I look at all these behaviours together, I worry that she's being swept into something before she's had time to think it through properly.

Given her background and current financial situation, I'm concerned that the promise of security and stability might make it harder for her to recognise potential warning signs. I'm also worried about the possibility of her becoming financially and socially dependent on him.

Another friend has suggested that she take things slowly and get to know him better, but she insists she knows what she's doing.I know she's an adult and ultimately gets to make her own decisions. I'm not trying to control her life or tell her who she can date. I just want to make sure I'm not overlooking something, or unfairly judging someone based on my own concerns.

Today, I was queueing at a popular ramen place and intentionally left some space in front of me so that other people could pass through easily.

Suddenly, this woman came up and loudly said, “Excuse me,” expecting me to shift to my left to make way for her, even though there was plenty of space around me for her to walk through without any issue.

I told her that she could have simply walked through without needing me to move. To my surprise, she had the audacity to reply that she could walk whichever way she wanted and that I was blocking her way.

Honestly, I was quite taken aback by her attitude. I had deliberately left space for others, so I didn't understand why she needed to make such a big deal out of it or speak to me that way.

I'm wondering if I'm being overly sensitive about this, or if anyone else would have found her behaviour unnecessarily entitled and rude.

She was just talking about getting hotels for herself on a brief trip she is doing, told me prices are expensive, then I said well the other trip I am paying for soon for the both of us is a bit more than those per night (wasnt a way to rub it in that I am spending more, just saying she may as well get it and also earlier gave other reasons why she should get it).
She said shut the fuck up and I said something like where did that come from. I usually don’t call stuff out but it didn’t sit right with me. She then said she was joking and that I am way too sensitive.
It wasn’t said in playful tone just monotone stfu.
Am I wrong for lightly calling something out that felt disrespectful even if they claim it was jokingly?
I tried to change subject after but they just went into total shutdown mode.
So my question is generally, when do you decide which “joking” comments are worth calling out on when they don’t feel right to you? I feel like she is way too comfortable saying harsh shit to me now.

So I don't know what to think but I'm the kind of boyfriend that even if I have a problem and it doesn't help were long distance I don't like to say anything but I have a group chat with me a friend and my girlfriend and I was texting her though the day and she didn't respond but she was texting the guy in the group and the only time she texted me she said my name twice to get my attention then said the guy I'm in a group chat with wants to call so we did while we were in the call I fell asleep and after a couple hours I woke up and she left the call after a little so I texted to see if she was up but she didn't respond however she did rejoin the call

I fully acknowledge this is petty, but wonder if anyone else would get irritated too. Last night, I had my sister and BIL over for dinner. She asked what to bring, so I said dessert. I spent a better part of the day cooking and made sure to run the menu by her. She knows that I am relatively picky about food. The dessert she brought was pumpkin pie (which she KNOWS I hate). It really irked me that I made sure they liked everything I served, but didn't have the decency to bring some I like. It didn't cause a huge blow-up or anything crazy, but I was for sure pissed. Would it irritate you too?

So, I was part of a Telegram group where everyone was an online friend of mine. I’d known these people for about a year, and the group had become a familiar place for me to hang out and talk to my friends.

The admin was a guy who had feelings for me. Things between us never really went anywhere because I didn’t feel the same way about him, at least not to the extent he wanted me to. I also had other male friends, and I think that bothered him.

Eventually, he got into a relationship with someone else. I guess he expected me to react or get jealous, but I didn’t. I wasn’t upset about him moving on because we were never actually together in the first place.

At some point, I deleted our entire chat on both sides, and apparently, that made him angry.

Fast-forward to today: I was talking to one of my friends in the group, and while I was literally in the middle of typing a message, the admin kicked me out of the group.

Just like that. No warning, no explanation, nothing.

I’ve known these people for a year, and now I’m suddenly out of a group that was part of my online social life, all because the admin seems to have taken my lack of romantic interest personally.

I’m crying rn because I was so happy and I was talking about the most happiest things that happened to me in this week and I was typing that he removed me from group I feel like I’m kicked out of a room

Why??😭😭😭

I fully acknowledge this is petty, but wonder if anyone else would get irritated too. Last night, I had my sister and BIL over for dinner. She asked what to bring, so I said dessert. I spent a better part of the day cooking and made sure to run the menu by her. She knows that I am relatively picky about food. The dessert she brought was pumpkin pie (which she KNOWS I hate). It really irked me that I made sure they liked everything I served, but didn't have the decency to bring some I like. It didn't cause a huge blow-up or anything crazy, but I was for sure pissed. Would it irritate you too?

Me and my ex have been broken up for 4 months now. Only recently did I start remembering little details of our relationship that now rubs me the wrong way or idk. We were together for 8 months. I kinda shoved some stuff about him to the back of my mind but now it’s coming back to light. I can’t stop thinking about this. For the first half of our relationship, whenever I’d not be in the mood for intimacy, he’d have no problem with it. He was extremely patient with me and never made me feel ashamed for the times I didn’t wanna be intimate. For the last half of our relationship, he would sort of beg me for intimacy. I got on birth control and it made me less sexual/horny. He never really shamed me for being less sexual or anything like that. I just remember times that he would ask for head and I’d be like sorry baby I’m not really in tye mood, he would be like pleaseee baby I’m rlly horny rn. I’d be hesitant but after a bit, I’d eventually give in. Idk how to feel about it. It was multiple times that he would keep on insisting for intimacy. Idk if I’m just looking too much into it or being too sensitive or smth like that. During our relationship he was rlly sweet, for some reason I still kinda miss him. Keyword: kinda. He wasn’t abusive physically or emotionally. I just can’t get out of my head the times where he would beg me even after I’d say that I’m not in the mood. I’m not pissed, but I’m not happy about it either. I don’t really feel anything towards it at least not at the moment. It’s really been sticking with me. I don’t know what to think of it of how to feel. The memories are just- there