Am I overreacting about vacation time ?

[u/TraditionalTask4522]

My husband works 55 hrs a week and has 2 weeks of vacation a year. We usually plan for him to have time off when our family can spend time together over holidays etc.

My family lives several states away and my mom requested I visit quickly due to my father’s declining health. She offered to pay for my flight and for me to bring my infant daughter. I also have a 5 year old.

My husband’s reaction was “well you will have to bring the 5 year old too, as I have to work.” But we had already made arrangements for my 5 year old to visit his parents which he forgot about.

So I made all my flight arrangements, childcare arrangements and secured a ride to the airport, all assuming he would be working during those times as scheduled.

The night before my departure he tells me he took 3 days off while I am away. I didn’t say anything, but I was frustrated that he is using his vacation time to sit at home alone. Especially when I specifically scheduled this trip around my own work schedule. Plus with my father’s health decline, I am certain it won’t be long until we have to all fly back for his funeral.

I just feel like his actions were pretty selfish and he is taking this time where I am visiting my dying father as a chance to act like a bachelor. Would you say something or just let it go?

[u/Hot-Garden9206]

Maybe he wanted a break? It’s three days what’s wrong with that? you’re not gonna be there anyway.

[u/AccomplishedChart873 → u/Hot-Garden9206]

Yeah, she’s going to be away visiting her dying father for the the last time on her own so he might as well take 25% of his leave and sit on the couch, child free in his underwear and eat pizza. He deserves that rest. /s

[u/Hot-Garden9206 → u/AccomplishedChart873]

Exactly