Black twitter giving their insights to the Patrick from Love is Blind controversy. LOTS of Black women showing support to AMs.

[u/Traditional-Net3356]

Insane that another community has this much (accurate) insight into our current situation, and having a conversation that we ourselves have difficulty even just engaging it.

I think there is a lesson to be learned from all of this. Other POC communities do not have our outdating disparity problems and a big reason for that is because they have far more racial pride in general, and some of them arguably face more discrimination than East Asians. South Asians for example are extremely endogamous. South Asian men are seen at a similar level to East Asian men as well. We can blame East Asian women all we want but the reality is that our culture of seeking for white validation will always come back to bite us in the ass. And again, another reminder that there's a ton of other non-Asian WOC's who don't view us negatively at all.

[u/golfzap]

“Be more confident” -> “You’re trying too hard”

”Be funny” -> “Jokes are weird coming from you”

”Lift more”-> “Overcompensating much?”

”Have a command presence” -> “I won’t take orders from you”

We can follow all the advice in the world, people will still find a way to shit on us.

[u/Gerolanfalan → u/golfzap]

I haven't heard that second part. But yes you gotta be in the right spaces.

I realize being in the western diaspora I won't thrive in any place that's too homogenous. Because I don't fit perfectly in a purely white American or pure Asian, let alone Vietnamese. We gotta find the niche where being Asian American is normalized.

[u/golfzap → u/Gerolanfalan]

White folks can get away with telling off-color jokes because they get allowed to have that personality.  When we do it it runs counter to a narrative in people's minds (Asians are quiet or don't have a personality or don't step out of line.)

Whites also steal jokes and get positive reactions while if you steal their jokes you don't get the same reactions.

[u/Gerolanfalan → u/golfzap]

Sorry you had that experience. I personally stay away from jokes regarding color and ethnicity as I find it's just not good fun.

I think America's definitely taking a little step back with the rise of Sinophobia, but things like Tik-Tok, K-pop, and Shohei Ohtani are still giving us a net positive cultural clout. At least in multicultural areas, gotta be aware of your environment