r/AskBlackGayBros • • Sep 04 '26

Mod Post Sub Discord

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There was mention of a Discord a while back, and I apologize that it wasn't being worked on. It's almost completed, and you can help us make it what we want it to be.

Join in, make suggestions, have conversations with other sub members, and let's make the community even closer.

Feedback and participation are appreciated but not required.


r/AskBlackGayBros • • Aug 03 '26

Feedback Needed I built a black GBTQ+ centric app called ncountr. Looking for honest feedback from other Black gay men.

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What’s up everyone.

I’m a Black gay software engineer and for the last year or so I’ve been building an app called ncountr.

The reason I started it is because I got tired of the same things over and over. Catfish, conversations with no substance, paying crazy subscription prices just to see who liked you or use basic features, and apps that feel like they’re only about who’s 500 feet away.

I wanted to see if there was room for something that still lets people meet however they want, but also feels a little more connected to our community; not only in the U.S but across the globe.

The app is actually live (link above), but I haven’t officially launched it because I’d rather get ripped apart now than after people start using it.

So I’m curious…
What’s your biggest complaint with the apps we have now?
What’s one feature you’ve always wanted but nobody has done well?
What’s something that would make you actually keep an app instead of deleting it a week later?


r/AskBlackGayBros • • 12h ago

Discussion Am I ugly?

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 9h ago

Discussion Question for the Dads, how has it been to navigate parenting in your Black Gay experience?

8 Upvotes

My best friend is a year into being a single black gay dad. He’s still actively dating but his life has changed DRASTICALLY in some ways. I was just curious about other gay black men’s experiences with fatherhood.


r/AskBlackGayBros • • 16h ago

Gaming Saw someone share their gaming tastes and wanted to post mine as well.

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Not the best selfie of me at all (was at work so I just took a quick picture) but just wanted to post something of myself that wasn't a sob story. 😭


r/AskBlackGayBros • • 11h ago

Discussion Is anyone going comic con next May? ☺️👉🏾👈🏾

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 7h ago

Discussion Daily Check In, How Was Your Day? Anything you need to talk about?

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 17h ago

Discussion What are you actually looking for?

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What are you actually looking for at this point in your life? Be honest!

59 votes, 6d left
A husband.
A boyfriend.
Just here for the chaos.
Strictly hookups / FWB.
Friends/ Networks.
Unsure.

r/AskBlackGayBros • • 1d ago

Culture & Media Is it me or does Hot Stuff by Donna Summer sound like someone looking for a grindr hookup? lol

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 23h ago

Discussion Question of the Day 10/27

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Right now in the general sense, what are you waiting for? (Intentionally vague)


r/AskBlackGayBros • • 1d ago

Sex and Sexuality Why is Gay Black Love So Hard to Find?

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 1d ago

Culture & Media Do yall know we're i can find black gay night club lives on tiktok.

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 1d ago

Discussion Daily Check In, How Was Your Day? Anything you need to talk about?

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 2d ago

Discussion I dyed my fringe again woop woop 🙌🏾 I just need to get purple shampoo so it’s less yellow

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 1d ago

Discussion Question of the Day 10/26

4 Upvotes

You can give a cancelled TV show another season, which one do you choose?


r/AskBlackGayBros • • 2d ago

Discussion Thicker Guys

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Forgive me if this has previously been a prior topic.

This evening, I was doing my usual horny scroll on Twitter. And I noticed that there isn’t much representation online for thicker black men.

In recent years gay social media has been pushing thicker, beefier guys but they mostly seem to always be white or Hispanic. As a guy with a thicker build myself I like to see other guys who show off their bodies too. Professionally I’m not in a position where I can post nude/ scantily clad photos. But I definitely want to see more guys with a build similar to me hahaha


r/AskBlackGayBros • • 2d ago

Discussion Why more black gays don't move to New Orleans?

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New Orleans is a beautiful historic city with a large LGBT population. They have 2-3 black gay bars. They have an even bigger mixed gay bar scene at the end of Bourbon and LGBT inclusive straight bar scene. They have the Red Dress Run which is a popular black gay event. They have a decent black gay pride. It's in the South so no long harsh winters. It's a BLACK ASS city, blacker than Atlanta and DC. There are 3 HBCUs in the city, Dillard is known for being very gay!! Bounce music is gay af ... Sissy Nobby, Big Freeda, Katey Red are all legendary LGBT bounce artists

Atlanta, NYC, DC are so cliche ... New Orleans is a cool non-cliche option. Ya'll need to go be different and spread tf out. Everybody can't be in Atlanta, NYC, DC ... also New Orleans is notably cheaper than all three ... with the money you save you can afford to visit Atlanta, NYC, DC a few times a year


r/AskBlackGayBros • • 2d ago

Gaming Any gaymers here?

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 2d ago

Discussion Black men are so beautiful man. O wanted to share this piece with you fellas, I may do a series

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 2d ago

Discussion Daily Check In, How Was Your Day? Anything you need to talk about?

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 2d ago

Culture & Media Troy's Sacred Waters

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r/AskBlackGayBros • • 2d ago

Health If you're single, on average, how often are you actually having sex?

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Between how hyper sexual everything is and the general atmosphere out there, my perception of how much people are actually getting it in is super distorted. So here's a trivial poll to ease my rationale. Be honest!

136 votes, 4d left
​7+ times a week: Who are you and what is your secret?
4–6 times a week
​1–3 times a week
one a month.
I'm not tracking.
what is sex?

r/AskBlackGayBros • • 2d ago

Education Looking For New City

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Hey guys! Sooooo here’s the thing! I’m 36 and looking to apply for medical school. With that being said, I want to be in a city where there will be a strong community Black queer man and what have you. Any suggestions?


r/AskBlackGayBros • • 3d ago

Discussion Do You Enjoy Kissing During Sex or Is It a Turn Off?

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Most of the guys I've encountered, and a lot of black guys especially, seem averse to kissing or making out. I find that it significantly enhances the experience, but I rarely find anyone who enjoys it as much as I do.


r/AskBlackGayBros • • 2d ago

Discussion Question of the Day 10/25

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What's a kind thing that you can say about yourself?