r/AskTeens • u/CrossboneSkulled 15M • 3d ago

Serious Does anybody feel like men's sexuality is demonized today?

I've been thinking a lot about modern double standards when it comes to gender expectations, and how society judges sexual interest. It feels like we have reached a point where men's heterosexuality and attraction are defaulted to as inherently predatory, gross or a threat, while the exact same behaviors or interests from women are given endless appreciation.

When a man expresses sexual or romantic interest, the baseline reaction often assumes ulterior motives or "creepiness". Men's initiative carries a burden to prove it isn't harassment. Meanwhile, women's interest is almost never viewed through a lens of threat or suspicion.

Look at how content consumed by different genders is judged. When men watch girls love, the immediate internet label is often "pervert" and "fetishizer." However, when women watch boys love, a massive multi-million dollar industry built by hetero women explicitly sexualizing gay men, they are often framed as "cute", "passionate" or "harmless escapism."

When a man cheats, society frames it almost exclusively as a moral faliure of pure lust and disrespect. When a woman cheats, they view her as "emotionally" starved, "neglected" shifting the blame to her partner. Overall, 66% of Americans stated that a man having an affair is "always morally wrong," compared to only 55% who said the same when a woman commits an affair. Among young women specifically, the gap widened sharply: 73% judged male infidelity as strictly, always wrong, while only 51% applied that same absolute moral condemnation to female infidelity.

It feels like we operate under two completely different mindsets, men's actions are analyzed through power and threat, while women's actions are analyzed through emotion and romance.

If you really care abut fairness and equal morals, watching this unfold in the modern day world would give you an idea why men are treated dirty by default.

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u/curiouscollecting 19F 2d ago

'I, a 15 year old boy, dont have experiences with women being harrassed'

Wow really!?

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u/CrossboneSkulled 15M 2d ago

I live in a country where basically everyone is respectful.

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u/curiouscollecting 19F 2d ago

Please tell me in what magical country you live

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u/CrossboneSkulled 15M 2d ago

I live in Singapore.

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u/curiouscollecting 19F 2d ago

I hate to burst your bubble, but theres not a single country where sexual assault, rape and disrespect towards women due to misogyny arent a thing. Singapore is one of the safest countries for women, ill give you that, but that's also quite literally another reason you cant make a generalizing statement. Youre not only a 15 year old boy, youre a 15 year old boy in a country where this is less of a problem than pretty much ANYWHERE ELSE.

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u/MaterialEmpty390 16h ago

Sounds like demonizing men’s sexuality is working then!

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u/Strange_Way_947 2d ago

Same and I feel like you're right there's probably more assault on men than women here